This might sound weird... (sex/relationship related)

[ChaoticKraus]

I'm 18 (19 in a few months), only had one relationship in my life, 3 years ago. Nothing of sexual nature happened, but it ended rather poorly and i haven't had any relationships since. Just some background.

I've always been kind of laid-back when it comes to women and sexuality. The "super-horny teen boy" stereotype never really applied to me. I don't mean i didnt like to look at girls or have sexual thoughts, i did both but i never was as obsessed with it as the guys around me.

But now i feel obsessed with having a girlfriend/getting laid. I think about it constantly, which is kind of weird since its never been the first thing on my mind. I have not forced myself into this mindset, just a few months back i could hardly give less of a fuck about my relationship status/virginity.

I suspect it might be connected to me getting a job, growing as a person and just generally feeling like an adult being. But i never heard of any young adult/late teens sex drive increase. Have anyone else experienced and/or heard of something similar? It all seems very strange to me.

Oh, and i'm not desperate or anything. I'm kind of excellent socially and look okay, one or the other is bound to happen eventually if i could just find some attractive ladies that don't have boyfriends. (Bonus Question: How the fuck do i find single ladies? All i ever encounter is either comitted or non-attractive.)

 

[RedMore Trout]

A forum on the internnet about video probably isn't the best place to ask for advice of this kind. But, stop worrying and obessing about it. Just make a point to hang out with friends (outside your house obviously) and it will happen on it's own.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

You want to be with someone. That's a good thing. Don't spend your time worrying about it over the internet, focus your energies on actually meeting someone. Put yourself out there. Go to some bars (wait, if you're from the US you're still too young I think?) and parties. music festivals are also a great place to meet people, as you know that you are going to share at least one interest with everyone you meet. Hell, so long as you're careful about who you talk to online dating is also an option.

In short. Don't stress. The fact that you wan't to get back in the game is a good thing, now go out there and start playing.

Now if we're done here I have to go. My planet needs me. *swoosh

 

[chaosyoshimage]

I feel this way too, and I'm 19, but I also have nothing going on like at all, so, yeah. And I'm looking for a guy and not a girl. Oh, also, middle of nowhere...

 

[KoalaKid]

I feel this way too, and I'm 19, but I also have nothing going on like at all, so, yeah. And I'm looking for a guy and not a girl. Oh, also, middle of nowhere...

He's a guy maybe the two of you could meet up and kiss a little?

 

[chaosyoshimage]

I feel this way too, and I'm 19, but I also have nothing going on like at all, so, yeah. And I'm looking for a guy and not a girl. Oh, also, middle of nowhere...

He's a guy maybe the two of you could meet up and kiss a little?

You see he is looking for girls, I happen not to be one.

 

[SilentCom]

I have experienced the same thing. It'll fade away.

 

[Hollock]

I am roughly the same age and the same thing is going on with me. I'm really fucking sick of summer, want to go to college and meet new people now.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

I'm 18 (19 in a few months), only had one relationship in my life, 3 years ago. Nothing of sexual nature happened, but it ended rather poorly and i haven't had any relationships since. Just some background.

I've always been kind of laid-back when it comes to women and sexuality. The "super-horny teen boy" stereotype never really applied to me. I don't mean i didnt like to look at girls or have sexual thoughts, i did both but i never was as obsessed with it as the guys around me.

But now i feel obsessed with having a girlfriend/getting laid. I think about it constantly, which is kind of weird since its never been the first thing on my mind. I have not forced myself into this mindset, just a few months back i could hardly give less of a fuck about my relationship status/virginity.

I suspect it might be connected to me getting a job, growing as a person and just generally feeling like an adult being. But i never heard of any young adult/late teens sex drive increase. Have anyone else experienced and/or heard of something similar? It all seems very strange to me.

Oh, and i'm not desperate or anything. I'm kind of excellent socially and look okay, one or the other is bound to happen eventually if i could just find some attractive ladies that don't have boyfriends. (Bonus Question: How the fuck do i find single ladies? All i ever encounter is either comitted or non-attractive.)

This is how I used to be in my 18-19s as well. After I escaped the hellhole that was my high school and came out of my shell, I desperately started feeling the need to have a girlfriend. ...and looking back, I want to smack myself, because I just wanted one, not really caring much for who. Anyway, I was in your boat. Only found cool girls in relationships. None free. A crush of mine turned out to be engaged, even >_<.

...Now I'm 23. At around 21-22, I started to mellow out and decided not to get worked up. I kept my eyes open, and just let love come to me.

...And it did. Been in a great relationship for the last 6 months, and although things are still totally innocent, I don't mind. I like it like that.

BASICALLY: Don't worry about it. Just focus on being you. Don't go all crazy over trying to pick up a girl. They can SMELL desperation. Just do your own thing, and keep your eyes open, and you'll find someone.

 

[KoalaKid]

I feel this way too, and I'm 19, but I also have nothing going on like at all, so, yeah. And I'm looking for a guy and not a girl. Oh, also, middle of nowhere...

He's a guy maybe the two of you could meet up and kiss a little?

You see he is looking for girls, I happen not to be one.

Oh, that does throw a wrench into my otherwise prefect plan. Still we can work this out. Maybe what you both need is a loyal wingman that will let slip in public situations how handsome your penises are. For example: you walk into a bar together, and you casually say to a group of attractive young women, "Hey ladies, I'm here with my friend over there by the pool table (you point to ChaoticKraus) yeah, you should see the penis on that guy, fucking handsome!" Meanwhile ChaoticKraus will be working the gents. He could say something like, "you guys know what this pool stick reminds me of" "what", says the other gentlemen at the pool table." "that guys sweet penis", he replies. "It's fucking handsome, and it smells good too!" Before long you'll be up to your titties in potential mates, all thanks to yours truly and a little teamwork.

 

[Watchmacallit]

I'm 18 (19 in a few months), only had one relationship in my life, 3 years ago. Nothing of sexual nature happened, but it ended rather poorly and i haven't had any relationships since. Just some background.

I've always been kind of laid-back when it comes to women and sexuality. The "super-horny teen boy" stereotype never really applied to me. I don't mean i didnt like to look at girls or have sexual thoughts, i did both but i never was as obsessed with it as the guys around me.

But now i feel obsessed with having a girlfriend/getting laid. I think about it constantly, which is kind of weird since its never been the first thing on my mind. I have not forced myself into this mindset, just a few months back i could hardly give less of a fuck about my relationship status/virginity.

I suspect it might be connected to me getting a job, growing as a person and just generally feeling like an adult being. But i never heard of any young adult/late teens sex drive increase. Have anyone else experienced and/or heard of something similar? It all seems very strange to me.

Oh, and i'm not desperate or anything. I'm kind of excellent socially and look okay, one or the other is bound to happen eventually if i could just find some attractive ladies that don't have boyfriends. (Bonus Question: How the fuck do i find single ladies? All i ever encounter is either comitted or non-attractive.)

Been at Uni for 2 years and I swear to God every girl seems to be taken >_>

I never really cared about my virginity either, hell, none of my mates new i had lost mine for 2 years. Trust me though, once you have it and it stops happening you want it more =/

 

[Loop Stricken]

I'm 18 (19 in a few months), only had one relationship in my life, 3 years ago. Nothing of sexual nature happened, but it ended rather poorly and i haven't had any relationships since. Just some background.

I'm 26.
Cry some more.

 

[ChaoticKraus]

Just make a point to hang out with friends (outside your house obviously) and it will happen on it's own.

Don't spend your time worrying about it over the internet, focus your energies on actually meeting someone. Put yourself out there. Go to some bars (wait, if you're from the US you're still too young I think?) and parties. music festivals are also a great place to meet people, as you know that you are going to share at least one interest with everyone you meet. Hell, so long as you're careful about who you talk to online dating is also an option.

BASICALLY: Don't worry about it. Just focus on being you. Don't go all crazy over trying to pick up a girl. They can SMELL desperation. Just do your own thing, and keep your eyes open, and you'll find someone.

Don't worry about me. I spent last weekend at the biggest music festival in Sweden and have partied been to houseparties/bars literally every other friday. Not just because i'm on the lookout for girls, i genuinely enjoy partying. I will meet someone, just a little suprised over the strength and sudden inset of the feeling. I was just checking to see if someone else experienced something similar.

I am roughly the same age and the same thing is going on with me. I'm really fucking sick of summer, want to go to college and meet new people now.

I have experienced the same thing. It'll fade away.

I feel this way too, and I'm 19, but I also have nothing going on like at all, so, yeah. And I'm looking for a guy and not a girl. Oh, also, middle of nowhere...

Cheers guys, nice to know its just not my head fucking around with me.

I'm 26.
Cry some more.

A bit unnecessarily agressive don't you think?

 

[Fiskmasen]

Just hire a hooker if it's on your mind constantly.

Or you could, I don't know, go to clubs or something. Magnificent places to find good-looking girls and generally have a nice time.