To those that are in a relationship now, what was the major thing that made you get together?

[Grand_Poohbah]

I met my girlfriend over long distance. I was living in New Jersey and she was living in Texas (my home state). She worked with my mom at a hospital, graveyard shift. I would call the hospital every night at 2AM to talk with my mom, and she (my girlfriend) was always the one to answer the phone. Eventually she got to know who I was and would be expecting my call, so we'd chit-chat here and there before and after I'd talk with my mother. Eventually, our conversations would get longer and longer and longer. We were clearly interested in each other and would talk for hours. Our longest conversation ended up being, no kidding here, 10 hours.

After talking like this for a few months, the holidays rolled around and I went home for Christmas. On Christmas Eve I told her I was going out, but I'd call her and talk to her of course. We were on the phone for a while in the wee hours of the morning, and then I told her my battery was about to die. It really wasn't, but I talked to her for a bit longer and then hung up on her. The reason for this was because I was walking into the doors of the hospital. She was at the reception desk, looking down and very sad that she had just lost my call. I marched up and she lifted her head and immediately looked shocked and unbelievably happy. This was the first time we'd ever met in person (we'd seen pictures). She rushed out from behind the desk and into my arms, and I gave her what was probably the most romantic kiss of my life.

That's when I knew it was golden.

Wow that's awesome.

 

[Grand_Poohbah]

Me n' ma ***** love the fact that we share the same sense of humor, interest in video games, and the fact that we can talk for so long with running out of things that we both are interested in and laugh at.

Your avatar concerns me. How you referred to your significant other concerns me more. Wanna be friends lol.

 

[Haddi]

Me n' ma ***** love the fact that we share the same sense of humor, interest in video games, and the fact that we can talk for so long with running out of things that we both are interested in and laugh at.

Your avatar concerns me. How you referred to your significant other concerns me more. Wanna be friends lol.

We actually insult each other all the time. She'll call me wimpy, I'll act in mock horror and call her a ***** in a metrosexual tone.

We seem like we hate eachother from the outside, but we don't.

 

[Grand_Poohbah]

Me n' ma ***** love the fact that we share the same sense of humor, interest in video games, and the fact that we can talk for so long with running out of things that we both are interested in and laugh at.

Your avatar concerns me. How you referred to your significant other concerns me more. Wanna be friends lol.

We actually insult each other all the time. She'll call me wimpy, I'll act in mock horror and call her a ***** in a metrosexual tone.

We seem like we hate eachother from the outside, but we don't.

Oh I see haha. For a second I thought you were violent to eachother =P.

 

[Haddi]

Me n' ma ***** love the fact that we share the same sense of humor, interest in video games, and the fact that we can talk for so long with running out of things that we both are interested in and laugh at.

Your avatar concerns me. How you referred to your significant other concerns me more. Wanna be friends lol.

We actually insult each other all the time. She'll call me wimpy, I'll act in mock horror and call her a ***** in a metrosexual tone.

We seem like we hate eachother from the outside, but we don't.

Oh I see haha. For a second I thought you were violent to eachother =P.

Oh, we are......

*Insert cheap sex joke here*

 

[MelziGurl]

This thread makes me lonely. It sucks being in love with a girl who has no feelings for you. Still hoping she realizes just how great of a guy I am. A guy can dream.

On another note, interesting some of these love connections are.

Maybe this might give you a little hope. My partner and I use to talk over the internet, he lived in Melbourne and me in Brisbane. It wasn't expected to go any further than just friendly conversation. After 2 years, he found himself in the same situation, although he was used by this girl. She knew his feelings and played on them, to make her feel better about her relationship with her abusive boyfriend. Her words 'you're like my knight in shining armour' an escape from her own sadness. I was there for him, even if it wasn't physical, the fact that I would talk to him about it allowed for feelings to develop between us. I deliberately made us both wait another 2 years to make sure that his feelings for me were still strong and they were. Eventually, he flew up to spend a week with my family and vice versa. A month later he moved to Brisbane and almost 3 years on we are still together.

You may actually gain more from your own experience than you realise. You just may have to wait for the right person to come along.

NOTE: My partner had given her an ultimatum, but instead of breaking it off with her boyfriend, she chose to stay. It cut him pretty deep after all he had done to try to be there for her.

 

[smallharmlesskitten]

-chop-

-slice-

Nawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww *20 minutes later* wwwwwwwwww.

 

[Lord_Ascendant]

teaching my girlfriend how to play Guitar Hero. We jsut sort of bonded then, and I knew I was going to be with her for the rest of my life. 2 year anniversary in....three days....oh crap better get a card
*dissapears to Hallamrk store*

 

[Peach_hat]

I sort of just decided that we were together after her coming over everyday for a month.

There might have been something more but it was over 2 years ago.

 

[Jenny Creed]

I'm in a relationship out of dire necessity. We have what you might call some things in common that sets us apart from virtually all other people. So we decided to be BFF simply because there are no one else around to put our trust in and we realize that you need to have people in your life that you can be really close to.

You'd be surprised how well you can get along with any given person when you're stuck in a situation where you have to. Over the years we have become very good friends indeed, and sure we have compatible personalities, but I honestly couldn't say if we had that to start with or have grown these specific personality traits in order to stand being around each other.

It's good anyway. My friends - yes, there's more than one - are the single most important things in the world to me and history has shown they feel the same way. There's nothing better that I can imagine.

 

[Hamster at Dawn]

These stories bring a tear to my eye. A happy tear... I think.

 

[sirdapfrey]

She walked into my store in the mall asking to speak to the manager (me). It was for a quick business discussion (she worked for the mall office). What should have been a five minute conversation turned into 30+ minutes. I've never believed in the "love at first sight" theory. I've always thought it was a load of crap. Until it happened to me. It must have been meant to be because as it happened, I had turned in a month notice at that job almost a month earlier. So since there would soon be no conflict of interest, I asked her out that week. We went to lunch the next day and began to hang out literally every day from then on. Now we live together and we're going on 7 months. She is the one and I've known from the beginning.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Bit of a long story...

I met him through a friend in art class, we chatted on MSN for a couple of years.
He'd already left, but I never used to talk to him when he was at my school.
One day, my friend Becki invited me and another friend Aidan to her house. So I invited my friend Jamie (the friend in art class) and he invited Jonathan (my boyfriend now).
It sounds awful, but when I first saw him, I ran to Becki and started laughing, saying he was a freak because he did look a bit odd.
The thing is, I invited Jamie and Jonathan because Becki used to fancy Jonathan, but when she saw him, she disliked him straight away.
Anyway, she said to me, "Take his glasses off, I want to see what he looks like without them on."
So I did XD
Later, I just looked at him and thought, "Oh my God, he's really fucking sexy!"
I don't know what came over me, it's so hard to describe.
When I left, I couldn't stop thinking about him. I told him a few days later, he finally got the hint and asked me out.
The relationship wasn't very good at first, but now it's a lot better.

Anecdote over, I'm off to make a cup of tea.

 

[Noamuth]

We had dated two years prior to seeing each other again. The first time around, it was very immature, a very typical dramatic teenage relationship, and a very messy breakup. The bad things just overrode everything good.

Two years on, we bumped into each other quite suddenly and slowly started hanging out with each other and.. It just seemed like we needed the time to mature. It was a little awkward at first, but just became natural. Cuddling on the couch watching a movie was odd at first, but.. Yeah.

It just happened and I am so glad it did. She has been nothing but wonderful. We've had our ups and downs, but it seems the first time round of dating prepared us for the worst. XD Not many people get a second chance and I can not get over how lucky I am that I did.

So, tl;dr: Time to mature and learn the ability to appreciate the good things about each other, as well as seeing the original spark again, was the 'major thing', I guess.

 

[runtheplacered]

We were horny.

You know, that did make me laugh at first. But that really is the reality of things. Our hormones, primal instinct, and unwritten social contracts.

One mans, "I'm horny!" is another mans "You've made me so happy to be on this Earth."

Sure, you can have great long (read: forever) lasting relationships. But, I mean, come on. You're not telling somebody you don't want to have sex with that "You've made me so happy to be on this Earth."

 

[MiracleOfSound]

The first time my lady came to my place, she chatted to me about video games and made jokes about people who make art with crusty period blood.

I fell in love right there and then.

 

[Cahlee]

Having just recently gotten out of a long relationship and reading these makes me realise something, I haven't had this yet and I cant wait til I do.

I have a really bad habit of feeling like I have to make the person I'm with happy, regardless of how I feel about them. But I refuse to do that again, I want to be with someone who understands me. Hopefully that'll be in the not-too-distant future.

Congratulations to all of you guys, It's really nice to know people are so happy.

 

[starrman]

Apathy

 

[the_tramp]

I met my girlfriend over long distance. I was living in New Jersey and she was living in Texas (my home state). She worked with my mom at a hospital, graveyard shift. I would call the hospital every night at 2AM to talk with my mom, and she (my girlfriend) was always the one to answer the phone. Eventually she got to know who I was and would be expecting my call, so we'd chit-chat here and there before and after I'd talk with my mother. Eventually, our conversations would get longer and longer and longer. We were clearly interested in each other and would talk for hours. Our longest conversation ended up being, no kidding here, 10 hours.

After talking like this for a few months, the holidays rolled around and I went home for Christmas. On Christmas Eve I told her I was going out, but I'd call her and talk to her of course. We were on the phone for a while in the wee hours of the morning, and then I told her my battery was about to die. It really wasn't, but I talked to her for a bit longer and then hung up on her. The reason for this was because I was walking into the doors of the hospital. She was at the reception desk, looking down and very sad that she had just lost my call. I marched up and she lifted her head and immediately looked shocked and unbelievably happy. This was the first time we'd ever met in person (we'd seen pictures). She rushed out from behind the desk and into my arms, and I gave her what was probably the most romantic kiss of my life.

That's when I knew it was golden.

That was probably one of the most heartwarming stories that I've ever heard. However corny this may sound this story has restored my faith in relationships and the such.

OT: My ex and I just hung out a lot... and however cheesy this may sound 'it just happened'. Although the fact that this relationship only lasted a couple of months (ending on very bad terms, and made me not to ever want another relationship) so I wouldn't advise anyone to follow my method.