Today I Was Shot.

[Sark]

I've had this before, it isn't fun. My excuse for this monstrocity is that at the time I had exceptionally low self esteem.

Girlfriend of around a year broke up with me so she could "focus on her studies". I still liked her. Heartbreak ensued.
Eventually got back together. She cheated on me repeatedly. I found out and dumped her. She went through a period of trying to spite me. She said she was going to change ect.
Eventually I forgave her and got back together with her. Repeat of cheating incident. Break up with her again.
She went out with my friend in attempt to get back at me.

Lessons Learned: 1. Don't be forgiving.
2. Stop being so nice.
3. Some people are just shit people.

 

[The Kangaroo]

These comments have severely depressed me

 

[Xorghul]

Nope. I'm too uncaring and have not yet fallen in love.

 

[Tonimata]

No, not actually physically shot. Allow me to explain.

I've made it pretty clear on the big E that I'm a hopeless romantic. And while I've had my share of break-ups and bad days as every pursuer of that fickle ideal has, today was different. The girl I'm with had recently been dumped by her ass of an ex-boyfriend, and I stepped in on instinct and things just sort of happened. This went on for a couple days as we got to know and grow on each other, until today I had trouble thinking because of my typical lovestruck euphoria. We'd been flirting for a while now, but nothing was official. I was going to change that tomorrow because, let's face it, I truly love this girl. And when I love, dammit I love.

And then she announced that she was getting back with her boyfriend.

Bang.

It wasn't the news that hurt so much the shock of going from one emotional extreme to the other in under a second. It hurt badly. It literally hurt. Not the kind of despair that you normally feel. It literally felt as though I had been shot. Still does, really. I still don't know what to make of it. On a happier note, she did finally decide to part ways once and for all with her ex, so things are back between us. I'm still pretty shaken, though. I suppose that my emotions are my greatest weakness after all.

So have any of you had an experience that really stunned you or made you feel actual pain from the shock? What was it for you?

((Edited because too many people were thinking this is a 'What Went Wrong?' thread. I know this method's risky and unorthodox, but that's beside the point and it worked anyhow. Now shut up about the whole nice guy thing and answer the question.))

Though nothing of that nature, I am also quite prone to easily falling in love, and usually take it badly when rejected. I tend to go down for ages, but it's getting less significant every time. Still, the first time that happened to me, I had the worst time of my life. Maybe it didn't feel like a gunshot, but I was sure bleeding for a long time. Coagulopathy? Perhaps. I wouldn't eat. I wouldn't talk (much). I wouldn't study. So on. But in the end I realized that I was much better off without her. Wether this is right or wrong, it matters not, for I am merely glad of getting out of it.

Since then, I have constantly believed to be on fire.

So good luck, my friend, my wishes are with you.

 

[Bat Vader]

You dont love her, your fond of her. I bet your in high school? You wont remember her name in 3 years. Get over it.

Yes, because a 25 year old's in high school and on an intellectual site like the Escapist. That really makes sense.

Of course I'll get over her eventually if things don't work out. Doesn't stop it from hurting like hell at the moment.

Given the fact I have distanced myself from people I have to wonder how does an emotion physically hurt? If it is stress I can see how seeing as stress will at times cause physical problems.

 

[wonkey20]

When I was told my Grandmother had passed.

She was in the hospital for a while and my parents went up to where she lives to see her in the hospital. Me and my sister stayed behind becuase of work etc. Me and my gf just finished doing the nasty when my Aunt called and said she is going to take my sister, gf and I out for supper. I was pumped. I just had some good sex and now a awesome paid supper.. Woo. We got to the restaurant had a awesome supper and then my aunt brought us back home. My aunt came back in the house and broke the bad news. It was one extreame to the other. I was soo happy with my day and they it was like a nuke was dropped.. It sucked real bad!!

 

[NikolaiTampernun]

Damnit, I was hoping this thread would either be an epic story in which someone got shot, or an interesting forum game. Instead it's just someone whining about generic not-particularly-rare girl drama and comparing it naively to being shot. People overdramatize things way too much. Pour this drama into writing a soap opera or something, not feeling sorry for yourself. There are far better things to do than feel sorry for yourself.

 

[SomethingUnrelated]

Bit of a misleading title...

I've been in the same situation, though it didn't hurt quite as bad.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

Two days in a semi-catatonic fantasy world after my girlfriend broke up with me. I felt like I had been punched in the throat. DO NOT WANT!

 

[RanD00M]

We'll my mom once told me that we had to put our dog down.And i was in a really happy mood that day since we were going to a summer house.Good thing we din´t put her down.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

I had a huge (and I mean huge) crush on a girl I knew. We had about everything in common. During a period we started talking more and more, making silly/cute chats, and I really thought we clicked. Oh, but was my perspective fucked up. Next day I hear she's together with someone (she wasn't before). And I could literally feel all the air going out of my lungs, as if I've been punched in the chest. I went through a week or two of depression, right now I'm a bit less pissed at myself about it. If you wonder why I'm pissed at myself, is that I feel that I should have told her my feelings before it happened. That way I'd have an honest shot rather than just falling unnoticeable out of the game field.

 

[Bat Vader]

Considering the fact that I distance myself from people for exact reasons such as the reasons posted I don't recall much sadness in my life.

Dude. Pretentious, much?

I have a similar story to the OP, this girl I like, she liked me back and man was I over the moon. Then she decided she didn't like me anymore. Note: This was the first girl I've properly liked, most girls have just been about the ladysqueezings.

May I ask how I am being pretentious when I am just telling the truth about myself?

 

[dududf]

Another ****ing relationship thread?

Jesus christ what is this, some sort of self help website?

Pretty much, yep.

But hey, given the recent bannings you can't post anything meaningful, truthful or humorous because those might hurt someone's e-feelings. So what you get are a bunch of "omigod wimens are so wieeerd" and "what would you do if (x monster) attacked you?!" threads.

Christ Escapist, toughen the fuck up.

You sir have just won the internet!

No seriously, I'm kinda annoyed of this forum.. There are less and less meaningful threads around, they are either relationship threads, religion threads, vs threads, and what would you do if (X) trys to killz you.

What happend to the grand escapist I grew to love WHY??!! WHY!! XD

 

[Disaster Button]

No, not actually physically shot. Allow me to explain.

I've made it pretty clear on the big E that I'm a hopeless romantic. And while I've had my share of break-ups and bad days as every pursuer of that fickle ideal has, today was different. The girl I'm with had recently been dumped by her ass of an ex-boyfriend, and I stepped in on instinct and things just sort of happened. This went on for a couple days as we got to know and grow on each other, until today I had trouble thinking because of my typical lovestruck euphoria. We'd been flirting for a while now, but nothing was official. I was going to change that tomorrow because, let's face it, I truly love this girl. And when I love, dammit I love.

And then she announced that she was getting back with her boyfriend.

Bang.

It wasn't the news that hurt so much the shock of going from one emotional extreme to the other in under a second. It hurt badly. It literally hurt. Not the kind of despair that you normally feel. It literally felt as though I had been shot. Still does, really. I still don't know what to make of it. On a happier note, she did finally decide to part ways once and for all with her ex, so things are back between us. I'm still pretty shaken, though. I suppose that my emotions are my greatest weakness after all.

So have any of you had an experience that really stunned you or made you feel actual pain from the shock? What was it for you?

((Edited because too many people were thinking this is a 'What Went Wrong?' thread. I know this method's risky and unorthodox, but that's beside the point and it worked anyhow. Now shut up about the whole nice guy thing and answer the question.))

Ugh as, angsty as this is gonna sound. I literally don't feel anything, ever. So I don't suppose I know what it's like to be utterly shot down or head - over - heels in love.

But congratz for things between you getting back to how it was before the asshole of a boyfriend came back on the scene. Does that mean you two are going out now?

 

[MortisLegio]

No, not actually physically shot. Allow me to explain.

I've made it pretty clear on the big E that I'm a hopeless romantic. And while I've had my share of break-ups and bad days as every pursuer of that fickle ideal has, today was different. The girl I'm with had recently been dumped by her ass of an ex-boyfriend, and I stepped in on instinct and things just sort of happened. This went on for a couple days as we got to know and grow on each other, until today I had trouble thinking because of my typical lovestruck euphoria. We'd been flirting for a while now, but nothing was official. I was going to change that tomorrow because, let's face it, I truly love this girl. And when I love, dammit I love.

And then she announced that she was getting back with her boyfriend.

Bang.

It wasn't the news that hurt so much the shock of going from one emotional extreme to the other in under a second. It hurt badly. It literally hurt. Not the kind of despair that you normally feel. It literally felt as though I had been shot. Still does, really. I still don't know what to make of it. On a happier note, she did finally decide to part ways once and for all with her ex, so things are back between us. I'm still pretty shaken, though. I suppose that my emotions are my greatest weakness after all.

So have any of you had an experience that really stunned you or made you feel actual pain from the shock? What was it for you?

((Edited because too many people were thinking this is a 'What Went Wrong?' thread. I know this method's risky and unorthodox, but that's beside the point and it worked anyhow. Now shut up about the whole nice guy thing and answer the question.))

your preaching to the choir. I've had this same (actually similar) thing happen to me a good 6/7 times.

 

[TheMatt]

And I mean this is all seriousness. Welcome to real life, it sucks, stop being a girl.

Yes, the exact same thing has happened to me. So I banged her sister. I felt better after that.

 

[NotAPie]

Well, as I said in another thread, My dog died by jumping over a fence with her leash on, So I saw her hung dead on the other side of the fence.
I don't really need to explain how that felt.

 

[sky14kemea]

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... nice username? xD

at OP: I did have a reply lined up, but this distracted me... so I forgot D: