Today I Was Shot.

[chromewarriorXIII]

Or the morning my dog died. It only happened minutes after I left for school. When I got back, I saw she wan;t lying where she usally does. Then, my mother told me " Griffin, this morning, Jessia died. She died in her sleep....."

I never creid harder in my life.

I know how you feel with that. My dog recently died around January. The worst part of it was that we were having her put down because even on her medicine she was too weak to do much. I was already in tears and just shattered the moment my dad shut the door to the house with her in his arms. In fact, tears are coming out now just thinking about it.

 

[MaskedMori]

I havn't ever had any considerable amount of love for any living thing non-family related so I can't really relate with what your feeling... I have felt heavy despair though. My aunt did die of cancer, but I wasn't too close with her and I had a lot of mental preperation time knowing I would/might never see her ever again, so I got over it before she died. I did have a GF once, but we broke it off because we both knew there wasn't any major "Spark" between us, still friends though.

 

[GHMonkey]

yeah, i have had it happen, but i gotta tell ya. the caring guy thing, it don't work.

Apparently I'm proving that wrong at the moment. I suppose that's only with most cases. Though I'm also a different sort of 'caring' guy.

That's odd. My girlfriend loves that I care about her.

Caring about a girl, and being the guy a girl comes to with her problems because you are so caring is not the same. Usually the best friend thing only works after she has exhausted all her other resources. Also being caring toward your already exhisting girlfriend is not the same as when you are trying to first get with her.

this is what i meant, thank you.

 

[L3m0n_L1m3]

No, not actually physically shot. Allow me to explain.

I've made it pretty clear on the big E that I'm a hopeless romantic. And while I've had my share of break-ups and bad days as every pursuer of that fickle ideal has, today was different. The girl I'm with had recently been dumped by her ass of an ex-boyfriend, and I stepped in on instinct and things just sort of happened. This went on for a couple days as we got to know and grow on each other, until today I had trouble thinking because of my typical lovestruck euphoria. We'd been flirting for a while now, but nothing was official. I was going to change that tomorrow because, let's face it, I truly love this girl. And when I love, dammit I love.

And then she announced that she was getting back with her boyfriend.

Bang.

It wasn't the news that hurt so much the shock of going from one emotional extreme to the other in under a second. It hurt badly. It literally hurt. Not the kind of despair that you normally feel. It literally felt as though I had been shot. Still does, really. I still don't know what to make of it. On a happier note, she did finally decide to part ways once and for all with her ex, so things are back between us. I'm still pretty shaken, though. I suppose that my emotions are my greatest weakness after all.

So have any of you had an experience that really stunned you or made you feel actual pain from the shock? What was it for you?

((Edited because too many people were thinking this is was a 'What Went Wrong?' thread. I know this method's risky and unorthodox, but that's beside the point and it worked anyhow. Now shut up about the whole nice guy thing and answer the question.))

I feel your pain man, I feel your pain....

Exact same thing happened to me. Gotta hate it.

 

[Bat Vader]

Considering the fact that I distance myself from people for exact reasons such as the reasons posted I don't recall much sadness in my life. My grandpa died when I was 13. I knew him pretty well but due to my who distancing thing I never shed a tear.

I do get a little sad when I think about all the books I will never have time in my life to read.

I sympathize with your stance, though my favor shown to books only really shows itself when I am thinking about a post apocalyptic world where I will have nothing but time and the quiet solitude of an entire library to myself.

That sir is the heaven I dream of.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Well, life likes to do things like this.
All you can do is try your best to recover and hope for the better.

Could've been worse, really. You could've actually been shot...

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I suppose your optimism and patience is commendable, mine would have run dry far sooner...I'm not OK with being the second choice.

 

[skywalkerlion]

Well, life likes to do things like this.
All you can do is try your best to recover and hope for the better.

Could've been worse, really. You could've actually been shot...

What I like to do to be annoying is:

'People in Iraq and many other wars are being shot at and risking their lives to make sure their friend doesn't come home in a casket with half their face blown off, and your *insert complaint here*??'

 

[quiet_samurai]

yeah, i have had it happen, but i gotta tell ya. the caring guy thing, it don't work.

Apparently I'm proving that wrong at the moment. I suppose that's only with most cases. Though I'm also a different sort of 'caring' guy.

That's odd. My girlfriend loves that I care about her.

Caring about a girl, and being the guy a girl comes to with her problems because you are so caring is not the same. Usually the best friend thing only works after she has exhausted all her other resources. Also being caring toward your already exhisting girlfriend is not the same as when you are trying to first get with her.

this is what i meant, thank you.

I know you did, no problem.


OT: Also, relationships based on one of the person's vulnerability and sadness never last very long. Comiserating with someone is not a good basis for love.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

That sucks man. Good luck next time.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

When my girlfriend broke up with me all of a sudden, I cried. She said she wanted to be friends, but she was lying.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

Really, has this tactic actually worked for anyone?

I mean we're talking about a person who have just been dumped, how likely are they to just fall head over heals for the next person that provides a shoulder to cry on and start a relationship with that person?

Seriously, if someone actually succeeds with this move, it must be like finding the holy grail or something. : S

What, this old thing? It's been in my attic for months.

OMG THE HOLY GRAIL

[sub]Been looking for that...[/sub]

 

[supersixfour]

same situation as look its jinjo, but i kind of just shrugg it off like im wearing a bullet resistant vest, it hurts but it doesn't maim

 

[Bob Saget]

No, not actually physically shot. Allow me to explain.

I've made it pretty clear on the big E that I'm a hopeless romantic. And while I've had my share of break-ups and bad days as every pursuer of that fickle ideal has, today was different. The girl I'm with had recently been dumped by her ass of an ex-boyfriend, and I stepped in on instinct and things just sort of happened. This went on for a couple days as we got to know and grow on each other, until today I had trouble thinking because of my typical lovestruck euphoria. We'd been flirting for a while now, but nothing was official. I was going to change that tomorrow because, let's face it, I truly love this girl. And when I love, dammit I love.

And then she announced that she was getting back with her boyfriend.

Bang.

It wasn't the news that hurt so much the shock of going from one emotional extreme to the other in under a second. It hurt badly. It literally hurt. Not the kind of despair that you normally feel. It literally felt as though I had been shot. Still does, really. I still don't know what to make of it. On a happier note, she did finally decide to part ways once and for all with her ex, so things are back between us. I'm still pretty shaken, though. I suppose that my emotions are my greatest weakness after all.

This. Exactly this, a few months ago. Except the ass of an ex-boyfriend was my close friend. And she didn't leave him. (He ran off with someone else and I wouldn't let her crawl back to me). Another time, it happened almost the same way, but kinda different. I helped my friend through a terrible relationship, and when it was finally over, I grew interest in her, and she did the same to me. So she decided to try to date another one of my good friends. But he stuck up for me, and led her on, like she did to me... So that one worked out.

Another time was in the 4th grade I believe, when I got a phone call saying that one of my friends had died when he dove into a swimming pool and broke his neck when he hit the bottom...

 

[Firia]

Girlfriend of mine with whom could have been "the one" we connected so well. One morning we wake up next to each other, everything is hunky-dory, and her husband from Iraq calls! Oddly things did not degenerate the way you might have expected. No,; "she's MINE" was my reaction. Sadly, she wasn't mine. Apperently a little homosexual fling wasn't marriage shattering enough to seperate them... (gawd, I'm awful). To this day, I have dating problems as a result of the emotional trauma I experienced.

 

[Samurai Goomba]

I think the OP got friend zone'd pretty bad here. I mean, once she tells you she's getting together with another guy, you've pretty much lost your shot. Don't be the emotional crutch she leans on whenever she's weak. I don't think much good will come of that for you.

I'd get my stuff together and move on. I'm seeing a pattern develop here where she ditches you whenever her life is good, and runs back when things suck. Don't be a part of that.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Girlfriend of mine with whom could have been "the one" we connected so well. One morning we wake up next to each other, everything is hunky-dory, and her husband from Iraq calls! Oddly things did not degenerate the way you might have expected. No,; "she's MINE" was my reaction. Sadly, she wasn't mine. Apperently a little homosexual fling wasn't marriage shattering enough to seperate them... (gawd, I'm awful). To this day, I have dating problems as a result of the emotional trauma I experienced.

Oh! That same exact thing happened to me, I mean, I didn't really think she was "the one" but I liked her alot. She told me about him the day before she was supposed to go to the airport to pick him up. Talk about haning in there until the last minute. It was weird because we spent alot of time together for about 2 months and then all of a sudden... nothing.

Someone has to be Jodi, huh?

 

[Tireseas_v1legacy]

Nope. The closest experience to that that I had was reading a romance manga (Bitter Virgin, it is a legitimate manga and not porn) which the content made me physically ill to the point of nausia and chills. Then again, I haven't had much experience dating. I'm too much of a book worm.

Edit: Ursus Astrorum's comic seems to describe my attempts perfectly.

 

[Samurai Goomba]

Girlfriend of mine with whom could have been "the one" we connected so well. One morning we wake up next to each other, everything is hunky-dory, and her husband from Iraq calls! Oddly things did not degenerate the way you might have expected. No,; "she's MINE" was my reaction. Sadly, she wasn't mine. Apperently a little homosexual fling wasn't marriage shattering enough to seperate them... (gawd, I'm awful). To this day, I have dating problems as a result of the emotional trauma I experienced.

Oh! That same exact thing happened to me, I mean, I didn't really think she was "the one" but I liked her alot. She told me about him the day before she was supposed to go to the airport to pick him up. Talk about haning in there until the last minute. It was weird because we spent alot of time together for about 2 months and then all of a sudden... nothing.

Someone has to be Jodi, huh?

Jodi?

Spoiler

Wait, I think that's the wrong one...