JimB said:
ObsidianJones said:
Hell, my ex's parents (she was from China) wanted to make sure that I teach her to use my gun in case she needed to defend herself.
I've heard that China has a problem with black people, but this is the closest to firsthand testimony I've ever gotten...or wait, do you mean to protect herself from people other than you? Eh, either way, it's still a little fucked up.
Well, never mind, I don't want to keep talking about my experiences; I worry that it will come off as me saying yours didn't happen, or are invalid. That's not what I mean to do at all. It's just so far out of my own experience that it's hard for me to wrap my head around ("People have gone up to this dude and asked him if every single black person on the planet likes fried chicken? How the fuck do they expect him to know? Do they think black people have a hivemind he can access for that racial information?"), and I appreciate you sharing what you've gone through to open our eyes a little. I'm also sorry you've had to go through that kind of treatment.
As far as I could tell, she scolded them for thinking I owned a gun. But the West is dangerous (tm)! Gunfights at every corner! Drugs! Rampant Crime! and all the rest.. It didn't help that I'm originally from the Bronx. Tie that mindset and where I came from and my race together, there were some ideas. They actually approved of me, but they still had those ideas. That was their way of saying "We want you to keep our girl safe... with the methods of violence that seems to be intrinsic in all of you."
didn't help my ex from saying to me often "I got a broken black guy. you can't sing". But I can't really blame her. One night, we were watching a CBC documentary* about the AIDS epidemic in China's countryside [https://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=aids%20epidemic%20in%20rural%20china]. To which my Ex freaked out from West** propaganda. She said the West was trying to damn China because there ISN'T AIDS in China. It's a West problem.
Now, this is the part that I'd like to point out that she is highly 'educated'. She went to schools all over. She came from Nan Jing, one of the most up and coming cities on the planet. But the government swayed info to make people think only the decadent west would have such a thing. Of course, the ill educated in the rural parts of China never even heard of it, so a good majority caught the disease.
Fortunately or unfortunately, depending how you view these things, one of her close friend's mother was a doctor. And her friend confirmed it. It was both of our's first lesson to how eschewed information is given out in China.
Going to my experience with people I deal with now, People from the Midwest who decide that they want to come to Manhattan (and ruin it for the rest of us) it's usually because how much Manhattan is hyped in media. I can't give you actual numbers, but it feels like only a fraction come because it is really one of the hubs of humanity. Most people I've met come to Manhattan living the Carrie Bradshaw Dream of owning it and finding a quirky section of the world that speaks to them so they can rule. If you come with such a limited ideal, I don't really expect that much more.
I've had people come up to me and explain Jay-Z is one of the best modern poets of this time. And their absolute shock to hear that I don't like Jay-Z or most mainstream rap. When I ask why, only a few actually say the truth.
Any 'Black' cause of the day because an instant starter of conversation to try to show they understand my 'plight' as it were. Ferguson, Trayvon Martin, Kids for Cash, Obama, Michael Jackson, Stop and Frisk (that one I really don't have a problem talking about).
It just gets annoying. I see these same people approach other people and ask them questions about themselves. What are you into. What music you like. Just trusting that a conversation can arise just from the sheer fact that we are intelligent people and we'll see where the mood takes us. It makes me feel like the titular 'Other' when their minds have to frantic search for "OMG WHAT IS BLACK?!" subjects so we can relate. I don't do that with them. They don't need to do it with me.
... This was longer than I intended.
*Sidebar, the CBC documentaries are what I really miss from Canada. My Canadian escapists, treasure them. They were really wonderful.
**I just realized. When America does something wrong, people always call them out by name. US sucks for this, America sucks for that. When it's any other nation, It's the West. I've noticed Middle Eastern people do this. I've noticed Asian people do this. Why the blanket for everyone else but scrutiny for Americans?