Too young for me?

[Archetypal_Maniac]

Hello fellow Escapists,

Lately I'm finding myself in hazardous territory. I'm starting to like / fall in love with a girl that's probably not (yet) the right age for me.

Don't get me wrong though; I don't think she's immature. She's funny, confident, honest / fair, and is kinda crazy (like me) and she basically looks older than I do. So far so good, and when we're together we're both physically attracted to each other, both hinting at feelings that lie deeper than just a friendship.

Now there's the catch; I'm 22 years old, just finished studying, have a job and basically have everything going for me. I'm sure I'll manage without this one girl, but why would I hold back if I feel it's ok to do it. Then there's her: she's 15, still in school, just got herself a job for the weekend; pretty much like anyone would at that age.

If she lied to me about her age and say she's 18, I'd go ahead with it straight away. But right now... this just feels wrong. So, Escapists. Is it wrong? Will I go to hell for this? Am I the pedobear (even though her body seriously exceeds that of people my age)? Or should I do it anyway?


Note that we take all legal issues out of the equasion here, so do not let these cloud your honest judgement.

Keep the sausage out of the grill until she is ripe sun shine, or you'll be getting bummed up the arse by bubba and his buddies at the local pen. If you can wait that long before you jump her bones, then you should be ok. No poking.

 

[Honorleaf]

I think it is certainly an awkward situation to be in and (as a former 15-year old girl) I sympathize with you both, but I would suggest branching your social circle out a bit while you decide what to do (either before or after your talk). You listed a few basic reasons you are attracted to her (funny, confident etc.) but can you really say that based on these generic terms that you "love/like" her , or is this more of a proximity crush? How did you two meet (if you don't mind sharing)?

I agree with the others above in terms of being concerned about the difference in life experiences/stages (and these are really big differences when you are at those stages), but also important, you don't want others to think that you are taking advantage of her sexually (since she may have developed physically much faster than she really has emotionally) or unknowingly projecting your own experiences/desires onto her (which could mean she resents you later for not letting her grow into her own person).

In addition, it is telling that in your original response, you mentioned that something feels wrong and I would say follow or at least don't ignore that feeling because it is worth analyzing.

If you do get to examine all the reasons why you love/like/lust for her and you are truly confident that you can deal with the consequences, then I would say follow your heart down that path. Yet if you ave any sort of doubt (and who knows, there are plenty of women out there), you'll love her enough to wait.