I have had a few within my life time. The two most significant would be...
- Coming to the conclusion that perhaps the reason I was picked on, teased, mock, all of which was allowed by teachers to the extent I walked out of class after numerous threats, may well have been somewhat self inflicted based upon how I allow remarks to bother me drastically more than I ever should have. This little revelation came during the darkest time of my life, at age fourteen when suicide and even wanting to take certain people with me; while extremely brief, were thoughts that entered my mind.
I decided that was a cowardly view, that I could never put my mother; whom I credit to this day as the person who pushed me through that and that I would change my own persona and force confidence upon myself. It took a little under two years however I broke out of that shy, low self esteem demeanor and went the opposite to some degree. I have arrogance now, extreme confidence and I have long ceased caring what people think of me when it is negative. It has been five years since I had this new personality defined and seven since those dark days; it is amazing how that one decision changed everything. Leaving that school certainly helped. Amusing the teachers who constantly failed me will never know
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- The other would be my decision to low weight; a primary factor to the above. I procrastinated one this for years, although telling myself I would one day accomplish it yet never following through. I was never obese however despite my height of six foot four; I despised being 264lbs with hardly any muscle. That was the one thing I struggled tackling however in pure irony during a trip to McDonalds; a place I frequented nearly three times a day, I had ordered a Mcgrill and upon looking it the lettuce was an odd dark green and wilting. Mom did not think of anything of it however after eating it, I realized it was definitely not fresh.
After feeling like hell for five hours I swore off fast food joints of all kind for what ended up being four/five months. I did have the occasional pizza at Pizza Hut (two or three in that time span if I recall) but my weight was down twenty to thirty pounds. Now I was stilling eating poorly however the lack of McDonalds and such helped. I decided then and there this was the time to put my weight problem out of my life. I crashed, tossing cookies, chocolate, ice cream, butter, chips, bacon, anything with high fat or carbs and replaced them with frozen yogurts, yogurts, cereal, fruit, nutria-grain bars and etc. It took roughly eight months but I dropped down to 149 although brought that up and am currently 162-164.
Easily the two best decisions of my life, the latter brought additional confidence when I was already maxed out. There you go, a little insight to my life.
