Basically the issue I have is that I have met a girl over the past 2-3 weeks that I like quite a bit and am thinking about asking her out to the cinema to watch a film. However I always have the niggling feeling of fear in the back of my mind that I will be rejected.
Let me elaborate on this. About 6-7 months ago I met this other girl who I liked but wasn't sure if she liked me. So I asked her out and she flat out rejected me saying that she is a lesbian (I had heard people before saying that she is either bi-sexual or lesbian but I took my chances anyway). I took this in and felt rather shit that day but continued talking to her anyway because we were becoming fast friends. 4-5 months down the line and I think I can safely say I was one of her best friends however I had fallen into the pit of being in a state of I wouldn't say love but something quite damn close in the sense that I would do anything within reason for her and not regret it.
This led to me inviting her out from the UK over to Cyprus and few other friends (thats where my family lives usually) for 10 days and we all really had a great time but I could tell my feelings were still strong for her since at one point I was getting jealous that one of my other best friends (who was a bloke) was able to talk to her on issues which I had no input on due to lack of knowledge and I guess I had a completely irrational feeling of fear in the back of my mind that he was going to become closer to her then I was. Before she left however I asked again if she ever felt anything towards me and said no yet again and that was pretty much the last time we spoke.
Fast forward yet again 2 months and now I'm sat here wondering whether I should ask this new girl out or not. We both in the short time we have known each other get along very well exchanging funny stories, both share an interest in games (mine being much stronger though) and we both go to Archery, Aikido (form of marshall art) hell I've even been trouser shopping with her once and even enjoyed it (you have no idea how much I hate clothes shopping) just because I was with her.
However I don't want to get into the mess that I had with my first GF which was essentially we found a few topics that we could converge on and progressed way to quickly and the converstions quickly dried up and left what can essentially be known as "fuck buddies". Hell even when she cheated on me I pretty much said meh and continued the relationship for 1-2 weeks before one final thing broke it up and found out afterwards how much of a ***** she could be to other people when her boyfriend/person she is trying to impress wasn't around. But that is another story for a completely different time.
So the essential question is and I think I already know what the answer is. Should I ask this new girl out or wait a few more weeks. Bearing in mind that I'm not sure if I'm completely over this girl who I invited out over to Cyprus a few months back for summer holidays but know that I havn't got a chance in seven hells with because she now lives the entire country away from me on top of the story above.
EDIT:now that I come to think of it I have experienced both ends of the stick. One end being that It just became a "friends with benefits relationship" without the actual friends part thrown in and the other a really strong relationship with stronger emotions from me not being met. Baring in mind that these are the only 2 experiences I've had I must be quite unlucky in this respect
Let me elaborate on this. About 6-7 months ago I met this other girl who I liked but wasn't sure if she liked me. So I asked her out and she flat out rejected me saying that she is a lesbian (I had heard people before saying that she is either bi-sexual or lesbian but I took my chances anyway). I took this in and felt rather shit that day but continued talking to her anyway because we were becoming fast friends. 4-5 months down the line and I think I can safely say I was one of her best friends however I had fallen into the pit of being in a state of I wouldn't say love but something quite damn close in the sense that I would do anything within reason for her and not regret it.
This led to me inviting her out from the UK over to Cyprus and few other friends (thats where my family lives usually) for 10 days and we all really had a great time but I could tell my feelings were still strong for her since at one point I was getting jealous that one of my other best friends (who was a bloke) was able to talk to her on issues which I had no input on due to lack of knowledge and I guess I had a completely irrational feeling of fear in the back of my mind that he was going to become closer to her then I was. Before she left however I asked again if she ever felt anything towards me and said no yet again and that was pretty much the last time we spoke.
Fast forward yet again 2 months and now I'm sat here wondering whether I should ask this new girl out or not. We both in the short time we have known each other get along very well exchanging funny stories, both share an interest in games (mine being much stronger though) and we both go to Archery, Aikido (form of marshall art) hell I've even been trouser shopping with her once and even enjoyed it (you have no idea how much I hate clothes shopping) just because I was with her.
However I don't want to get into the mess that I had with my first GF which was essentially we found a few topics that we could converge on and progressed way to quickly and the converstions quickly dried up and left what can essentially be known as "fuck buddies". Hell even when she cheated on me I pretty much said meh and continued the relationship for 1-2 weeks before one final thing broke it up and found out afterwards how much of a ***** she could be to other people when her boyfriend/person she is trying to impress wasn't around. But that is another story for a completely different time.
So the essential question is and I think I already know what the answer is. Should I ask this new girl out or wait a few more weeks. Bearing in mind that I'm not sure if I'm completely over this girl who I invited out over to Cyprus a few months back for summer holidays but know that I havn't got a chance in seven hells with because she now lives the entire country away from me on top of the story above.
EDIT:now that I come to think of it I have experienced both ends of the stick. One end being that It just became a "friends with benefits relationship" without the actual friends part thrown in and the other a really strong relationship with stronger emotions from me not being met. Baring in mind that these are the only 2 experiences I've had I must be quite unlucky in this respect
