Most of the time, I'm completely oblivious to women hitting on me, even when it's patently obvious in hindsight.
Just to point out... You were in High School. You were a child. Why would you feel bad about making an immature decision before you matured? Surely the fact that you know you made a bad choice, you assessed it and know what you would do differently is testament to the fact that you have matured since? That's the growing up process taking place!TheVampwizimp said:All of my lovers have been potatoes. I always said that I've never met a potato I wouldn't eat.Zachary Amaranth said:It can be difficult if you like someone, but aren't interested in what they have in mind (dating, romance, whatever).
A couple of people have hit on me who were super creepy, so the hardest part was saying "no" before I'd run far enough my voice was inaudible. Okay, slight hyperbole.
Some of my best friends are potatoes! You take that back!Solaire of Astora said:That would probably first require not having the social skills of a potato. Unfortunately, I'm still kind of stuck at that point.
I wouldn't have any trouble doing it, though. At least, I think.
Anyway... I have had to turn a girl down once, it was bad. We were in high school and she was just obsessed with me, for no reason I ever understood. I found her kind of annoying and not at all attractive, so I sort of passively pushed her away for a while until I she finally got the hint. I still feel bad about being an immature dick about it.
Last night meant nothing to you, you pig. I'm going to call your wife!Baffle said:I date people all the time because I don't know how to turn them down. Mrs. B is getting really pissed off.
You too huh? Damn our filthy friend-zoning ways :/Phasmal said:Well, I have the guy I apparently `friend-zoned`.
That's a tough situation. I might feel a twinge of jealously if some random girl started throwing herself all over my date, but it's also important to recognize when it's not his fault. I never understood the thought behind girls that get angry at their dates for something like that, if I were to get angry at anyone, it would be the girl. If he went with it, he'd be out of the picture, if he resisted and she continued it would start with a stern *cough* "He's taken" and if she chose to get nasty after that, I'm not entirely sure how that situation would unfold.Scars Unseen said:My girlfriend saw the whole thing take place, and told me that if I had just gone with it she would have completely understood. She would have dumped me, of course, but she would have understood. I'm still amazed that she didn't blow up at me or even get the tiniest bit upset or jealous. Also still can't believe I broke up with her. Never really met anyone quite like her again.
Eclipse Dragon said:You too huh? Damn our filthy friend-zoning ways :/Phasmal said:Well, I have the guy I apparently `friend-zoned`.
In my case though we did try but we were not compatible[footnote]Read he started becoming dependent on me as his sole source of happiness to a frightening extent and the whole thing left me depressed and emotionally drained.[/footnote] I was able to save the friendship, though at arms length, he's getting along fine and even says he's happy I'm dating other people as long as I'm happy.
I'm not speaking from experience, but I'm guessing people get mad about that because they may interpret the use of hentai or porn as a sign that they are inadequate as an SO. Kind of like if you asked him to help fix your sink, thanked him and then secretly hired a plumber immediately afterwards.Scars Unseen said:I also don't understand people who get mad at their SOs for watching hentai or porn or admiring celebrities they'd never realistically be able to hook up with.
Also, sorry you had to get stuck with the overly-dependent type. I've been there, and it wasn't even a relationship, just a friendship. So much pressure, and you feel like you've ruined his day every time you have plans or just want some alone time. I imagine it's even worse when it's your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Assuming they're watching porn because they aren't happy with their partner's performance[footnote]Although I don't personally believe this is the case most of the time[/footnote], it's still preferable than them going out and finding someone temporary who can perform to their satisfaction.sageoftruth said:I'm not speaking from experience, but I'm guessing people get mad about that because they may interpret the use of hentai or porn as a sign that they are inadequate as an SO. Kind of like if you asked him to help fix your sink, thanked him and then secretly hired a plumber immediately afterwards.Eclipse Dragon said:I also don't understand people who get mad at their SOs for watching hentai or porn or admiring celebrities they'd never realistically be able to hook up with.
Also, sorry you had to get stuck with the overly-dependent type. I've been there, and it wasn't even a relationship, just a friendship. So much pressure, and you feel like you've ruined his day every time you have plans or just want some alone time. I imagine it's even worse when it's your boyfriend/girlfriend.