Kyogissun said:
I'm surprised someone didn't jump down your throat about this statement being all 'times have changed' or 'thanks for the lecture DAD' or some shit like that.
This really is the way I feel about the scenario. I feel that the way my mom raised me, how her parents raised her (her animosity towards them aside) and various other people who have told tales of what their parents did for them have set an example of responsible decisions concerning parenting.
This just doesn't sound like really good parenting and, I'll say it again, I do NOT buy for ONE second that the Xbone was REALLY for his four year old. UK, 19, decision to blow load of cash on a game console instead of general child rearing costs... Something reeks of 'this guy isn't being very responsible'.
I know I'm being judgemental and I'm not going to apologize for it. Why should we be feeling bad for this idiot? I'm feeling more bad for the kid because all I can think is stuff like 'Where's his mom?' or 'What important bills could that money have gone to?' or 'what kind of nice thing could he have done for his kid that he ACTUALLY would have appreciated?' (I.E. something besides buying a gaming console he probably doesn't even have the proper hand eye coordination to handle yet).
Now, the kid could have parents supporting him and maybe the mother still supports him too but there's not enough info here so here we are.
Now that you mention it, I'm kinda surprised too, but we're only 5 pages in!
I agree about the financial decision. $735/450£ is quite a bit of dosh to just have on hand, and to spend it on a souped-up
GameBoy with a kid to take care of, it just raises some eyebrows.
I think your last sentence is necessary to establish the context we're discussing. We're going off the information in the article/OP. The situation could indeed be different, but like I said, evidence suggests that teen pregnancies are typically spontaneous and not anywhere close the the ideal environment for a child. Basing my perspective on my experience growing up, raising a child is a massive amount of work, even for two parents in their mid-thirties. From that, it's likely to be much more challenging and difficult for someone with only nineteen years under his belt.
Proverbial Jon said:
What 19 year old with a 4 year old son can afford an Xbox One? I'm 26 with no dependant family and a good job but I can't afford that sort of cash!
Same here. Basically same age and same status.
I
could afford it if we're just using "afford" as a shortcut for "have enough money for", but it would be a bad, if not outright stupid, idea. I can't justify that kind of spending, especially on something that has no practical use.
Lono Shrugged said:
Jesus Christ, I never realised how many judgemental dickheads were on this site. The guy was scammed by a pretty malicious and cynical scam and he is the bad guy? Also I don't see what him being a teenage father has to do with anything. It's a sad state when the site that champions itself on diversity and understanding shits on a guy who got defrauded. I think people forget that real life is not like their candy coated view and that the world is the way it is. It's not stupidity. and it was clearly proven the seller misrepresented the product maliciously I am glad he got it sorted so quickly. I got scammed on ebay and it took me months to sort it out and it was a hell of a lot more clear cut than this. But it's not my fault cos I am in my 20's and have no kids.
The fact that he's a teenage father is a slightly revealing bit of information. One can infer his decision making skills based on that information along with the information about the 'incident' in the article.
I don't know if stating in the listing that what was up for auction was a picture is malicious misrepresentation, especially when the buyer stated he read that part of the description and then just bought it anyway based on category, as if some arbitrary drop-down designation has more clarity than the description of the item itself written by the seller. Caveat emptor, but buyer was aware and buyer is still an idiot. Buyer then feels besmirched and defrauded and goes public instead of hanging his head down in shame and contacting eBay privately and resolving the issue. Idiot.
Life isn't a candy coated anything, we're in agreement there. It's a constant struggle. It's painful and harrowing. Rarely is it ideal, but we can make choices in an attempt to aim it in that direction.
On one hand, I'm glad the guy got his money back. The kid shouldn't suffer for daddy dumbass, and it means that if something like this can be resolved, something far less obvious and more attributable to "fraud" can also be resolved.
On the other hand, if he hadn't been compensated, perhaps it would've been a hard lesson learned that he could then pass on.
Or he could've gone off the deep end.
Honestly, I wonder if the seller did it not out of a desire to seek something for nothing, but as an experiment to see if someone would be stupid enough to actually buy it. Once they did, I wonder if he killed himself.
