Unlucky in love
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Not to be a dick but I feel you have a motive here. You don't actually want advice, it seems that you want reassurance that what you did was okay and that she'll come around with "xyz".
Sadly, this isn't the case. She's gone and won't come back. I've done similar things with girls (and I'm relatively good with them) and it never turns out how you hope.
She had fun and wanted it to remain fun. You pushed too hard and now she's put off. She will NEVER be able to get this out of her head. It's like if you saw a Monet and someone pointed out a smudge.
Sadly, this isn't the case. She's gone and won't come back. I've done similar things with girls (and I'm relatively good with them) and it never turns out how you hope.
She had fun and wanted it to remain fun. You pushed too hard and now she's put off. She will NEVER be able to get this out of her head. It's like if you saw a Monet and someone pointed out a smudge.
Well from the sound of things, you are to clingy, sound like you want to be just friends and are some what obsessed, your problem was you didn't have sex with her, that sealed the deal on friendship.
I'm not looking for a motive but the majority of people aren't even giving advice, they seem to say she isn't interested so she's un-obtainable. That's such a defeatist attitudePeePantz said:
People don't understand that to just stop feeling and forget about someone is almost impossible, the entire notion that you can do so is naive, or people truly do not have hearts...
I feel so stupid, she's sleeping about 30 feet away and yet I can't see her again. she won't ever come back... The entire notion that I've jeopardized my future chances with her seem ludicrous.
I want to be more than friends, I don't know how you constructed that conclusion based on what I wrote, and I'm fairly sure the possibility of sex wasn't even raised. Maybe I haven't given enough detail into what happened on the night..Skullkid4187 said:
Doesn't matter, I'm going to stop checking this topic now, it just puts into a downward spiral of anger and depression
Oh yes, been there done that...
Leave her alone for couple of days and after that try to have more face tot face conversations instead of texting her. And if you get the chance to spend another evening with her, alone or not, try not to get more drunk than her.
Other than that, see if it's possible to end up on a party with her, she might feel more comfortable talking to you if there's people around, and alcohol is a great ice breaker.
Of course there's the chance that having other people around will make her less inclined to talk to you, but that's a risk worth taking.
Leave her alone for couple of days and after that try to have more face tot face conversations instead of texting her. And if you get the chance to spend another evening with her, alone or not, try not to get more drunk than her.
Other than that, see if it's possible to end up on a party with her, she might feel more comfortable talking to you if there's people around, and alcohol is a great ice breaker.
Of course there's the chance that having other people around will make her less inclined to talk to you, but that's a risk worth taking.
I sincerely hope you're making a joke...TomLikesGuitar said:
As for the thread at hand, all you can really do is give her time. If she doesn't try to rekindle what you two had, it may be best to move along.
You fancied a girl. You had a chance. You blew it. Sad but that's life man. Move on. Really while everyone can give you advice about what you did wrong in that particular 'ship that doesn't change the fact that it sunk. So don't hang out with her as much and try to move on.