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The SettingSun

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Today I was talking with my friends about this girl in one of my classes. We're at a new college and most classes I've spent trying to get to know people and talking to them. I mentioned to my friends earlier I thought the girl was kind of cute and I wanted to get to know her. I just had a lesson with the girl and was one of my friends asked me how it went and I said:

"It's hard. She seems quite nice but she just isn't that talkative. It's still a bit awkward." - The conversation went on longer but thats the gist of it.

Then my friend stopped me talking and look at me warningly and to my horror I realised I was stood right in front of a table where the girl was sat. When I looked at her she sort of smirked and looked away.

After a lot of debate with my friends I've concluded that theres a 50 % chance she might have heard what I said. I've got a lesson with where I'm sat next to her tomorrow which I'm dreading.

I have no idea what to do. Should I apologise? If she didn't hear it then that would just create an awkward moment in it self.

Thanks for reading.
 

LT Cannibal 68

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you could make it work for ya mate, just talk to her and if she says she heard what you said tell her that you DO think she's pretty and see where that goes. who knows you just rambling without watching out if she was around or not may be a blessing in disguise just act cool and don't napoleon dynamite out ok?
 

LT Cannibal 68

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well my advice would be to play it cool, if she says she heard you then just tell her that you do think she's cute/pretty/beautiful or whatever other endearing adjective you can come up with but if she doesn't bring it up you shouldn't either. Who knows maybe her hearing you could be a blessing in disguise she might be a potential gf if you play your cards right. Just don't napoleon dynamite out and you'll be fine.

EDIT: damn double post POS!!!
 

Floppertje

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The SettingSun said:
Today I was talking with my friends about this girl in one of my classes. We're at a new college and most classes I've spent trying to get to know people and talking to them. I mentioned to my friends earlier I thought the girl was kind of cute and I wanted to get to know her. I just had a lesson with the girl and was one of my friends asked me how it went and I said:

"It's hard. She seems quite nice but she just isn't that talkative. It's still a bit awkward." - The conversation went on longer but thats the gist of it.

Then my friend stopped me talking and look at me warningly and to my horror I realised I was stood right in front of a table where the girl was sat. When I looked at her she sort of smirked and looked away.

After a lot of debate with my friends I've concluded that theres a 50 % chance she might have heard what I said. I've got a lesson with where I'm sat next to her tomorrow which I'm dreading.

I have no idea what to do. Should I apologise? If she didn't hear it then that would just create an awkward moment in it self.

Thanks for reading.
apologise? for talking to your friends about liking her?
I'd say just stay on course, if she brings it up, you can just admit that you like her, there's nothing wrong with that. might even be a good time to ask her out, seeing how you've already admitted to being interested in her.
what it boils down to, is if she's interested in you too. if she is, her overhearing you only sped things up. if she's not, her overhearing you only sped things up :p
just go ask her out. if she says yes: great. if she says no, too bad. plenty of other girls out there.
 

Ando85

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One time I had a situation like that, but in the receiving end. In an algebra class in high school the teacher would collect binders and redistribute them for grading. I sat by a good friend and we would often pass notes talking about semi-personal things. I made the mistake of leaving one of the notes loosely in my binder. A girl sitting in plain hearing and site distance got my binder. Once she discovered the note she got excited and started talking about it with the person sitting next to her. Then when it was time to give the binders back she realized that I heard the whole thing. She looked genuinely embarrassed.

I tried not to act angry, cause I really couldn't blame her I carelessly left the note in there. But, it was a pretty awkward situation.

OT: My advice is assume she didn't hear you. In your next encounter just be friendly to her. If it is brought up of course apologize. It probably wouldn't be that big of a deal. You didn't say anything incredibly insulting. Chances are she will forget about it.
 

phazaar

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This is win win for you.

If she heard, you can now get it out there and say 'I'm not sure how that conversation was structured as I was a little distracted when I saw you and really forgot most of it. So I think you deserve to hear it: I think you're really cute [insert other compliments here], I'd love to get to know you better, but didn't want to offend you and make an enemy out of one of the first classmates I've spoken to... [back on track with an invitation to something happening soon, or just a coffeeshop or whatever...'

The worst that happens here is that she says 'no' - rest assured, no matter how you'd approached it, if it was going to be a no, it would always have been a no.

If she didn't, she smirked at you. That means she recognises you, remembers you, and has thinks at least something positive about you (whether it's 'He has such a crush on me', 'what a cute little nerd' or 'Ask me out, dickhead' remains to be seen). This means you can 'confess' about the conversation pretending that your impression was that she definitely had heard. You can either go for the above technique, or you could be a bit more of a player and play it safe-but-harder and go down the negging route.

You suggest that you thought she heard because she made 'a bit of a face' when she saw/heard you, you explain what you were saying about her being cute, and that you hope she didn't hear anything wrong etc. because you wouldn't want to think you'd offended her. At this point, either she plays the smirk down, and accepts that she's being a douche (she made a face at you, and wasn't wrong to do that despite that what you were saying was actually really nice), which is unlikely, or as is much more likely starting with new people at a new college, she will go out of her way to prove that she didn't hear/didn't make a face/didn't mean any offense, and to prove this point, she's going to -really love- what you were saying about thinking she's cute. Instant date, if you can play it right ;)