Very critical girl problem.

[Flamezdudes]

The girl I like at the moment (From what a mutual friend tells me, she isn't sure if I like her or if she likes me) is very lonely at the moment from what she tells me and feels abandoned almost. She doesn't feel at "home" in her house and is sick of it and prefers to be at school which she feels more at home in. I was going to suggest that she could come round mine if she gets sick of her home sometimes but that sounds a little like exploiting her because I like her... I dunno, since she isn't very social.

I still want to be a caring friend and help her though by inviting her to my house sometimes but that might seem like i'm exploiting her loneliness. I really don't know!

 

[icame]

If you say you want to be a caring friend and help her out, then do just that, and tell her she can come to your house when she's feeling bad. I wouldn't make a move on her until everything is worked out with her family if I were you though.

 

[Flamezdudes]

If you say you want to be a caring friend and help her out, then do just that, and tell her she can come to your house when she's feeling bad. I wouldn't make a move on her until everything is worked out with her family if I were you though.

From what she says, it's not really anything to do with her family. It's just the general feeling she has at home compared to school and the lonely feeling she has.

 

[icame]

If you say you want to be a caring friend and help her out, then do just that, and tell her she can come to your house when she's feeling bad. I wouldn't make a move on her until everything is worked out with her family if I were you though.

From what she says, it's not really anything to do with her family. It's just the general feeling she has at home compared to school and the lonely feeling she has.

Have you tried asking her out to social events? Dances? Parties? Going to the movies? It sounds like she has no one to talk to at her house and is lonely. If that's true then the best way for her to get over it is to well...not be at her house. Or at least be her house with someone.

Also, maybe just asking her why she thinks she feels lonely at her house would be prudent...

 

[Flamezdudes]

If you say you want to be a caring friend and help her out, then do just that, and tell her she can come to your house when she's feeling bad. I wouldn't make a move on her until everything is worked out with her family if I were you though.

From what she says, it's not really anything to do with her family. It's just the general feeling she has at home compared to school and the lonely feeling she has.

Have you tried asking her out to social events? Dances? Parties? Going to the movies? It sounds like she has no one to talk to at her house and is lonely. If that's true then the best way for her to get over it is to well...not be at her house. Or at least be her house with someone.

Also, maybe just asking her why she thinks she feels lonely at her house would be prudent...

Like I said she's not social and doesn't like Dances or Parties just like dislike them aswell, they aren't really the things we do, hehe. She doesn't really know why she doesn't feel at home at her house, she says she has felt this way for a long time.

 

[icame]

If you say you want to be a caring friend and help her out, then do just that, and tell her she can come to your house when she's feeling bad. I wouldn't make a move on her until everything is worked out with her family if I were you though.

From what she says, it's not really anything to do with her family. It's just the general feeling she has at home compared to school and the lonely feeling she has.

Have you tried asking her out to social events? Dances? Parties? Going to the movies? It sounds like she has no one to talk to at her house and is lonely. If that's true then the best way for her to get over it is to well...not be at her house. Or at least be her house with someone.


Also, maybe just asking her why she thinks she feels lonely at her house would be prudent...

Like I said she's not social and doesn't like Dances or Parties just like dislike them aswell, they aren't really the things we do, hehe. She doesn't really know why she doesn't feel at home at her house, she says she has felt this way for a long time.

Hmm...does she seem depressed?

 

[Flamezdudes]

If you say you want to be a caring friend and help her out, then do just that, and tell her she can come to your house when she's feeling bad. I wouldn't make a move on her until everything is worked out with her family if I were you though.

From what she says, it's not really anything to do with her family. It's just the general feeling she has at home compared to school and the lonely feeling she has.

Have you tried asking her out to social events? Dances? Parties? Going to the movies? It sounds like she has no one to talk to at her house and is lonely. If that's true then the best way for her to get over it is to well...not be at her house. Or at least be her house with someone.


Also, maybe just asking her why she thinks she feels lonely at her house would be prudent...

Like I said she's not social and doesn't like Dances or Parties just like dislike them aswell, they aren't really the things we do, hehe. She doesn't really know why she doesn't feel at home at her house, she says she has felt this way for a long time.

Hmm...does she seem depressed?

She's never specifically used the word depressed as far as I can remember. I don't see her that much at school since we don't share any classes but online when I speak to her she can seem a little depressed sometimes I guess, it can be hard to tell.

 

[pubbing]

It sounds like she is fishing for you to ask her to hang out.

 

[Flamezdudes]

It sounds like she is fishing for you to ask her to hang out.

Really? I'm terrible at noticing signs really. I'm not really sure if that is true.
From the information my mutual friend gave me she's not sure if she likes me or not and doesn't know if she would want to ruin the friendship...

 

[icame]

It sounds like she is fishing for you to ask her to hang out.

Really? I'm terrible at noticing signs really. I'm not really sure if that is true.
From the information my mutual friend gave me she's not sure if she likes me or not and doesn't know if she would want to ruin the friendship...

Now that I think about it she could be looking for sympathy, or trying to get you to feel bad for her and want to hang out more...maybe.

 

[zombiesinc]

I still want to be a caring friend and help her though by inviting her to my house sometimes but that might seem like i'm exploiting her loneliness. I really don't know!

Yes, you like her, but you're inviting her over to give her a place to rest, away from school and her 'home'. There's nothing wrong with that. Invite her over, be her friend, go from there. If you don't ask you'll never know. She can choose to say yes and it's a win-win for everyone, or she can choose to say no, but at the very least she'll still appreciate the offer.

 

[flim.geek.chic]

You're in Highschool with this poor girl right? Things seem to get over examined in highschool. Just invite her over and go from there, keep it casual you've got all the time in the world. Just enjoy what you've got for now and let things develope, in the end it's sweeter that way .

 

[CountChocula99]

JAHO

 

[Daniel Laeben-Rosen]

I say go for it, or atleast make the offer. If anything, showing you care with something as simple as "call me if you need me" can go a long way, either way. You lose nothing by telling her she can come over if she feels she needs to.

Or, just... Ask her to the movies.

 

[rutger5000]

Invite her over, but don't touch. Any relationship be it romantically or not is based on trust. If she doesn't trust you enough to come over to your place, then a relationship is not possible. Granted you could work on that. On the other hand if she does trust you and come over, then you can't betray that trust. Then you can only be a friend. I suppose that when she is in a more stable state you should say you want to be more then friends, but that is not something you should worry about now.
I agree with Film.Geek.Chick though, you might be over reacting. But it's good to check things out first.

 

[Flamezdudes]

Invite her over, but don't touch. Any relationship be it romantically or not is based on trust. If she doesn't trust you enough to come over to your place, then a relationship is not possible. Granted you could work on that. On the other hand if she does trust you and come over, then you can't betray that trust. Then you can only be a friend. I suppose that when she is in a more stable state you should say you want to be more then friends, but that is not something you should worry about now.
I agree with Film.Geek.Chick though, you might be over reacting. But it's good to check things out first.

I do tend to think too much I guess. But she did say on Friday that she just felt like dieing, like seriously. She has regularly told me secrets and told me some things last week she hadn't even told a mutual friend of ours whom I thought she was way better friends with so she obviously trusts me a lot. But just as another mutual friend told me, this girl doesn't want to ruin the friendship we have and finds me interesting to talk to. :/

 

[RabbiiFrystofsk]

Yeah just basically take it slow, and by the sounds of it REALLY slow. As rutger5000 said no touching, although im not saying act like she has the plague just nothing that you feel induces some sort of 'weirdness' as it were.
Honestly, if you're proper good mates i'd say the last thing you should do is get into a relationship. One it could potentially ruin your friendship and if you fall head over heels over her it could end in problems (tl;dr i went out with my very good female friend, broke up, got back together, broke up, remained friends throughout but it took me FOREVER to get over her because we were so tight)
But then again it might be the best choice you ever made and it could blossom into the most beautiful relationship ever, she will be happier as will be yourself. But, fuck, that's just the roll of the dice i suppose.
Godspeed man, remember aint nothing but bitches and nike shoes.