Note: If the subject of sexual assault/rape is something that upsets you for personal reasons/whatever reasons, please do not read it may upset you.
I was reading some random thing on the internet, a feminists blog was talking about "...calling sexual assault against men what it is... rape" and it got me thinking about the whole situation.
First: The topic I'm bringing up is men who are sexualy abused by women and peoples views on it, originating from feminists comments about it.
Second: I checked out the rules sorry if I missed something but I didn't see that this sort of topic was against the rules.
Anyway back on topic... The feminists opinion was to bring awareness of sexual assault against males up and try and say "they need more sympathy!". The way it was explained by her was along the standard "rape is a horrible thing, victims of it are victims and never get over it etc. etc." (yes rape is a horrible thing, but victims will never get over it if they are constantly reminded they are victims and that its a huge thing in their life.) I know multiple people, including myself who have been sexualy assaulted/raped, some it strongly affected, others just moved on.
One of the comments that shocked me was (sumarised) "Men don't report it or get upset about it because they don't believe women can be sexualy aggressive and they can't be victims" and I just found that disguisting. The first part may be true, men don't report it because they feel it is an emasculating experience, but the way it was worded was along the lines "You guys arn't the only ones that can rape the other gender you know! When a girl gets raped it ruins her life, but when a guy gets raped he gets over it! THATS NOT FAIR!". Of course also having the idea that "a guy that says 'alright I got laid!' is wrong, he is just hurt and doesn't know how to react" was stated. Personally depending on the situation of what happened, I would say (and I even did say) "Eugh... not comfortable... but I atleast got some" thinking more on a positive note, later I just forgot about it because I treated it like such a non-issue at the time. (Before anyone says "what happened musn't have been bad" it was two girls I was extremely turned off by (in every sence) and at the time I was a staunch christian saying "no sex before marriage" nothing huge, but something that still was well and truely in the 'sexual assault' catagory)
For the guys: how do you think you would react if you were sexualy assaulted?
Everyone: Do you believe it's understandable for people to be able to just say "meh" and move on from a situation like that? or does being sexualy assaulted, whether you enjoyed it or not, always mean psychological trauma.
I was reading some random thing on the internet, a feminists blog was talking about "...calling sexual assault against men what it is... rape" and it got me thinking about the whole situation.
First: The topic I'm bringing up is men who are sexualy abused by women and peoples views on it, originating from feminists comments about it.
Second: I checked out the rules sorry if I missed something but I didn't see that this sort of topic was against the rules.
Anyway back on topic... The feminists opinion was to bring awareness of sexual assault against males up and try and say "they need more sympathy!". The way it was explained by her was along the standard "rape is a horrible thing, victims of it are victims and never get over it etc. etc." (yes rape is a horrible thing, but victims will never get over it if they are constantly reminded they are victims and that its a huge thing in their life.) I know multiple people, including myself who have been sexualy assaulted/raped, some it strongly affected, others just moved on.
One of the comments that shocked me was (sumarised) "Men don't report it or get upset about it because they don't believe women can be sexualy aggressive and they can't be victims" and I just found that disguisting. The first part may be true, men don't report it because they feel it is an emasculating experience, but the way it was worded was along the lines "You guys arn't the only ones that can rape the other gender you know! When a girl gets raped it ruins her life, but when a guy gets raped he gets over it! THATS NOT FAIR!". Of course also having the idea that "a guy that says 'alright I got laid!' is wrong, he is just hurt and doesn't know how to react" was stated. Personally depending on the situation of what happened, I would say (and I even did say) "Eugh... not comfortable... but I atleast got some" thinking more on a positive note, later I just forgot about it because I treated it like such a non-issue at the time. (Before anyone says "what happened musn't have been bad" it was two girls I was extremely turned off by (in every sence) and at the time I was a staunch christian saying "no sex before marriage" nothing huge, but something that still was well and truely in the 'sexual assault' catagory)
For the guys: how do you think you would react if you were sexualy assaulted?
Everyone: Do you believe it's understandable for people to be able to just say "meh" and move on from a situation like that? or does being sexualy assaulted, whether you enjoyed it or not, always mean psychological trauma.
