Virginity

[Biosophilogical]

How the heck can you sell virginity?

Well if you write "My virginity" on a piece of paper, you could probably have somebody buy it :/

OT: Sort of yes and sort of no. I mean, for a lot of people, losing your virginity is a fairly big milestone, and on that same hand, for some sex is a really important step in a relationship, so losing your virginity is basically saying "You are the first person I like/love enough to take this step with". On the other hand, for some people sex is just sex.

Personally, I am still a virgin, I'm not freaking out because I have no-one special in my life to freak out for, and if I did, I'd imagine I'd be comfortable enough with them that I wouldn't freak out about 'being bad' so much as not making them happy (if that makes sense).

 

[Aphex Demon]

Now this is a thread for the Escapist.

Haha xD

 

[Jamesfox849]

Not a big deal
Not scared
Shouldn't be sold
Promise rings are stupid and pointless
Wait until you find someone who you won't regret it with in 20 years.
Not any opertunity, but not neccessarily love.

but don't take my word for it, i'm still a virgin :3

 

[Nieroshai]

Virginity? Meh. Sex in context is a good thing, sex in the wrong context can mess up lives.

Sacred? In my religion, at least according to the texts, not televangelists from Texas, your past does not matter, only your present and your plans for the future.

Sold? No, I strongly believe in the immorality of prostitution. But would I outlaw it? No.

Promise rings? Personal perogative. You're probably referring to purity rings though, promising chastity. Promise rings are a promise in a couple to remain faithful only to each other even though they're not married. Essentially a "pre-engagement engagement ring." I have one of those. My fiancee lost the right to wear her purity ring a while ago, lol.

Should you wait until marriage? Context required, I suppose. Is it a good idea? Yes. Is it a must? No. I personally believe humans were designed to be monogamous and mate for life, but when we screwed up and got banished, our programming got tweaked. Marriage is legally-enforced monogamy, but I believe personally-enforced monogamy to be equally valid. Married couples can cheat, and cohabitors have been known to stick together on occasion.
I'm probably going to get the "well you're a bad christian" lecture, but honestly, where does it say "Thou must needs wed to bring forth offspring, and the brideprice shall be seven head of cattle"? Prostitution and promiscuity are openly condemned, but not personal commitments. Only once anywhere does anything close have mention: where in the Mosaic law it demands that if an unmarried man rapes an unmarried woman, he be forced to marry her and pay more than the traditional brideprice.

 

[Amy Sorel]

Big deal/not

Normal part of developing.

sacred/not sacred

Not sacred. It's nature. It was happenning looooooong before any religion started make silly claims about sex.

something that can be sold?(should it)

It is possible, and as long as there are crazy creepers ready to pay for something like that, it makes me wonder who is more crazy here, the fool or the fool who follows her?

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)

The most stupid thing ever invented by corrupt manipulative perverted people and worn by fakers, liars, cheaters, and a very small group of really shallow naive fools.

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

When you are ready for it and old enough to know how to not get pregnant.

 

[xWestie]

1) For me, personally a big deal because of certain things that happened to me v.v;
2) Not sacred, but I still think it special... If that makes any sense =/
3) No =/
4) Its a nice idea.. Assuming you mean this anyway;

Promise rings are a promise in a couple to remain faithful only to each other even though they're not married. Essentially a "pre-engagement engagement ring."

5) Love

 

[GotMalkAvian]

Big deal/not
I think virginity could be a big deal if the virgin wants it to be. After all, losing one's virginity is one of the great rites of passage. Having sex is a biological ability of an adult body, so the ability to have sex marks one as entering adulthood.

sacred/not sacred
Personally, I don't think so, but if someone really wants to wait until some predetermined point (for me, it was "until I love the person," and I don't regret it), I think it's admirable in that it takes a great deal of will and self-control to stay away from the combination of peer pressure, media saturation, and biological urge that push a young person towards sex. That said, I think a lot of people save themselves for the wrong reasons, and more than likely end up feeling let down when the moment finally comes; personally, I'm glad that I have a decent amount of sexual experience under my belt to call on when it's time to celebrate my wedding night.

something that can be sold?(should it)
I believe that a person's body is theirs to do with as they please, and that includes virginity. As long as both parties are of legal age and consent to the transaction, I really don't see any problem with selling one's virginity. Sure, they may regret it later, but how many people's first times are wonderful?

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
I personally don't think promise rings serve any purpose other than to allow religious organization to mark people as their own. A ring wouldn't prevent a teenager from having sex any more than a promise made to one's self. If anything, the ring seems to have the exact effect on some teens, constantly reminding them of sex and making sure it's on their mind more than ususal.

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
I personally believe it's a good idea to wait until love (or what my teenaged mind was absolutely certain was love...), since both partners will be mutually caring and hopefully make the experience as pleasant as possible for each other. Of course, two virgins are likely to be clumsy no matter how much they love each other; likewise, someone may have a better experience if they lose their virginity to a more experienced partner.

In conclusion, I see virginity as something completely personal. I don't think there's any right or wrong way to handle it, but I think a lot of people need to think things through a lot more carefully and consider all the options.

 

[jamesmax]

How the heck can you sell virginity?

i herd on the radio on day that a super model put her virginity on sell to millionaires and got 1.4 mil

now you may think how could they let her do that? and not put her in jail?

well the millionair "gav her" 1.4 for no reson then she "fell in love" and they had sex

she was 21 i think

 

[FamoFunk]

Big deal/not Personally not a big deal, never was when I was a virgin and now I'm not I don't really care for/about it.

sacred/not sacred No, sex is sex so it doesn't matter who you have it with first

something that can be sold?(should it)It can be, eBay lol, but that's really desprate and sad.

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good) Really stupid, I would laugh ing your face.

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?What ever is right for you. For my virginity, it was love, a lot of sex after that has been random so eh.

 

[danintexas]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not

Not really a big deal in losing it - For me (as a guy) it is more a state of mind

sacred/not sacred

To some degree I think it is

something that can be sold?

It can and has and shouldn't

Promise rings?

Pointless and stupid

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Wait till you are ready


I have read alot of the responses in here. For the record all of you who are stating sex is overrated are #1 not having good sex #2 Probably not talking with your partner about it. If you aren't rattling the walls - waking up the neighbors - seeing spots - can't walk afterwords - you are missing out greatly and I feel sorry for you.

To the ladies out there - alot of you sit there and take it. If you aren't having orgasms you need to get more in touch with yourself and you need to tell your partners what to do. Be honest and never fake it. If you fake it all you are doing is depriving yourself.

Me and my wife have been together for near 7 years and we both still love sex - don't find it boring or over rated. On average we have sex 4 to 5 times a week. I shared some of the responses here with her and she honestly is sad that so many of you don't find sex as one of the most awesome experiences you can have. I am not saying I am some sex God because I am not. But me and the wife are good enough for each other to keep us interested in each other for years so far with no sign of stopping. Don't think of yourself in bed - think of your partner. You do that and it will be a blast. If you are just there to get off - jerk it into a sock. It is quicker with much less awkwardness afterwords because it sucked.

 

[EKmannen]

As another person stated in the thread, it's truly horrible to see how the world has become. I don't look at virginity as a sacred thing, but as a sacred state. So, yes I both see it as a big deal and a sacret state. And why sell it, when the prize you get from God for waiting is much bigger than anything earthly? Promise rings is a nice idea, I guess, but if you can't hold yourself, I guess looking at a ring would help. It would be much better to force yourself to cite a bibleverse, or listen to some gospel. (I tried it when I wanted to get rid of my addiction to masturbation, and it really helped.) So of course I definetely think that you should wait for marriage. If that means I'll be a virgin forever, I'll just look at my life as service for God, and not for other people.

 

[MrJoyless]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Big Deal...ish - (unprotected sex) as in making this choice could make you a parent and if you think you are able to take on that responsibility with the person you are nailing (or willing to pay the child support/abortion) then more power to you. (protected) But if you are taking the proper precautions then i cant see why anyone makes a big deal about it.

Not Sacred - as in something you will not go spend an eternity in an unhappy place for doing (if you believe in that sort of thing)

Something that can be sold - and should be sold if there is a market for it (there is) honestly ive been to countries with legal prostitution in some areas (like Las Vegas or red light districts) and i dont see any reason to care about women selling sex...i do have issue with women being forced or coerced to have sex but that is a different issue completely.

Promise rings - good if you mean it, pointless if you dont

Should you wait till marriage - nope, as long as you are willing to acknowledge the consequences of what you are doing then go ahead and have fun.
Or at any opportunity - if you are having sex with anyone willing to serve it just remember, you arent the first customer in line, and everyone customer before you had a little sample of your drink before you got a taste...ugh what a nasty image...so wear a fucking condom

 

[BENZOOKA]

It is one of the superstitions of the human mind to have imagined that virginity could be a virtue.
- Voltaire

It certainly isn't a big deal.

 

[Krantos]

What you do is your decision.
Can never be taken back, however. Anything like that should never be rushed into.
For myself, my wife and I lost ours to each other about 2 years before we got married (2 years after we started dating). Very glad we waited.

Like I said, losing it is something that can never be undone. Therefore it's something that should not be rushed into. In the end, though, it's up to each person what they do with it.

It's not really a big deal, but for those who feel that sex is the purest expression of intimacy, it feels good to know that you and your partner have only ever shared it with each other.

 

[Wintermoot]

Whats your view on virginity- not that important to me
Big deal/not- not
sacred/not sacred- its not sacred you had sex big deal!
something that can be sold?(should it)- its your personal choice
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)-bullocks, its just a stupid ring its not that it can stop your need for sexy time
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?- any opertunity

 

[JokerCrowe]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not - A: Not really, but I want it to be right
sacred/not sacred - A: Not religious, so no
something that can be sold?(should it) - A: You lost me. Selling virginity?
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good) - A: Don't know what it is, but if it is what I think it is, it just seems pointless
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity? - A: I'll wait till Love at least

But these are just MY views on the matter, I can't speak for the general public. Let them do what they want.

 

[blaize2010]

it is a big deal at least to me, because it is a bond that you share with somebody, not some random person. i don't believe you must marry to lose it, but i do think you should put thought into it

 

[Captain Pirate]

Relatively big deal. At least, it is for me. I mean, I'd like to lose my virginity.

Sacred... hmm, depends. If it's between a loving couple/husband and wife/something along those lines, then maybe. It all depends. I personally think it is sacred.

Can be sold, doesn't mean it should though.

Promise rings? What? Like, wedding rings? I don't understand the question.

Any opportunity, as long as it's in good nature, I guess. Humanity is too driven by sex (Literally, it's our main perogative: Reproduce) to limit it to after marriage. I am a Christian, but I'd have sex without getting married.
I would sleep with someone I really like, and if we were both sober, but if it was with some drunk girl I don't like too much, but would shag, I wouldn't do it.
Actually... Wait, no. I wouldn't take advantage of a girl. Or do it with some slut.

 

[Legion]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Not a big deal, unless you want kids.
Not sacred, it's just sex for Christ sake.
That sounds strange, of course it can be, as for whether it should? *Shrugs*.
Promise rings are pointless and somewhat childish.
Any opportunity that you and the other person want to have sex, sure.

 

[CrashBang]

It is seen as a big deal and there is pressure surrounding it, everyone knows that. I lost mine at 16 and did feel pressure to lose it before I was 18 but that didn't mean I lost it with the first girl I could find. The girl I lost it to was my first real love. I've got a friend who's just turned 21 and he's still a virgin. I find that very strange and it has caused him to be crap at approaching women. I'd feel bad for him if he wasn't such a tool
I was scared. It's terrifying, IMO
It is capable of being sold but I'm firmly against it. Anyone who buys someone's virginity has mental issues
Promise rings are sad and stupid
I think you should wait til you're in love or, at least, in a solid relationship with someone you trust and see some sort of future with. I don't believe in one-night stands. Some of my mates have had them and love having them. I'll admit that I look down on them for it