Virginity

[Valksy]

Not a big deal, not scary, not sacred. If people want to wait for marriage, that's their choice but this holding up the concept of virginity as some amazing sacred thing boggles my mind.

I do vaguely recall an ebay virginity thing. It belongs to the person and if someone wants to buy it, so long as everyone is able to consent, then none of my business. I do raise an eyebrow at those who chase virgins specifically - their choice but they probably know they are a crap shag and hope that a virgin won't realise this.

Let's be honest. Like any other physical activity, you do get better with practice. Emotional resonance is good if you want it, but knowing and understanding how your body reacts is pretty damned important.

 

[MarlaminLTarmiko]

I shall just answer this in list form, as I am a lazy bastard.

Not a big deal, or at least I should assume so. First times are perpetually terrible anyway.
I'm an atheist, so the latter
I don't think it SHOULD be but if someone decides to do so then I have no objection, its their life.
As you said, pointless.
I view marriage as a somewhat pointless ritual as well, so I'll go with no. But again if someone wants to then fine, good for them.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Not especially, but I guess it is kind of a milestone in growing up.

Not really sacred. It's always better between a loving couple but that's not to say it's not fun otherwise.

Isn't that basically prostitution? Sure, I suppose you can, but you're a massive skank if you do.

Promise rings are the stupidest idea since the chastity belt.

It's up to the person. Only idiots tell eachother which is right and wrong. Personally, I didn't really care, and it was great. I would only suggest that being with someone with a little experience will make your first time better.

 

[Rosette]

I am very liberal so
not a big deal
not sacred
No
stupid
when you feel ready.

 

[Wilko316]

For me not really, I'd actually really like it too happen but I'm not as bothered as I probably should be about if it doesn't.

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, bring it on.

I don't think it should be sold, I've always thought of losing your virginity as a part of life that's one of those 'damn, I remember when...' moments. Paying for it would be like cheating yourself out of a memory.

Stupid.

Probably not marriage. Fuck yes to love, I'd much rather my first time be making love than just sex. It depends what the opportunity is really.

 

[Dyp100]

Virginity has never been a big deal for me, I can see why some people might see it as a big thing but not for me.

I have yet to have sex, because I wanna wait for someone I love but really I don't care what people do, it's their life. Sex is sex, if they wanna lose their virginity for fun then let them, if people wanna wait for marriage then they can do so.

I suppose I am a little nervous that it'll go shit my first time (as it tends to) and I'm especially wondered my first time will come pretty late and with someone who is already versed in sex.

 

[Zachary Unkle]

Big deal/not STFU Jared... Conflicts with friends aside,I don't see being a virgin as such a big deal
sacred/not sacred It's not sacred,but that doesn't mean that the first chance you get,go straight to sex.
something that can be sold?(should it) It's kind of disgusting selling your body to someone you don't even know,but people were given free will.
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good) Stupid
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity? As a catholic,I've been told to wait till marriage,but really,If I was truly in love with a girl and she was okay with it,I'd go for it.

 

[Kenko]

How the heck can you sell virginity?

From what ive heard, some wierdo's will actually pay a pretty batch of cash to take a girls virginity.

 

[higgs20]

it's as big a deal as you make it.

as far as I remember, wasn't scared.

whatever brings in the money I suppose, but how would you find a buyer, not exactly something to put on ebay.

stupid.

don't see the point if you feel ready and get the opportunity, go for it.

 

[zwoodco10]

I love all of these people that keep saying how stupid promise rings are.

So, essentially, you are saying that someone else's decision to wait until they marry the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with is stupid? What happened to being open-minded?

 

[Bonino90]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

-Not really a big deal to me
-I can't say I see it much as a sacred "thing" , If you put too much in to it, saving yourself for that special night, you will most likely just end up being disappointed. If there is love in the air and both are feeling it, go for it I say.
-Promise rings?, I think it's stupid , but hey, whatever floats your boat.
-I would say that as long as both want to, go for it. But it means more when you're doing it with someone you have feelings for in my opinion.
But I respect the people who see it in a different manner.

 

[GeorgW]

No
No
Illegal
Stupid
Any

I never placed much importance to my losing of it, and don't see why you should. I hope this was informative...

 

[cthulhumythos]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

big deal (or at least was, once i lost it, i sort of stopped caring in the slightest)

why would i be...?

you mean like prostitution? relatively certain it's illegal where i live.

stupid and pointless.

whatever's good. (opportunity seems to be the least demanding of someone as lazy/reclusive as i, so i guess i'll go with that)

 

[NeuroticDogDad]

Virginity is just an illusion. At the end of the day, if you bang your head you might forget if you have it or not.


Not implying that banging head = sex

Really? Then I've been doing it wrong all these years. Oh gosh.
Actually last time during a little... intermission I did manage to bang my head into a 5inch thick oak supportbeam.
Just saying. Sometimes bang to the head is included. And very very painful.

No, you're doing it right. I lost a tooth doing it. Nothing in this life worth having comes easy my friend.

OT: It's only worth something if you give it value. To someone who considers it a rite of passage it should be done properly. To someone who considers it relatively meaningless then don't worry about it, do it when you want.

To everyone, it really isn't that great but practice makes perfect.

 

[Jumplion]

I don't think virginity is a huge deal, but personally I'm going to wait until I can do it with someone I love and trust. When I feel ready to do the beast-with-two-backs, I'll do it. Whether that's tomorrow behind the dumpster at McDonalds or when I get married I don't know, but I'm not going to just toss it away to some random hussy or whatever because I was horny at the time.

On promise/purity rings, if it works for you, it works for you. Personally I think they're a big load, and many times they're used as a means of controlling them and are often handed out along with misinformation of other alternatives.

 

[Sir_Auron_the_Badass]

I love all of these people that keep saying how stupid promise rings are.

So, essentially, you are saying that someone else's decision to wait until they marry the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with is stupid? What happened to being open-minded?

It's not so much that they're calling the people wearing them stupid, but the rings themselves, which is understandable as if the person is truly committed to the cause they shouldn't need it, but if they get a big urge to willingly have sex, looking at a tiny piece of plastic/rubber/metal around their finger isn't going to sway their mind. I do however agree a bit with the above post, as those rings are usually handed out by religious control-freaks that feel the need to worm their way into everyone's personal lives with a lot of fear-mongering lies added in. Not that I'm saying I disrespect anyone who uses them, as long as they wear it for their own reasons, not anyone else's.

OT: Kind of important to me, but just because I'm anxious to be in that kind of relationship.
Although I'm semi-religious, I don't feel it's sacred by all the convoluted bullshit religion tries to portray it as. (Side note, I'm noticing a lot of people misread this part as scared, not sacred, but if that was the OP was actually going for, I'd say I'm a bit nervous for it given how vulnerable it can make you feel.
It can be sold, and so long as both people are willingly consenting, I don't care, though I wouldn't do it myself.
As I mentioned before, if someone commits to this kind of thing of their own free will, more power to them, but they shouldn't need the ring for that anyway.
Whenever you feel ready for it, so long as it's not forced upon someone, as I don't judge people on if they want to stay committed to a relationship to have it. Personally, I'll probably wait until love, but hell no to only after marriage unless the woman is just so perfect in every other way to wait if she wants to. I wouldn't be adverse to almost any opportunity if I continue to get turned down for relationships for the next few years though...