Was this a bad idea?

[Gmans uncle]

Okay, so I'm a senior in high school and about a month ago I came out of the closet as bisexual, which I'd known about myself for roughly 2 years. I decided to come out at a vigil some of the other LGBT students at my school where having for national transgender day of remembrance, they where all very supportive, and overall it went pretty good, I told my parents a few days later, they where very accepting too.

But that isn't my problem...

I'm also on the school news paper with one of the people I came out to, she was doing a story about the vigil, and asked if she could write something in there (not allot, just a couple sentences or so) about me coming out. Now this was at about 8:00 AM, I had been up all night, and my brain was only functioning at about half capacity, so I told her "Sure! Why not? Go ahead!" a few hours later I realized that might not have been such a great idea...

Keep in mind, at this point in time only 8, possibly 9, people know I'm bi (excluding you internet folks), when this story is printed it will be known by everyone who reads it.

On one hand, I don't really view it as a secret anymore, I have no plans on ever denying it again. Also, people are going to find out sooner or later, so they may as well find out through this, rather than rumors that will inevitably spread. Also, anyone I necessarily DON'T want to know, probably wont read the paper anyway.

On the other hand, I don't like the idea of broadcasting information that personal to just anyone, and in a close knit community like this one, if one person knows something, everyone knows it.

It's probably too late to change things now, the final drafts for all the pages are already finalized.

So guys, what do you think? Was giving her clearance to write this a bad idea?

 

[drisky]

Being out is better for your mental health. If it turns out to be a bad environment then you only have to deal with a few more months of it. It will be for the best in the end, especially if the whole school knows you won't have to bring it up.

 

[Lionsfan]

I mean if the girl thinks it's a good idea, I say trust her. Just don't treat it like a huge deal if people start pestering you about it. I would say she's only writing about you to get the point across, that hey LGBT people are everywhere now and it's nothing to be ashamed of

 

[Angie7F]

How much distribution does your school newspaper get?
Does it go online?
How are you perceived by others in school?
Do you have any career plans that may be effected by this?

Do you care about any of the questions above???

 

[Chrisnya]

How much distribution does your school newspaper get?
Does it go online?
How are you perceived by others in school?
Do you have any career plans that may be effected by this?

Do you care about any of the questions above???

These are all good questions, unless people are jerks where you're from it shouldn't be a problem.
Main point is if you don't make a big deal out of it (Which you shouldn't) Other people shouldn't either.

 

[Angie7F]

I just remembered.

there was a guy in college that was soooo obviously gay, and everyone at school knew he was gay.
But he hadn't officially come out until several weeks before graduation.

Everyone acted like "oh really?",
but inside they were more like "You hadn't come out yet? I thought that was given...".

Being bi is a little bit different from this example,
but sometimes people are just totally ok about it all.
It might have helped that we were in a very metropolitan university (Central Tokyo, 15 mins from the biggest Gay town in the country), very diverse in sexuality & nationality, and well educated (not being elitist but urban, educated population tend to be more open minded, right?) and mature enough to handle the concept.

i hope that you evaluate your surroundings well, and like Chrisnya said, not surrounded by jerks.

 

[NightmareWarden]

I recommend that you talk to the person who wrote that portion of the article and learn more about how it might have been edited from her version, exactly what she put, etc. You don't need to fake how you feel about the article to this portion, because she should be understanding that if something is blown out of proportion, then it would be her fault. Was it a bad idea? It depends on what she wrote, in all honesty.