Well I think I'm getting a divorce....

[MrStab]

Well my parents went through a divorce and if you manage to do it cleanly and speak to each other with a degree civility afterwards instead of going around the house ranting about how much you hate each other then he shouldn't take it to badly, unless whoever gets custody pulls some batshit crap and tries to prevent the other parent from seeing him then that will be bad.

Also it sounds like you'll have a good chance of getting custody seeing as you own the house (assuming it's in your or your mothers name) and you have a steady job. Is he in school yet? Because that argument will help you in regards to getting custody.

Whatever you do avoid arguing in front of your kid because that is a real **** of a thing to deal with and no matter how he takes it, it will stick with him.

 

[Superlative]

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It has been said before, but i think you need to head to marriage therapy before you end the marriage.

selfish or not, your wife feels like there is something missing. she may be bored and want a change of scenery, she may be full of regret at not getting her degree and wants to do it now before life intervenes more than it already has. no mater what the actual reason is, she isn't happy and that unhappiness should be addressed. try a therapist, try offering her the option of going to school by herself with the promise you and the kid will vist her as often as your job allows, but those things should be tried a few times before you end the relationship.

 

[Risingblade]

Go talk to a good divorce lawyer first, you don't want to end up losing your house just cause she feels spiteful.