well, my parents were together since they were 15...so even after 10 years and a child at age 25 its not serious? (now they are both 45 and still together)quiet_samurai said:
what age can you have a serious, deep relationship?
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i think it depends on the person, however i'm going to say the older the ppl involved the better, ie over 20 or so
it's possible you could have one under 20 but i think it's mostly wishful thinking about the relationship and what it is
it's possible you could have one under 20 but i think it's mostly wishful thinking about the relationship and what it is
Some people tend to mature (mentally) more quickly than others. Therefore, it's a little hard to tell when someone can have a truly meaningful relationship.
On the flip side, it is safe to assume that (in the U.S., anyway) the younger a person is, the harder it will be for them to establish meaningful relationships. Consider the twelve year-old, for a moment; they do not have the freedoms or the experiences that twenty-two year-olds can claim to have. They have not yet developed the social skills to start abstract word-play, nor can they assume to have been punched into 'the real world' just yet. Their ideas of romanticism are probably lesser than most would imagine, not to mention they probably lack the ability to fully express their sexual drives/motives.
I speak for the culture of the United States, of course, as other cultures I am unable to speak of. It just seems natural to assume that the younger one is, the less capable they are of 'real' relationships. Guys need to mature to the point where they're willing to settle down, for the most part, while girls need to mature to the point where they understand what they're looking for in a man. Not that either side is exempt from having to accomplish both feats, it just appears that such is the majority of the problem in today's society. When a man wants to be a 'player,' he is unwilling to stop and think about quality. When a women just wants to hook up with any random guy (granted, he's decent-looking), she is unwilling to truly consider his values. The curve seems to go up when people get older, but can fluctuate depending on one's experiences.
On the flip side, it is safe to assume that (in the U.S., anyway) the younger a person is, the harder it will be for them to establish meaningful relationships. Consider the twelve year-old, for a moment; they do not have the freedoms or the experiences that twenty-two year-olds can claim to have. They have not yet developed the social skills to start abstract word-play, nor can they assume to have been punched into 'the real world' just yet. Their ideas of romanticism are probably lesser than most would imagine, not to mention they probably lack the ability to fully express their sexual drives/motives.
I speak for the culture of the United States, of course, as other cultures I am unable to speak of. It just seems natural to assume that the younger one is, the less capable they are of 'real' relationships. Guys need to mature to the point where they're willing to settle down, for the most part, while girls need to mature to the point where they understand what they're looking for in a man. Not that either side is exempt from having to accomplish both feats, it just appears that such is the majority of the problem in today's society. When a man wants to be a 'player,' he is unwilling to stop and think about quality. When a women just wants to hook up with any random guy (granted, he's decent-looking), she is unwilling to truly consider his values. The curve seems to go up when people get older, but can fluctuate depending on one's experiences.
I am pretty sure some kids in sixth grade..(Around 11-12-13) were having sex at my school.orannis62 said:
I'm glad you're a guy, many males get riled up when a female implies they take longer to mature.ravensheart18 said:
I agree, though there are probably some crossovers from both genders.
Oh, I'm sure there were some at my school as well, it just wasn't really the norm. Or maybe I was just oblivious. Who knows?Bulletinmybrain said:
Obviously depends, like everything ever posted on these forums. Like pointed out, some 12-year-olds have more serious relationships than adults.
If I have to point my finger at a number I'd say 14 though, that's when I had my first one and that was indeed quite serious and 'deep'.
If I have to point my finger at a number I'd say 14 though, that's when I had my first one and that was indeed quite serious and 'deep'.
Honestly, if you're getting drunk on a regular basis, you're not mature enough for a serious relationship.duckfi8 said:
I believe there is no set age that people are mature enough for a serious relationship.
Adults who have multiple divorces aren't mature enough, even though they may be in their late 40s or 50s.
However I've seen 14 year olds who were mature enough to have a genuine, serious relationship.
I dunno... my grandparents were in their 20's when they married and were married up until they died at like 75 and 78. So I guess 20-29 is certainly in range.
Age != maturity
Personal experience: there was no way in hell I was ready for a serious relationship in high school. At the same time, I know people who are now engaged to their high school sweethearts. Either they were desperate to ditch the stigma of being single, or they were fortunate enough to find a genuine soulmate at age 16.
Conclusion: It's a personal thing. I had my own demons to face that prevented me from forming serious relationships (romantic or otherwise), while other people were secure enough in themselves to take on that kind of responsibility. If a person is ready, they're ready, regardless of age.
Personal experience: there was no way in hell I was ready for a serious relationship in high school. At the same time, I know people who are now engaged to their high school sweethearts. Either they were desperate to ditch the stigma of being single, or they were fortunate enough to find a genuine soulmate at age 16.
Conclusion: It's a personal thing. I had my own demons to face that prevented me from forming serious relationships (romantic or otherwise), while other people were secure enough in themselves to take on that kind of responsibility. If a person is ready, they're ready, regardless of age.