I kind of want that girl to have a few things... perhaps too many, but I guess I hold myself up to a high standard so why shouldn't I look for a girl who also holds herself up to a high standard (note: this does not mean high maintenance).
Intelligent: able to stay on track with what I talk about, but also able to say things that have meaning to them. I want someone who doesn't just use her eyes to be alluring, but rather she uses them to observe and attempt to understand the world and bring those unique viewpoints out with language, conversation. I am able to talk a lot, but I like listening more.
Musical: While knowing music theory inside out isn't a must, I'd like a girl who knows a key or two. It's amazing what those keys can unlock when you use them right. Plus I think it'd be awesome to be a hippy and jam out with a girl - get to know her through song =D
Cute: Cute is very difficult to define. I tend to think of it as confidence combined with energy/wit. Basically a girl (or woman I suppose will be the proper term) whose confident in herself and doesn't think that being called cute is a bumblebee nickname (it's cute but it stings). I'd much rather call a girl cute because I think it means she is effortlessly attractive and that her energy is the thing that intrigues me, not her rack or ass, but her eyes and smile and the way she'll wear her hair. Cute is a girl that doesn't have to try to be beautiful to be beautiful. Most girls have this, they just don't realize it.
Athletic: She is capable of moving her body and not afraid to push her heart. I am a very physical person... I like working out with martial arts, cardio, even some weights from time to time because it makes me feel good. It makes my heart stronger. I do these things not only so I'll be more attractive but so my heart can take it the next time some girl's look steals my breath and quickens my pulse like a poison (okay, maybe not as harsh as a poison). Anyhow, the point is that I love exercising and wouldn't mind finding a woman who also likes exercising. Perhaps we can then get exercise together somewhere besides the normal place for it in a relationship between two people. I like a woman with a strong heart if only so I can get inspiration by listening when we're close together =)
Good kisser: so lips are integral for talking, but also for kissing. I kind of don't understand people who don't like to kiss. I kind of don't want to understand them. I've kissed a girl who seemed like she was holding everything back. I guess this either means she wasn't interested or wasn't a good kisser; either way it meant that there's no way it could work out between us. I've never had a woman make the first move for a kiss. I wouldn't mind finding out what that felt like though.
Personality: This one is also kind of difficult to describe. I love listening to people and being a sort of pressure valve. I've learned over many years to just listen rather than editorialize and offer suggestions, and I certainly don't mind, but there's something of a limit on it. If you go through life thinking that everything is out to get you, and everyone sucks, and everyone hates you (dated someone like this and it was horrible), then you're right. There are times when life sucks. Being diagnosed with diabetes with no family history and when I was a really skinny kid, I am well aware that life can suck. A lot. However, this does not give one free reign to complain about it all the time. If she's super pessimistic, I will just want to not talk to her, and I love talking and listening too much. Deal breaker. I want a woman who thinks through things, is capable of realizing that life can suck, but is more motivated to make the most of it.
If anyone out there is like that, there's a damn good chance we'd be great friends. If that person is also a girl, she's probably already in a relationship with a great guy, and I just hope to one day actually hold such an esteemed title as "that girl's boyfriend" too.
