What do you think a relationship is about?

[Bertylicious]

Not been in a relationship myself, but I'd be happy with someone to just cuddle with.

There are plenty of other things, but that's the first thing that comes to mind.

Oh, Oh, I've never found out. You, people that had relationships, If you're with the person for years, does the love feeling fade out some or is it still very much the same except with a side of boredom? Barring of course some big problems like constant arguing or cheating that would sour it.

Relationships are a bit like Vietnam; when you're in it you can only think about getting out and when you're out you can't stop thinking about getting back in.

Being a human is hard.

 

[Lieju]

You, people that had relationships, If you're with the person for years, does the love feeling fade out some or is it still very much the same except with a side of boredom? Barring of course some big problems like constant arguing or cheating that would sour it.

Biologically, the initial crazy attraction fades and turns into more stable attachment;

First you're madly in love, can't think of anything else etc. Then when you're in a relationship it becomes more mundane attachment but one that also isn't as stressful.

http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm

It's all hormones and brain-chemistry.
What's so difficult to understand about it from a completely rational point of view?

 

[kommando367]

That varies from relationship to relationship.

Sometimes, it's love and and trust. Sometimes it's lust. Sometimes 1 or both in the relationship enjoy being abused. etc...

 

[gewuerzgurke]

Wow that is quite a big question you ask there. I think we have sufficiently established that there are a lot of different reason depending on the combination of people who are in it. So the most I can contribute to this is saying how it is for me. After a lot of trial and error at one point I came to the conclusion that for me, there is one big difference between wanting a relationship and not wanting it. And that's the plan to build a life together. Everything else I can think of (or have experienced) also works with one of the loads of other possible arangements between two (or more) people.

 

[Angie7F]

I just have a companion that I can trust for life.
I used to look for more specific stuff but right now that is what relationships mean to me.
I know that my partner will always love me, will have my back, protect me from people that mean harm to me, and wil always try to understand me.