What does it feel like to "miss" somebody?

[The Procrastinated End]

Its the feeling that you'd rather have that person with you then where ever they actually are.
If you need explanations for this your either a sociopath or one of those idiots trying to seem cold and emotionless.

 

[Blue_vision]

You want to talk to, or be near, someone, but can't. And then you feel annoyed, or sad, because you can't be near or talk to them.

This would be my description.

I'm really annoyed by those people that are like "omg I miss you like I haven't seen you in 3 days!" though. That's not really missing someone, that's just boredom.

 

[GoldenCondor]

Its the feeling that you'd rather have that person with you then where ever they actually are.
If you need explanations for this your either a sociopath or one of those idiots trying to seem cold and emotionless.

Neither actually, but nice try. It's almost like you assume everybody feels the same way about everything all the time.

 

[Danzaivar]

You just feel slightly "off". Not really any way to describe it. Kind of like VERY mild shock, I suppose.

 

[manythings]

Well to put it down mechanically missing a person is the sense of lacking created when that person is expected by your brains preset "Normal". Life without the person is normal till you meet them, the more they are around the more normal their presence becomes. When they are gone your adjusted normal highlights the fact that they are not present. If you are attached to a person positively you feel bad for their absence, conversely if you see them as a negative component in your life you feel relief at their absence.

Interesting, I can see what you mean and this is probably the best description out of all of these.

OKAY, what if I feel like that right after being with the person, then over night or the next day I feel normal again. Does that just mean I let go easily?

It could be a sign that you just don't naturally dwell or just kind of expect people to not be there later. A lot of people would call that terrible but a forming tenet of Buddhism is the acceptance of the transcience of existence. Once you meet a person you will be parted whether in 10 minutes or 50 years one of you will eventually be gone. They hold that to internalise this fact and to live your life without it affecting you is a pretty enlightened way of thinking.

 

[lacktheknack]

To "miss" someone is to think "I wanna talk to this person! Oh wait... they aren't here..." And then you feel a pang of sadness. Length of pang varies from person to person.

That's really it.

 

[Scout Tactical]

I've been ponderin

I've been pondering this, when dating someone over and over again. They keep telling me "I miss you" and things along those lines. Through text, phone call, and even in person they tell me they miss me. The only proper response is "I miss you too", though, and there's a problem there. I don't MISS anyone. I don't really understand the point of this "emotion", or what it even feels like. I feel normal with a person, and without. Just better when the person is around.

Can anybody explain to me what "missing" somebody feels like? Because usually when I use a word, I have a feeling I should use it. Definitely not the case with the words "missing you". I also want to know if this has anything to do with us Russians having hearts as cold as the beets we harvest?

I have been pondering this for some time recently. You see, for the longest time, I did not understand the emotion, much like you. I also don't think I truly understood the emotion of "love". I'm not talking about Hollywood Love, or the "love" you have for your family, just for the sake of being family. It's a really hard to describe bond that I've only recently come into contact with. Separating with that person has led me to better understand the emotion of "missing" someone.

Let me try to be as literal and unmetaphorical as possible. The feeling is sort of like a vague emptiness. I never understood the description of loss that many authors have given in this way until I felt it. Your mind will drift to that person on occasion. You feel a strong attraction to them, even when they aren't around. I'm not talking about a lustful attraction (especially if it's a family member), but the kind of attraction you feel toward being around a good friend: if you really like to hang out with friends, it's a similar inclination.

So, in summary, my experiences with "missing someone" are: a vague emptiness that can't be described well, a warm attraction, like what you would feel toward doing something you like, or being with friends and having a good time, and a drifting mind.

Side note: Don't feel bad for not truly missing your family! I never have yet in my life, but I am sure there will come a time. I have the same dilemma when they tell me "I miss you" as well.

 

[Wing Dairu]

I agree with you, most people I don't "miss", but I have missed my mate, and it was a hollow, empty feeling, and it was very scary on a very deep psychological level.

 

[Julianking93]

To miss someone is to feel a bit of sadness or longing to talk to them again.

Sorry to hear that you don't have the same emotions towards people like that. It's nice to feel that way for another and to know they feel the same for you.

 

[RanD00M]

It feels lik-... No wait, I'm thinking about murder on that one. Well it's like wh-.... Nope,that's the feeling I get when torturing for fun.... I don't really know what missing someone feels like. Or not that I can remember.

 

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

I...well, I just want them to be here.

 

[Broady Brio]

You'll feel it when it happens. It's not exactly pleasant.

 

[Andalusa]

It sucks.
I get a kind of sinking feeling in my stomach and feel really lost without that person, but when I get to see them again I feel instantly lifted.

 

[Thedayrecker]

It's hard to explain emotions to someone who doesn't feel them. It's like trying to explain color to a creture without eyes. (Where did I hear that?)

 

[Beryl77]

To try to really explain it to you, is like trying to explaing colors to a person who's been blind for his whole life.
Edit: damn, ninja'd

 

[hazabaza1]

You get the feeling that next time you should be more accurate.

Oh, like that.
I dunno, never really happened to me.

 

[SnipErlite]

Just....being without them seems kinda empty. Before you got to know them and enjoyed being with them being alone was...normality. But after you become that close to someone, when you're not with them it all sort of feels....more boring. You just feel that right now, you'd rather be with them. For the whole day, you'd rather be with them.

If it doesn't feel nice to not be with them, then you miss them - At least that's what I think.



And now I miss that person - great >.>

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

I'm pretty sure you're either heartless or really just don't care about people

OT Right now I'm in college and my girlfriend is back home so I'm pretty in tune with the this emotion you call "missing". You miss someone when you wish you could be with them and you can't. You want to experience their presence, voice, and touch. The absence of these things makes you feel empty or lonely. I have a sickness! and the only prescription, is YOU!