What does it feel like to "miss" somebody?
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The loneliness kicks in first. The lost of of something you used to trust in and believe in. The idea that is gone. A hole in your heart that you made especially for them to fill to only have it yanked out and filled with nothingness. Sometimes it heals, sometimes you just remember old times.
It'll be different and you won't truly get 100% over it, but you can ease it
It'll be different and you won't truly get 100% over it, but you can ease it
when you miss someone you feel a sadness in your heart because you wanna be with them which sucks but on the other hand if you never miss someone youll never feel the happiness of seeing that person
To miss somebody is to feel somewhat more lethargic when they aren't around, and just less happy. Not depressed, but you don't reach a state of elation. I'm missing somebody very close to me now, but I'll feel much better tomorrow, since that's when she's coming back~
The more independent you are as a person, the less likely you are to feel it. Love is a kind of interdependence, so if your "other half" is somewhere else when you're used to seeing them all day, you will feel empty and unfulfilled until they appear.
It's part of our evolutionary response to being alone (and this is why the feeling is akin to general loneliness as far as the physical sensations go), which is generally more dangerous than sticking with others.
The feeling is easy to describe. It will register in different ways or different people, but it's essentially an unease in the guts, down around your stomach and intestines. It is like a combination of worry and loneliness (because irrational worry about a partner would have forced men in particular to keep looking for the women in a tribe to ensure the safety of babies).
The feeling can be intense or dull, depending on your intensity of connection to the person, how long you've known them, and the nature of where they are (obviously a death is going to hit home much more than a day without a lover, though you might not agree at the time due to the feelings being irrational).
So in short, if you are an independent or apathetic type, and you don't really need others, and are used to being alone, you will find that these feelings are very rare for you. And due to them not being defined by past experience, you may also not recognise them for what they are, if they do come.
It's part of our evolutionary response to being alone (and this is why the feeling is akin to general loneliness as far as the physical sensations go), which is generally more dangerous than sticking with others.
The feeling is easy to describe. It will register in different ways or different people, but it's essentially an unease in the guts, down around your stomach and intestines. It is like a combination of worry and loneliness (because irrational worry about a partner would have forced men in particular to keep looking for the women in a tribe to ensure the safety of babies).
The feeling can be intense or dull, depending on your intensity of connection to the person, how long you've known them, and the nature of where they are (obviously a death is going to hit home much more than a day without a lover, though you might not agree at the time due to the feelings being irrational).
So in short, if you are an independent or apathetic type, and you don't really need others, and are used to being alone, you will find that these feelings are very rare for you. And due to them not being defined by past experience, you may also not recognise them for what they are, if they do come.
It's basically feeling like you've eaten something bad, only you can tell that it's an emotion. I guess it's like a less painful variety of heartburn, set in the area around the bellybutton.
Well it depends on who you're talking about, and what's happened. If they're dead, I think the concept is pretty easy to grasp. If you don't miss someone after they die, you'd hardly have known them at all. As for just not being around them, the only person I really miss is my girlfriend. As many have said, it's pretty hard to describe an abstract concept, like hunger, it's just primal and there and you feel it and if you haven't you can't understand it.
Congrats dear chap, you have officially become a robot. Missing someone is when you want to be closer to someone at that moment and can't.
I find it awesome. I have absolutely no sympathy/empathy, and don't have a real emotional connection to anybody, and I find it pretty useful. It's like an evolution over normal mankind because you're not held back from happiness or success (or 'greatness' if you want to feel a little bit megalomaniacal) by anyone else's feelings.Plurralbles said:
To truly miss someone is to have this painful, sucking feeling in your chest. You know the only thing that will make it go away is to see and speak to the person you're missing. To have them smile with you, hold you, and tell you how much they love you and cherish the time you have together. But, you know that it's not going to happen, so the sucking pain in your chest gets worse and worse in one foul, diabolical loop.
It's not like there isn't a phrase for it in Russian (Po tebe skuchayu).
Russians definitely feel it. It's the feeling that you're alone, but not just that you're alone, that you're alone specifically because you are lacking someone else, even if you're with other friends or family, that someone specific isn't there and that there is something missing.
In the early part of most relationships you'll find that you're thinking of the other person at odd times, and you might get the sensation that they're seeping into the empty spaces in your mind and filling them up when you're not preoccupied with someone else. Most of the time that sensation fades after a while, but in the best relationships, it stays, and that is when you are missing someone, when the memories of them that are filling up the gaps in your thoughts are so strong that you feel an almost physical reaction to them (or maybe you do have a physical reaction to some of those memories, the memory of a touch or something).
I think a lot of people say "I miss you" without meaning it much, just as some people when in a relationship will say "I love you" without feeling it. To me they're two sides of the same coin. When you love someone, it feels like they fill you up and complete you, and when you're in love, they feel the same way about you. If you're apart and not occupied with something else, you'll feel that something isn't right or that you want something else, and you'll realize that it is your significant other.
I can definitely say that this feeling is stronger in my current relationship than it ever has been before, and it hasn't worn off even though it's been a good while yet. To me that's a sign that there is something truly different about this one
Russians definitely feel it. It's the feeling that you're alone, but not just that you're alone, that you're alone specifically because you are lacking someone else, even if you're with other friends or family, that someone specific isn't there and that there is something missing.
In the early part of most relationships you'll find that you're thinking of the other person at odd times, and you might get the sensation that they're seeping into the empty spaces in your mind and filling them up when you're not preoccupied with someone else. Most of the time that sensation fades after a while, but in the best relationships, it stays, and that is when you are missing someone, when the memories of them that are filling up the gaps in your thoughts are so strong that you feel an almost physical reaction to them (or maybe you do have a physical reaction to some of those memories, the memory of a touch or something).
I think a lot of people say "I miss you" without meaning it much, just as some people when in a relationship will say "I love you" without feeling it. To me they're two sides of the same coin. When you love someone, it feels like they fill you up and complete you, and when you're in love, they feel the same way about you. If you're apart and not occupied with something else, you'll feel that something isn't right or that you want something else, and you'll realize that it is your significant other.
I can definitely say that this feeling is stronger in my current relationship than it ever has been before, and it hasn't worn off even though it's been a good while yet. To me that's a sign that there is something truly different about this one
