What does it feel like to "miss" somebody?

[Gralian]

So many emotionless people here in The Escapist, makes me so sad, so very, very sad.

I think that's just a product of modern day society, not the Escapist. In fact, there's far more people in here with emotion than i know of in the real world. Maybe it has something to do with desensitisation and the deconstruction of things like romanticism.

To miss somebody is to feel lonely. Not lonely in the need for the company of others, but lonely because that person isn't there. You feel like you want to talk to them about something - anything - just because they're there. Sometimes discussion isn't even needed and you just feel better knowing that person is with you. Missing someone who you haven't seen for a long time (over a week) can also be the equivalent to very mild depression, if you want to try to value it along something a bit more definable.

 

[BlackWidower]

As Lieutenent Commander Data once put it: "As I experience certain sensory input patterns my mental pathways become accustomed to them. The inputs eventually are anticipated and even missed when absent."



...that's all I got today.

 

[GoldenCondor]

It's not like there isn't a phrase for it in Russian (Po tebe skuchayu).

Russians definitely feel it. It's the feeling that you're alone, but not just that you're alone, that you're alone specifically because you are lacking someone else, even if you're with other friends or family, that someone specific isn't there and that there is something missing.

In the early part of most relationships you'll find that you're thinking of the other person at odd times, and you might get the sensation that they're seeping into the empty spaces in your mind and filling them up when you're not preoccupied with someone else. Most of the time that sensation fades after a while, but in the best relationships, it stays, and that is when you are missing someone, when the memories of them that are filling up the gaps in your thoughts are so strong that you feel an almost physical reaction to them (or maybe you do have a physical reaction to some of those memories, the memory of a touch or something).

I think a lot of people say "I miss you" without meaning it much, just as some people when in a relationship will say "I love you" without feeling it. To me they're two sides of the same coin. When you love someone, it feels like they fill you up and complete you, and when you're in love, they feel the same way about you. If you're apart and not occupied with something else, you'll feel that something isn't right or that you want something else, and you'll realize that it is your significant other.

I can definitely say that this feeling is stronger in my current relationship than it ever has been before, and it hasn't worn off even though it's been a good while yet. To me that's a sign that there is something truly different about this one

After thinking about it, I think I just don't want to toss the word around. And I was joking about the Russian thing

Alright, So I came back from my girlfriends house today, and I told her I don't fall in love easy and she got all mad and sad and stuff. And then see tried to define love and she stopped being mad and saw what I thought. That's all part of missing someone, I guess.

******It should come with time, but I think that the further you are away from someone, the more excited you will be when you finally see them. So, maybe I do miss people, I just look at the bright sides of things.*****

This thread helped.

 

[Death God]

Lacking empathy or connection to people kind of sucks dude.

This sums up. I've got no solid advice because I've never felt that.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Mm.... to miss someone is to want to hear their voice when silence falls around you, to crave the feeling of their arms around you at night, to desire the comfort of their presence with you when you're alone. Sometimes it makes you restless, fidgety. Other times, it just leaves you cold or makes you vaguely queasy deep in the pit of your stomach.

I miss my boyfriend intensely, and the knowledge that I only have another week or so to wait before I see him again and feel that physical connection between us just makes me restless and antsy. I feel like pacing the floor and counting the hours, but calling him or seeing him on cam or wrapping his shirt around my shoulders helps.

 

[Zapotec]

Maybe you have a point. I don't think I expressed myself clearly here. Although once I locked myself out of my car and I seriously missed my keys then

 

[ImprovizoR]

I have a feeling you will find out when someone close to you dies. Which is inevitable by the way, because everyone dies.

 

[Arawn.Chernobog]

It's just a form of illogical fear that grows due to personal insecurities of one's own stance in a relationship, we lie and say it's a "longing to be with a person" when it's in fact a way of saying "Oh my god, I'm not watching you right now! COME BACK BEFORE YOU F*CK SOMEONE ELSE!".

Usually present in those new to relationships in general, controlling and abusive boyfriends/girlfriends trying to be "loving" and those who have severe self-image issues.