Well done sir. I entered this thread to ensure it had at least one Haddaway joke, and you have met and surpassed my expectations.Hero in a half shell said:
OT: Love is apparently Oxytocin.
What is Love to YOU?
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OT: Love is apparently Oxytocin.
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Technically no one has Aspergers Syndrome any more. The DSM-5 has removed Aspergers as a distinct diagnosis and folded it into Autism (which is increasingly a catch-all category). The new term is "ASD", or "Autism Spectrum Disorder".DVS BSTrD said:
A cute young sweet hearted girl, with lovely eyes, a beautiful smile, and a snap-back hat...
What? I find snap-backs adorable on women :3
Other then that "love" to me is a personality thats always bubbly, that is never down no matter what hardships come along, and to know that both of those same personalities together form a perfect sensation of comfort and likeness, without the intimacy or lust. Where true happiness is found, that can be shared with another human-being that accepts you for who you are.
And being philosophical on internet forums about love. Why am I typing this when I lack a relationship?! *shivers*
What? I find snap-backs adorable on women :3
Other then that "love" to me is a personality thats always bubbly, that is never down no matter what hardships come along, and to know that both of those same personalities together form a perfect sensation of comfort and likeness, without the intimacy or lust. Where true happiness is found, that can be shared with another human-being that accepts you for who you are.
And being philosophical on internet forums about love. Why am I typing this when I lack a relationship?! *shivers*
Well, thank you for such wonderful advice. I'll just run out into the streets and fall in love now. Of course to do so I would have to completely disregard what a psychologist described as "a very low emotional response level."asap said:
On topic: I am probably the least qualified person in the world to comment on the nature of love seeing as I've never so much as had a crush on anyone in my entire life, and unlike the fellow up above with Asperger's I'm not even that fond of my relatives.
It sounds like an ignorant thing to say.asap said:
Self-Preservation is quite an intrinsic nature among most humans so it'd be stupid just to do as you would advise.
Can you honestly say without a doubt "LOVE" is the most important thing there is? Because I would like to disagree heavily. Which is why I even made this thread in the first place.
Your definition of love is the very reason I despise such a convoluted term and if man's endeavors or my own accomplishments in life have taught me anything then no. This romanticized tripe you call love is not necessary to one's life at all times.
Well, I play tennis, so love means nothing to me.
*Rimshot*
On a serious note, I see love as an emotional attachment to something. The object in question dictates the type of love. If we're talking about romantic love, which is probably the most relevant to you guys, then I think it's opening up yourself to someone else, as they open up to you, and sharing both your burdens and your joys. I think that it's a word that has inherent emotional power which is lost through repetition.
As far as familial love goes, that's a touchy one for me. Using a personal example, it's inviting your mom for Christmas and sharing your house, even though you don't trust her at all.
Friend-wise, it's someone who has your back. You don't need to agree on everything or have the same aspirations; it's them crashing on your couch when they've got nothing and helping them back on their feet, and them doing the same for you.
Really, it's not this mysterious force that binds the universe together. It's something you do, and something you share, and sometimes it fades or breaks, then it hurts, but then you find it again if you can. I recommend it.
*Rimshot*
On a serious note, I see love as an emotional attachment to something. The object in question dictates the type of love. If we're talking about romantic love, which is probably the most relevant to you guys, then I think it's opening up yourself to someone else, as they open up to you, and sharing both your burdens and your joys. I think that it's a word that has inherent emotional power which is lost through repetition.
As far as familial love goes, that's a touchy one for me. Using a personal example, it's inviting your mom for Christmas and sharing your house, even though you don't trust her at all.
Friend-wise, it's someone who has your back. You don't need to agree on everything or have the same aspirations; it's them crashing on your couch when they've got nothing and helping them back on their feet, and them doing the same for you.
Really, it's not this mysterious force that binds the universe together. It's something you do, and something you share, and sometimes it fades or breaks, then it hurts, but then you find it again if you can. I recommend it.
Don't get me wrong, I lack a severe sense of "where the fuck I'm going". I'm trying to finish highschool but can't find funding to assist me with it. Thought of getting a job but then I'm reminded I don't deal with what I call "Flagrant Moronicism" very well. If I had to put it in simple terms. I'm Dr. House. Minus the MD status. Strangely, once people get to know me they trust that I've got their back so long as they've got mine. I've lost a lot of friends/girlfriends throughout the years and occasionally I do miss their company. But things happen, people change. If anything, I'd honestly have to say Video games allowed me to develop myself to this point.(Weird I know.) FFIX, The Legend of Zelda OoT, Majora's Mask and a handful of others really shaped my reality. I also find myself relating to the main Antagonists in many movies/shows. They just seem more believable, more relatable, more psychologically damaged I guess.DVS BSTrD said:
Whilst technically true(And really, really sad to think about because the wide difference between "autism spectrum" and the varying degree's of Asperger), I was diagnosed 10 years ago. I'll stick to what they called it, though I tell people "I'm autistic. If you're speaking to me, I'm paying attention. If you're across the room speaking, I can still hear you. I'm hyper sensitive to touch, sight, sound, taste and scent. Trust me, it might not seem like I'm paying attention to you or even acknowledging your presence, but I can repeat word for word with perfectly imitated pitch/emotion what you said to me at any given moment." So...yeah.BloatedGuppy said:
*Puts troll hat on* BAAAAAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAAA Get a load of this guy...asap said:
*takes hat off*
You don't need to feel love to want to live your life by assisting others. I have a deep passion for psychology and am able to give a mostly unbiased and detached analysis of people(s) lives/circumstances/personal fights because I've learned to place myself in others minds that goes beyond the normal levels of "Empathetic comparison". If you honestly believe you require "love" to be happy you need to re-evaluate terms that have become bastardized in our society. Things like "Manipulating" come to mind.
The stigma behind Manipulation really pisses me off. Because at the end of the day, everyone. EVERY. LAST. ONE. OF. US/YOU. Uses manipulation in some form or another. You do your homework because it gets you better grades, ergo, you're manipulating circumstances to push yourself forward. You act nice to your crush so they think of you in a better light, IE Manipulating your actions to tailor to their needs and make you a better potential mate. Childrearing is long term manipulation in the hopes of creating a spawn worthy of praise by your peers, making you look better. If more people embraced that fact, we'd all live happier lives. People would do careers because their deeply motivated, the manipulations they do create happiness in both others and themselves.(Though naturally that's a bit too utopian for human endeavor.) But I'll leave it at that for the moment.
Love is the way I feel about my sister, I would do anything for her, from protecting her with my life to playing with her. Love is trust mixed with emotional attachment and it is what drives relationships.
Love is a completely physical, mental and spiritual experience. I found it to be the most fulfilling thing to feel, an accomplishment and an emotion all wrapped up in one. At least it was for me.
I think very differently than I did two years ago...
hmm...Love...It makes you need to be someone, once you found it you can not let go of it or stand being without it.
yes you cant know love before you felt it and real love is rare. there is strong sympathy and sexual attraction, b ut love is more than that.
I found it with my current boyfriend, its physical, mental and emotional, more than just being compatible.
some things are more than the sum of their parts.
yes you cant know love before you felt it and real love is rare. there is strong sympathy and sexual attraction, b ut love is more than that.
I found it with my current boyfriend, its physical, mental and emotional, more than just being compatible.
you formulate those words with your brain, its an organ, functioning with low level of electricity, neuronal connections that have been formed throughout your life, make you who you are and make you type those words. Like a mechanical music box being made of cogwheels and sprins, none of its parts alone does much, but in the right configuration and some winding-up it plays music.Rastelin said:
some things are more than the sum of their parts.
Love is when that first infatuation passes, and you still like spending as much time as you can with your girlfriend/boyfriend/partner. It's when you can get through the toughest of times, and still not think any less of the other. And it's when you know the other has some things that bother you greatly, but you look past them anyway and don't think any less of them.
My mother used to say "Go on a two week long vacation to another country with your girl/boyfriend, in a small car and in a small tent. If even after all the frustration and the almost complete loss of privacy it brings you still 'love' the person just as much as before, then it's truly love." And I still agree with it. Moving from one apartment/house to another, which takes several weeks or more, works as well as scenario.
And if there was ever a couple that loved each other, I'd say my parents qualified. They were married for 27 years before my father passed away. Before he passed away they went through fights, vacations good and bad, poverty and taking care of two children that weren't exactly perfect either. (me and my brother.) And during my father's last years he kept on getting worse, until the last few months where he was even barely able to take a bath without help, if at all. My mother stayed with him, basically did all the things social services would have normally done, and never complained about any of it. (Well, she complained about the hospital, the little social services that my dad was getting, and other such things. But never did she complain about having to take care of my father.) If that isn't love, then I don't know what is.
My mother used to say "Go on a two week long vacation to another country with your girl/boyfriend, in a small car and in a small tent. If even after all the frustration and the almost complete loss of privacy it brings you still 'love' the person just as much as before, then it's truly love." And I still agree with it. Moving from one apartment/house to another, which takes several weeks or more, works as well as scenario.
And if there was ever a couple that loved each other, I'd say my parents qualified. They were married for 27 years before my father passed away. Before he passed away they went through fights, vacations good and bad, poverty and taking care of two children that weren't exactly perfect either. (me and my brother.) And during my father's last years he kept on getting worse, until the last few months where he was even barely able to take a bath without help, if at all. My mother stayed with him, basically did all the things social services would have normally done, and never complained about any of it. (Well, she complained about the hospital, the little social services that my dad was getting, and other such things. But never did she complain about having to take care of my father.) If that isn't love, then I don't know what is.
Its the evolutionary mechanism that stopped us going extinct.Madara XIII said:
We as humans like to think we are the captains of the ship and the body is a vessel to hold us and carry us around. i suspect the truth is far from that. it is my conclusion the tail wags the dog and we exist as a necessary tool for our bodies, any large complex organism like us , all mammals even and a lot of other life requires a brain and and intellect and a "self" to function , of course i doubt they are aware actually what i think they miss is Imagination , i think the ability to think abstractly is what separates us from the rest , not intellect not self awareness.
Our Lives are ruled by chemical sticks and carrots, you wake up with a full bladder its uncomfortable but damn that piss was nice, the belly is empty and hunger is uncomfortable but breakfast is so tasty and nice, when your cold or hot its uncomfortable but being "cozy" feels great, we are caretakers janitors gofers for the bodies we service.
think about this, im about to do something to you , in effect your going to be dead, you wont have any self awareness, control of your mind or your body , infact im going to have to paralyze you so you dont damage yourself thrashing about from what ever random stimulus crosses your way and you just have to take it on faith that at some point ill give you control back. that should be a pretty terrifying concept but most of us do it daily and we tend to enjoy it, its called sleep. again the chemical prod of being tired and the endorphin carrot of being well rested.
Love is no different its a chemical prod and carrot to get us to behave in a way our body requires, its so strong because its our bodies sole reason to be , to pass on our gene code to the next generation. its just pure evolution , if you didn't feel it your line would die out. and many do. well ok its attraction and sex really , but the bond of love is what allows us to make the totally irrational choice of parenting.
but how ever you spin it or look at it , evolution explains the why , the more we love each other and form bonds of friendship the better chance we have of making it , the more we love our kids the more chance of passing on those gene codes, its all survival of the fittest in the true meaning of the phrase.