My mums dead...Daystar Clarion said:That's really weird, I was thinking the same thing about your mum last night, oh snap!
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What is love?
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Personally I'd describe it as the sweetest melancholy. The thought of the other person being away from you for even a day sounds heartwrenching, and to be with them feels like the sweetest ecstasy, as though everything were right with the world.
At least, that's the best way I can think to describe it.
At least, that's the best way I can think to describe it.
Well, I think love differs from couple to couple - some people need different things in a relationship, and finding the person that fulfill your needs, and you theirs, is really the tough bit.
For me, love is not necessarily the feeling that screams loudest, but one that you're sure of. Also, a relationship demands investment, time and commitment. Most young people aren't ready, or don't realise that it does need this. Of course, for some people it's a smooth ride because they work well together, and for others it's rocky, but they keep together because they know it's worth it.
Some peope though, have a bad habit of convincing themselves of something that isn't really true - have a guy buddy who's convinced he "loves" a girl in our class, and acts totally respectless towards her by ignoring the fact that she has a boyfriend that she loves and constantly hits on her(she doesn't have a spine either, but he knows as well as I that she wouldn't want to risk having their friendship ruined by hurting his feelings and totally rejecting him).
I don't really know if your love is "puppy love", you'll have to figure that out for yourself. I think that four year test is a great way to do just that.
For me, love is not necessarily the feeling that screams loudest, but one that you're sure of. Also, a relationship demands investment, time and commitment. Most young people aren't ready, or don't realise that it does need this. Of course, for some people it's a smooth ride because they work well together, and for others it's rocky, but they keep together because they know it's worth it.
Some peope though, have a bad habit of convincing themselves of something that isn't really true - have a guy buddy who's convinced he "loves" a girl in our class, and acts totally respectless towards her by ignoring the fact that she has a boyfriend that she loves and constantly hits on her(she doesn't have a spine either, but he knows as well as I that she wouldn't want to risk having their friendship ruined by hurting his feelings and totally rejecting him).
I don't really know if your love is "puppy love", you'll have to figure that out for yourself. I think that four year test is a great way to do just that.
More importantly, what are the moral implications of me going there?The Rockerfly said:My mums dead...Daystar Clarion said:That's really weird, I was thinking the same thing about your mum last night, oh snap!
Where do we go from here?
Love is one of those things that is deeper and more complex than anything modern science can explain.
This is one of the silliest things I've ever heard. Being in love is not a choice, true love (my god I can't believe I just said that) isn't. The choice is whether or not you act upon your feelings.TimeLordJPC said:
Beat me to it, but didn't quite go far enough. Love is the addiction to the chemical cocktail that's triggered in your gray matter. The desire to be with that special someone is merely the need for your next fix. Dress it up in all the Hallmark/De Beers frippery that you want. Its a drug, and you are an addict.Ekonk said:
Once the "love" is gone, all that's left is the habit of being with that person, and the fear of not being able to find anyone else and being alone forever.
Love is giving yourself away to someone else.
But love is not all it takes to a successful relationship, let alone a successful marriage. I would have thought of this statement as heresy when I was 16, but I've grown to get how much more complicated, deep and satisfying love can be since then.
But love is not all it takes to a successful relationship, let alone a successful marriage. I would have thought of this statement as heresy when I was 16, but I've grown to get how much more complicated, deep and satisfying love can be since then.
love is giving someone the most powerful weapon against you.
love is giving someone the ability to influct untold pain upon you
to make you hurt in ways you can feel nowhere else.
love is giving them that power for the simple fact that they are the one person on Earth who you would want to have it.
and most of all
love is knowing that once you feel that incredible, indescribable pain
the fact that they are the one doing it to you makes it better.
love is giving someone the ability to influct untold pain upon you
to make you hurt in ways you can feel nowhere else.
love is giving them that power for the simple fact that they are the one person on Earth who you would want to have it.
and most of all
love is knowing that once you feel that incredible, indescribable pain
the fact that they are the one doing it to you makes it better.
You know, I think that if you hadn't put that in there, alot more of the posts would have started their posts with that.deonte9109 said:
I believe that love is a bond that grows overtime between two people. It isn't something that is fated or magically happens. "Love at first sight" and "true love" are bullshit to me. Its a bond that is generally stronger than anything else, an attachment that goes beyond reason.
And because I already commented on this subject in a previous thread in more detial: SELF QUOTE!
Irony said:
Didn't I see this very same topic last week?
I would like to think it's more than a chemical balance or irrational response designed to keep us from murdering each other for being such twats, but I've yet to actually have the feeling myself (with a significant other that is).
I would like to think it's more than a chemical balance or irrational response designed to keep us from murdering each other for being such twats, but I've yet to actually have the feeling myself (with a significant other that is).
DAMN YOU TO HELL MISTER ORIGINAL POSTER YOU STOLE WHAT I WAS GOING TO SAY AS SOON AS I READ THE TITLE OF THE TOPIC, CURSE YOU NINJARING!!!
Anyway, cor really tell you to be fair =P
Anyway, cor really tell you to be fair =P
Short Answer: Love does not make it you blind. It does however make you tolerant.deonte9109 said:
Long Answer: See short answer.
I'm sorry... You won't listen to me, I know, because I was 19 once and really strong willed just like you. You really did just ruin your relationship with this girl.
I could explain to you why you can't be compatible, but the first and foremost reason is that you have only been dating for one year of your lives. I don't care if you dated for the entirety of the other 18 years, those don't count. It is SO FUCKING EASY to be in a relationship with someone in high school. Hell, all of life is easy in high school. But you will soon realize that life is just starting and it will continuously kick you in the balls from here on in, and you and her will more than likely end up unable to work through it.
Kudos on having the brains to wait a while though.
I could explain to you why you can't be compatible, but the first and foremost reason is that you have only been dating for one year of your lives. I don't care if you dated for the entirety of the other 18 years, those don't count. It is SO FUCKING EASY to be in a relationship with someone in high school. Hell, all of life is easy in high school. But you will soon realize that life is just starting and it will continuously kick you in the balls from here on in, and you and her will more than likely end up unable to work through it.
Kudos on having the brains to wait a while though.
I'm 22 and married, and a lot of people have said similar things. I'd say, since you're planning on waiting 'til you're out of school (though I didn't), stick to that. If things don't work out in the next few years, allow yourselves to dissolve the relationship.
As for asking her father's permission, I think you're right to not do that.
As for asking her father's permission, I think you're right to not do that.