What is the worst thing you have caught a parent doing? (Change of topic)

[Jamash]

There's nothing wrong with it as such, but I find it telling that he said "Come in" before the screen was turned off, and that you managed to see the image.

He wasn't really "caught" watching porn, since he gave you permission to enter the room while it was still on the TV.

Maybe the fact that he was pretty candid about what he was watching means that he doesn't thing it was a wrong thing to be doing, or something to be ashamed about and hide from you.

It's not like watching porn is the same as cheating on your partner, tell you Mum if you it help make you feel better, she'll probably appreciate your loyalty, but it's not really a big thing and you can't be 100% sure what he was watching (a topless woman doesn't instantly mean porn, it could have been any number of films).

Maybe you should talk to him before getting too flustered about it.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

A sense of betrayal? Hahaha
http://jamie-online.com/random-jamz/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/facepalm.jpg

 

[Altorin]

This is clearly a giant troll.

I almost fell for it, but not quite.

 

[Legion]

*snip*

*sigh*

I KNOW what masturbation is, I'm not twelve (hint hint)

It's more of a betrayal/confusion thing than anything else...

I don't think you read it properly if you assume he's telling you what masturbation is.

This is the key part:

Im afraid that due to the nature of male biology our genitals are constantly under threat of rubbing, chaffing moving slightly and as such makes us aware of potential arousal. It then becomes hard not to think of anything else.

Men in a regular relationship still masturbate. Men with a very high libido and a regular partner obviously need to masturbate or they annoy their female partner.

Point 1 is obvious, guys get aroused easily.

Point 2 is that due to this, guys will usually want sexual release more often than women and if their partner is not in the mood/not there then they will need to find other ways of doing so.

It has nothing to do with being faithful/unfaithful.

 

[ExodusinFlames]

I mean, is she OK with it?

Thats irrelevant, unfortunately its not really up to her

It's more about a sense of betrayal than anything else (I have a tingling feeling that no one but those who have had this happen to them could understand...).

There is no betrayal at all. Any man alive, in a relationship or out of one will tell you the same. Sometimes, you just can't help it. You gotta take care of business, as it were.

 

[FROGGEman2]

This is clearly a giant troll.

I almost fell for it, but not quite.

-.- what do you mean, you "almost fell for it"?

I'm asking for opinions, not... ...trying to do whatever trolls do (it seems that they simply wander the internet aimlessly)

 

[FROGGEman2]

There's nothing wrong with it as such, but I find it telling that he said "Come in" before the screen was turned off, and that you managed to see the image.

He wasn't really "caught" watching porn, since he gave you permission to enter the room while it was still on the TV.

Maybe the fact that he was pretty candid about what he was watching means that he doesn't thing it was a wrong thing to be doing, or something to be ashamed about and hide from you.

It's not like watching porn is the same as cheating on your partner, tell you Mum if you it help make you feel better, she'll probably appreciate your loyalty, but it's not really a big thing and you can't be 100% sure what he was watching (a topless woman doesn't instantly mean porn, it could have been any number of films).

Maybe you should talk to him before getting too flustered about it.

It was a computer monitor.

 

[FROGGEman2]

What are you? Fucking five? Get over it you pansy. There is no "betrayal" and this just reeks of a bullshit troll thread. Either that or you are an idiot with the EQ of a raddish.
Also if you want a nice mental image. Your mother has more than likly banged the shit out of him all night long then sucked him off after. Enjoy your therapy visits.

right... I'm the one with the EQ of a raddish?

...D: I'm not trying to troll (promise) I'm asking a clear question, advice on this situation... I should probably stop explaining this to everyone. It's not worth it.

 

[Jamash]

There's nothing wrong with it as such, but I find it telling that he said "Come in" before the screen was turned off, and that you managed to see the image.

He wasn't really "caught" watching porn, since he gave you permission to enter the room while it was still on the TV.

Maybe the fact that he was pretty candid about what he was watching means that he doesn't thing it was a wrong thing to be doing, or something to be ashamed about and hide from you.

It's not like watching porn is the same as cheating on your partner, tell you Mum if you it help make you feel better, she'll probably appreciate your loyalty, but it's not really a big thing and you can't be 100% sure what he was watching (a topless woman doesn't instantly mean porn, it could have been any number of films).

Maybe you should talk to him before getting too flustered about it.

It was a computer monitor.

Oh, well that makes all the difference. Hang the bastard, the sick fuck!

EDIT: I though I better add this, I was being sarcastic. It doesn't make a difference what kind of screen it was on, it's not really a big deal or a betrayal (unless he made special wedding vows in which he promised never to look another women's bare flesh as long as he shall live).

Hell, in the UK we have pictures of topless women in out daily newspapers, it doesn't mean everyone who looks at them is cheating, betraying scum.

 

[AngloDoom]

Uhm...I think its the fact that his step-dad is lusting over other women. Not just internally, but looking them up and using them as masturbation material. I'm not going to pretend I know anything about the OP, but the fact that he has a step-dad allures he has probably seen his parents' relationship go down in flames.

From this perspective, his step-dad is showing a sexual interest in other women and is also exploring it in secrecy, meaning that, to some degree, he realises it is either not acceptable or appropriate.

There was never a "masturbation is wrong" sentence, but I think he feels slightly odd considering his step-dad is in a very serious relationship (looking after a child that isn't his) and is exploring his urges for other women. While there's nothing wrong with being attracted to women while in a relationship and masturbating in a relationship, I'd considering it a betrayal to my girlfriend if I was masturbating to porn or another person in general when I was in a close, serious, sexual relationship with her.


Is that clear now?

 

[Triple G]

OK, this is what happened:

I was staying home from school and I was downstairs and David (my step-dad) was up-stairs. I went to go up to ask him something, he was in his room (I assumed he was working). I knock, a pause.

I wait.

I wait.

I wait.

And then, "Come in!"
I step inside, just in time to see a picture disappear off-screen.
A picture of a woman...
...with her top-off.

At first I thought, "yeah, relax, all guys do it, right?"
Then, "I wonder what I should do, should I tell mum?"

Now I can't even look at him in the face. I hate talking to him. It doesn't even feel right to be in the same room as him!

What should I do??? HELP!

(Sad that I had to drop the effortlessly emotionless candor that is The Escapist identity, but whatever.)

~EDIT~

OK, people are getting the wrong idea. it's not that there's anything wrong with a guy having a wank, it's just... he's my step-dad! He's married to my mother. I mean, is she OK with it? If it were anyone else, my friend, my dad, my cousin, it would be fine! It;s more about a sense of betrayal than anything else (I have a tingling feeling that no one but those who have had this happen to them could understand...).

Dude like really, if this dude has a wank at porn while having a woman, than there's probably something no wrong with your mum. It's not hard to satisfy a man, and when your mom can't do even that then it's her fault and not his. There must be a problem it their sex-life if HE has to do this to keep himself going.

 

[Artemis923]

Jerkin' it is all part of being a man, either with or without a good sex life.

 

[FROGGEman2]

Uhm...I think its the fact that his step-dad is lusting over other women. Not just internally, but looking them up and using them as masturbation material. I'm not going to pretend I know anything about the OP, but the fact that he has a step-dad allures he has probably seen his parents' relationship go down in flames.

From this perspective, his step-dad is showing a sexual interest in other women and is also exploring it in secrecy, meaning that, to some degree, he realises it is either not acceptable or appropriate.

There was never a "masturbation is wrong" sentence, but I think he feels slightly odd considering his step-dad is in a very serious relationship (looking after a child that isn't his) and is exploring his urges for other women. While there's nothing wrong with being attracted to women while in a relationship and masturbating in a relationship, I'd considering it a betrayal to my girlfriend if I was masturbating to porn or another person in general when I was in a close, serious, sexual relationship with her.


Is that clear now?

Ahh, thankyou. Mind if I use this in the OP?

 

[Legion]

Uhm...I think its the fact that his step-dad is lusting over other women. Not just internally, but looking them up and using them as masturbation material. I'm not going to pretend I know anything about the OP, but the fact that he has a step-dad allures he has probably seen his parents' relationship go down in flames.

From this perspective, his step-dad is showing a sexual interest in other women and is also exploring it in secrecy, meaning that, to some degree, he realises it is either not acceptable or appropriate.

There was never a "masturbation is wrong" sentence, but I think he feels slightly odd considering his step-dad is in a very serious relationship (looking after a child that isn't his) and is exploring his urges for other women. While there's nothing wrong with being attracted to women while in a relationship and masturbating in a relationship, I'd considering it a betrayal to my girlfriend if I was masturbating to porn or another person in general when I was in a close, serious, sexual relationship with her.


Is that clear now?

Most of us get that.

Showing sexual interest in a woman you will never meet isn't really a betrayal. It's just sexual release.

It's like saying a woman using an Adult Toy when she is on her own is cheating. What's going on in her mind could be anything (or anyone).

 

[Beacon]

Well was he watching porn or was it a video chat? That makes a big difference...

But I'm pretty sure your mom knows about it like all women know that all men do it...and if they say they don't, they're filthy liars...

So I wouldn't worry about it...

 

[Nexus424]

right... I'm the one with the EQ of a raddish?

Yes. Yes you are. Google EQ if you do not understand the term.

Ahh I looked that up. Very clever very very clever I like that one.