What is the worst thing you have caught a parent doing? (Change of topic)

[FROGGEman2]

OK, people are getting the wrong idea. it's not that there's anything wrong with a guy having a wank, it's just... he's my step-dad! He's married to my mother. I mean, is she OK with it? If it were anyone else, my friend, my dad, my cousin, it would be fine! It;s more about a sense of betrayal than anything else (I have a tingling feeling that no one but those who have had this happen to them could understand...).

after this statement you're a hypocrite AND a whiny kid that wants to find a way for your mom to break up with your step dad. what if he was looking at pictures of your mom naked and having a wank? would that be wrong then?

you're just being childish

Wha wha wha? Hypocrite, Whiny kid... you're really quick to classify people, aren't you?

I'm not trying to find a way to get my step-dad to break up with my mum. That... definitely wouldn't work.

 

[Nerotharis]

I saw my mom naked once, almost killed myself

 

[Samurai Goomba]

OK, this has left me feeling very patronised and emasculated, and enough people are just saying "You're a pussy, get over it" that I think I'll change the OP here.

Here's the new question: "What is the worst thing you have caught a parent doing?"

You were also given plenty of genuine advice and assistance that you apparently ignored or dismissed. The problem with your situation is there's really nothing you can do besides get over it or talk it out with the guy like two adults would.

Going behind his back to your mom with this will probably either make you look dumb (to your mom for thinking this was a big deal) or petty/untrustworthy/hypocritical (to the step dad for ratting him out, especially considering how the commonality of what he was doing). Best case scenario your mom will agree with you and get in a fight with the step dad over this little thing, which will make both of them (and probably you as well) unhappy. There just aren't many options.

If you have a problem with what he was doing and don't know why you feel this way, either tell him this or talk to somebody else about it. Maybe track down somebody who's like a mentor to you and talk about it with them. Really, there's not much more anyone can say or do for you.

If you're wondering why everyone is saying it's not a big deal and you should get over it, maybe it's because compared to a lot of family drama, it really isn't such a huge deal. Or perhaps they understand that it's unfair to expect parents to behave the way we think they should, rather than how we ourselves (and most other people) behave. So if I look at questionable materials, I shouldn't hold it against my father or mother for doing the same thing.

It's not that nobody wants to help, it's just that I don't see what anyone can really say or do for you.

 

[Nerotharis]

OK, this has left me feeling very patronised and emasculated, and enough people are just saying "You're a pussy, get over it" that I think I'll change the OP here.

Here's the new question: "What is the worst thing you have caught a parent doing?"

You were also given plenty of genuine advice and assistance that you apparently ignored or dismissed. The problem with your situation is there's really nothing you can do besides get over it or talk it out with the guy like two adults would.

Going behind his back to your mom with this will probably either make you look dumb (to your mom for thinking this was a big deal) or petty/untrustworthy/hypocritical (to the step dad for ratting him out, especially considering how the commonality of what he was doing). Best case scenario your mom will agree with you and get in a fight with the step dad over this little thing, which will make both of them (and probably you as well) unhappy. There just aren't many options.

If you have a problem with what he was doing and don't know why you feel this way, either tell him this or talk to somebody else about it. Maybe track down somebody who's like a mentor to you and talk about it with them. Really, there's not much more anyone can say or do for you.

If you're wondering why everyone is saying it's not a big deal and you should get over it, maybe it's because compared to a lot of family drama, it really isn't such a huge deal. Or perhaps they understand that it's unfair to expect parents to behave the way we think they should, rather than how we ourselves (and most other people) behave. So if I look at questionable materials, I shouldn't hold it against my father or mother for doing the same thing.

It's not that nobody wants to help, it's just that I don't see what anyone can really say or do for you.

^ That

 

[Blayze]

Agreed. The best solution is to stop crying about it on the Internet.

People masturbate. It's natural. You know what that means? People in relationships masturbate -- and it's still entirely natural.

I know there's a lot of "gotta be gentle, this guy's seen his parents' relationship go south" in this thread, but childish whining is still childish whining no matter the situation.

Shut up about it, get back to your own wanking and just be glad he's not wanking over dolphins or something like that.

Edit: New question, eh? The worst thing I caught my dad doing... I need to set the scene here.

He plays Second Life. He once told me that, for his female avatar, he bought "a massive black phallus". I pieced together from other conversations that he likes "trapping" male avatars and taunting them with said female avatar.

Then one night, I was on the toilet. I could *just* hear this strange noise -- almost like a muttering. I struggled to hear it while also not covering the bathroom in my shit, but I eventually made out a few words. It was the sound of my dad furiously masturbating.

It didn't take a genius to piece everything together.