While I agree on not ruling someone out due to one aspect of their physical features, I don't know about personality. There are a few personality aspects I just could NOT cope with no matter what the rest of the package was. Admittedly, that's probably more of an issue with me than the person with said aspect but I feel that trying to make it work with those aspects, even if the rest of the package was wonderful, would end up badly for both parties.latenightapplepie said:I know it when I see it.
I prefer not to restrict myself by declaring that I have a type.
If I start saying I wouldn't date a guy who wasn't under 6 foot, white and had blue eyes, I could potentially blinker myself to the hot, shorter black guy hidden at the back of the room.
People are whole packages, and trying to disqualify someone for one tiny facet of their personality or physical features is too difficult for me.
I suppose you're right. I go by Dan Savage's Price of Admission theory (Youtube it if you want to know more) and so I guess that the five things upon which you can disqualify potential partners are ideally personality-based rather than physical appearance-based.Hurray Forums said:While I agree on not ruling someone out due to one aspect of their physical features, I don't know about personality. There are a few personality aspects I just could NOT cope with no matter what the rest of the package was.
I actually really enjoyed that video, surprising as most "love analysts" piss me off. It captures my feelings on the matter pretty well, don't worry about the "superficial bullshit", but at the same time you have to know your own limits. I wouldn't ever reject someone for some of the things in the video like chewing with your mouth open(it depresses me to know that some people really are like that) and I'm definitely in support of compromise, but at the same time I know that some things, like say bigotry, are such a hot button issue with me that any relationship with a person like that just wouldn't work. Ideally I could get over that but I can't so I shouldn't inflict myself on someone to try and force it to work.latenightapplepie said:I suppose you're right. I go by Dan Savage's Price of Admission theory (Youtube it if you want to know more) and so I guess that the five things upon which you can disqualify potential partners are ideally personality-based rather than physical appearance-based.Hurray Forums said:While I agree on not ruling someone out due to one aspect of their physical features, I don't know about personality. There are a few personality aspects I just could NOT cope with no matter what the rest of the package was.