What makes a guy attractive?

[The Funslinger]

From what I've seen on the net (so take it with a grain of salt) the only universal thing is confidence.

Ah yes, that abstract thing that nobody really knows what it means. *chuckle*

Yes, I see where you're coming from, but the definitions of "confident" I've seen online range from "satisfied with oneself" to "dickhead", with all the flavors in between.

I've found the best mix of confidence is an ability to be entertaining. Be able to talk to people easily. Self-deprecating humor can be fun, but it's very easy to overdo. For instance, my friend does it, and at first it's quite entertaining, but overall it just comes off brutally needy.

 

[Smooth Operator]

I guess I've always had this fantasy of finding a cute, nice, gentle, troubled guy, and hugging them forever. Even if it doesn't make sense, it sounds incredibly romantic.

Boy did you end up on the right forum
Makes me wonder how much omission is on that fantasy of yours...

 

[1080bitgamer]

I'm straight, but I've found myself thinking that both David Tennant and David Bowie are rather pretty men. Their eyes are very kind, and their physique leans towards thin and agile.

Maybe that's it...

 

[Da Orky Man]

I haven't got a clue. Reading the above comments confuses me, simply because I seem to have a girlfriend who finds me attractive in spite of all the above things I lack.

Also, on another point, I have a couple of scars across my stomach from an operation I had as a kid, and for some reason my girlfriend seems to think they are incredibly sexy, and she's not the first girl to voice this opinion either. I don't suppose anyone has a clue about that one? Because I can never get a decent answer other than "They just . . . are."

Think back about ten thousand years at least, or further. Scars would be a sign that you've fought someone or something, and survived. The scar shows that it was an actual, probably lethal to the loser fight. Therefore, the men who had scars were likely the better fighters and hunters , with the capability to provide for a family. Therefore, men with scars are attractive.

I've been told that my broad shoulders are attractive, as well as more than a few people commenting on the 3/4 metre long scar on my back from an operation, though the one thing I've been complimented on most is my humour. It's relatively dark, sarcastic, ironic, and simply quintessentially British. I can make jokes out of any and everything.

 

[Vkmies]

Well. I used to not get anyone, but now I am a total stud. All I needed was a message from god while I was asleep. It was great. This is what he told me:

1. Weight. You want a good weight. And none of that muscle-bullcrap. REAL weight. For what I have heard, McDonalds is a good daily source of some attractive fat. Nothing gets a lady more excited than a good pair of man-titties.

2. Hair. Hairy titties>Bare titties. No only that, but what you want is a dirty neckbeard. It really shows off your manliness. A good old neckbeard.

3. Knowledge. Sharing your extensive knowledge about Transformers, or even better, My Little Pony, will make them think you are super smart. Then they will be all impressed about it.

4 Act better. You need to make sure she knows that she is inferior when she doesn't know as much about G.I Joe as you. Snarky, sarcastic comments work well, hitting/slapping them works the best.

If you master these 4 steps, all of the women will love you. You owe all of your future sex-having to me. You can thank me later, by giving me all of your money. You are welcome.

 

[PureChaos]

As a male, from a purely physical point of view, the main contenders are muscley arms, pecks, 6 pack and toned legs.

Spoiler: I'm going on a bit of a rant here

I have none of those. You get women that say 'but it's personality that counts' and then they see a person with the 4 above mentioned attributes and go 'fwooor' (I don't know how to spell that)

I'm one of those people that gets all the girls saying they want to meet someone like me but not me (not going to go into a friend zone rant here, did that on another thread) so where is the line between personality and looks? Confidence is a big part of it but, because I have little confidence due to not having the above 4, I just chat and that's when I get friend zoned. By the time they've realised what a catch I am, it's too late. Actually, this wasn't a relationship thread and the topic I answered earlier so I'll just stop here.

 

[isometry]

One nearly universal thing is to have abdominal and core muscles that are in good enough shape to have sex (can be seen by posture, doesn't mean having a "6-pack").

 

[Me55enger]

Arms. Some girls like big srtong arms.

I've had a stable relationship for a few years now. She wants to feel safe.

That and a wide penis.

Screw length, width is what you're after.

 

[Phasmal]

As I have recently found out, women have preferred tastes in appearances as well as personality, similar to guys but not exact.

You didn't know that before?
I know the song goes `I'm every woman`, but thats not how it actually works.

As for me, I like a nice back and chest.
Also muscles, but not too much.
I have a bit of a thing for nerdy type guys.

And they need to have a nice smile, and a nice jaw.

 

[ImperialSunlight]

I'm male, so it may not be the attention you want, but I personally find that I am far more attracted to the overall feel that a man has than any specific part. When men look at women, I find that they can focus on a single part of a woman's body and be attracted, but for me, all parts of their body contribute equally.

If a man has a beautiful body in some parts, but in some parts is deformed, I probably won't be attracted to him physically. Personality plays a major part as well, but that's not the point of this thread, I suppose.

I guess if I had to pinpoint specific parts that are most important, the face, arms, butt and err... groin... would be it.

That and a wide penis.

Screw length, width is what you're after.

This also.

 

[Richardplex]

And this is why running is totally not cool: no one cares about leg muscles.

 

[DarkRyter]

I always figured a man's attractiveness was directly proportional to his similarity to Batman.

 

[Zyntoxic]

I know what I like the most in a mans appearance.
Arms... mainly the forearms, but the rest as well.
well shaped but not too muscly arms with a some visible veins are worth dying for, and if they end with going over with a pretty bold wrist bone (you know that bump just before the hand)and then over to a pair of big, rather rough hands, with somewhat flattened thumbs (it's a weird specific but I like my thumbs that way =P) then I'm gonna be all over this person.

My boyfriend's arms are the most perfect arms I have ever seen, and I don't seem to be alone in liking them, it has happened more than a couple of time that I have to tell other women to keep their hands off his arms =P

 

[Ickorus]

I've had girls compliment me on all sorts of things, my face, my hands, my eyes, my fingernails (Yeah), my ass, my legs, my hair, my (horribly goofy) smile; this is all odd because I'm not a particularly attractive man.

But yeah, anyway, what I'm getting at from what I've gathered is that different women seem to like different things and so long as you don't look like some kind of failed lab experiment personality and bearing seem to be key.

 

[Ickorus]

As someone already said on here- suits are designed to flatter the male form, and thus accent the shoulders and chest. I appreciate a good suit on a man- makes him look about 100% sexier.

Now I need to order some suits.

...

Looking good is expensive...

Charity shops rock for that, I got an awesome suit jacket worth about £200 for £10 a few years back, looked brand new to;, like someone wore it once and never again.

 

[Easton Dark]

Charity shops rock for that, I got an awesome suit jacket worth about £200 for £10 a few years back, looked brand new too, like someone wore it once and never again.

Well... damn. Thanks for the tip. I may just have to go get one or two.

 

[Ickorus]

Charity shops rock for that, I got an awesome suit jacket worth about £200 for £10 a few years back, looked brand new too, like someone wore it once and never again.

Well... damn. Thanks for the tip. I may just have to go get one or two.

I will warn you, it did take a fair bit of looking about to find a good one but if you ever find yourself near a charity shop with a bit of spare cash and time on your hands it's always worth a look.