What should I do with her?

[magicaxis]

My girlfriend is bisexual. One day a good friend of hers for several years finds out about her sexuality and flips. She immediately begins turning their friends against my girlfriend. She invites their whole group to a movie night except for her, spams abusive language on her facebook, and a whole bunch of other repulsive stuff.

While what she is doing is not technically illegal, its pathetic and disgusting. What should I do with her? As a boyfriend, I feel it my duty to defend her from such attacks, but how should i go about it?

Also can we keep it legal? I'm not going to jail over this

 

[PureChaos]

is it really a good idea to put a link to their facebook page? seems like that's just asking for trouble

 

[Talal Provides]

Ignore her. Seriously. There is no reason for her to be in your girlfriend's life anymore.

 

[frostyvamp]

Protip no. 1: dont post their facebook pages on the forums; privacy kinda things
and she *can* be breaking a law, depending where you are.. something about public abuse/being a pain in the ass, and stuff :3

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

Perhaps you should just point out, in a calm manner, exactly how pathetic and ass-backwards they are being about this.
That is all I can suggest, really. Just say it to their faces calmly, or over Facebook, or whatever.
And make sure there are witnesses. If they see the situation and aren't backwards, they'll also agree.

 

[Jonluw]

Cut contact with this person completely. She clearly is an ignorant asshole, and isn't someone you should be socializing with.

That said, linking to people's facebook pages on a forum might not be a good idea.

 

[Folio]

What a good for nothing friend. It's not like she'll change when she's pestered about it.

Unless O_O it's her EX!

 

[Brightzide]

Kick her in the private area repeatedly ( or the face )...failing that, ignore them man. If their homophobia is what sets them apart, then they're the shallow minded ones. Your life is arguably better without people like that in it. Move on, make new friends, bigger ones...with hot tubs and cigar boxes...and most of all, that wont judge your girlfriend on her sexual orientation.

 

[likalaruku]

I'd say your work is sone. everything she's posted has apparently "been reported as abusive by Facebook users."

 

[WolfThomas]

This isn't 4chan we don't link people's facebooks regardless of how bitchy they are.

 

[hudsonzero]

funny, i thought sexism was illegal

 

[omega 616]

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Before I even clicked this thread my first thought was "throw her off a bridge, after reading the OP that hasn't changed.

On a more serious note, isn't that the definition of harrasment? Which is against the law to some extent, this is why restraining orders were made.

Get one of those, it will mean she can't have any contact with her and/pr come within X amount of feet. To do so would mean a fine or jail time depending on the extent of the breach.

Although I am not a lawyer and my knowladge of the law is less than basic, I just watch alot of judge Judy.

It will also brand her a crazy *****, which will make her the laughing stock of the school for awhile, to me thats a win win right there!

 

[Zombie_Fish]

Moved to Advice Forum.

I'm also removing the Facebook link. People can't see her wall posts without being friends with her anyway so it's kind of redundant as a reference point, and posting the Facebook pages of people who are being jerks to you or your friends on Internet forums has a tendency of causing off-site trouble, something I don't want The Escapist to have to get into.

--Zombie

 

[Vryyk]

My girlfriend is bisexual. One day a good friend of hers for several years finds out about her sexuality and flips. She immediately begins turning their friends against my girlfriend. She invites their whole group to a movie night except for her, spams abusive language on her facebook, and a whole bunch of other repulsive stuff.

While what she is doing is not technically illegal, its pathetic and disgusting. What should I do with her? As a boyfriend, I feel it my duty to defend her from such attacks, but how should i go about it?

Here is the perpetrators facebook page:

Link removed. Mod.

Also can we keep it legal? I'm not going to jail over this

And this is why I only keep two friends at any given time.

People will be mean and spiteful, you can't shelter her from everything. Romantic interests should also be good friends, simply act as such and you will both be better off. Creating a victim-rescuer mentality never ends well, take her on a date if she needs a distraction, but ultimately she needs this to grow as a person.

Be a crutch, not an umbrella if you prefer a metaphor.

 

[Jedoro]

Tell your girlfriend to block her and anyone who posts that crap on her page? Just ignore the assholes, they'll get bored eventually, and anything I'd suggest for revenge is illegal.

 

[Thaliur]

Protip no. 1: dont post their facebook pages on the forums; privacy kinda things
and she *can* be breaking a law, [...] being a pain in the ass, and stuff :3

That's illegal? Wow, I should prepare some lawsuit letters next time I go shopping or use the bus...


I say support her as good as you can, and try to shield her from that other person.

 

[ThreeWords]

What? Since when did people get stick for being bisexual, and even more when did girls get it? I mean, our culture seems to be pretty lenient of lesbians, and I've neer got any thing for being bisexual myself...

As for the abusive friend, ask her what's with the change of heart. Why is she being so horrible? Why doesn't she support her friends? Or is this what all her freinds can expect if they don't live up to her 'standards'. Ask such questions with others present and see how she can wriggle out of it.