What should I do with this thing of sentimental value?

[Dags90]

I won't stop you from being petty and vindictive. I love that shit. If you really didn't care you would throw it out without thinking of ways to get back at her.

 

[Hader]

Dont burn it.

Give it back, but say that you enjoyed the good times, and that if she would like a clean break, you can respect that. Then give it back with the stuff you found, thank her for the time you had together, and say that you give it to her with hopes she'll remember the good times you two had, as you will.

I know I am leaving out plenty of details and all; but trust me when I say I want to be rid of it, I don't care about these memories (to one extent), and that she will not talk to me either way, and the latter option is my possible way of indirectly talking to her.

 

[Hader]

I won't stop you from being petty and vindictive. I love that shit. If you really didn't care you would throw it out without thinking of ways to get back at her.

It is ever so slightly vengeful, I admit. But I don't give it back for vengeance, I know that is never a good habit to get into. But if I did, it would prove a point that only she would understand. That's the motivation behind that idea.

 

[Hader]

I'd throw it out also. I wouldn't even think about it. Fuck that ***** and fuck that picture.

Burning it ritualizes the event, which can be unhealthy. Don't imbue it with more power than it deserves. Also, do not hate, there is no point. Dispassion is the way to go. Throw it out because that is logically what you would do with something that is worthless to you or anyone else.

I've been through a number of fucked up relationships so I know how you feel, but letting go is much better than gripping that ill will with both hands. Prove to yourself that you're a better person and have gotten over it and just toss the thing or give it to Salvation Army or something.

Remember I am not having doubts about getting rid of it. Just how to get rid of it. I have moved on. I have forgotten what I must, made peace with what I must, etc. This was kinda a coincidental stumble-upon.

 

[emeraldrafael]

Dont burn it.

Give it back, but say that you enjoyed the good times, and that if she would like a clean break, you can respect that. Then give it back with the stuff you found, thank her for the time you had together, and say that you give it to her with hopes she'll remember the good times you two had, as you will.

I know I am leaving out plenty of details and all; but trust me when I say I want to be rid of it, I don't care about these memories (to one extent), and that she will not talk to me either way, and the latter option is my possible way of indirectly talking to her.

Alright. Well, you could always go with option two.

Opt. 2: Feed it to a dog, wait till it shits it out, then take it and leave that shit for her with a note saying this is what you are to me.

Childish? Oh hell Yes. Satisfying? completely.

... yeah, I wont go into details about how I came up with that idea, but needless to say, it pleasantly surprises the girl when you do it. Personal experience.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

The point is not to give it back to her so she has another pretty picture frame to use.

I want rid of it. I felt it might be slightly...creative, to try my latter option.

Good lord, I thought the point of this thread was whether you should give it back or not. If you're looking for validation before you go all pyro, go ahead. One fucking way of getting rid of it. I mean it adds all this power to your stupid ex and big dumb break up, but you know what? Who cares. Go nuts.

You don't want to give it back, so don't. Screw it. No point playing nice if you're still bitter. As long as you're not launching malicious attacks, it's all gravy.

 

[Dags90]

It is ever so slightly vengeful, I admit. But I don't give it back for vengeance, I know that is never a good habit to get into. But if I did, it would prove a point that only she would understand. That's the motivation behind that idea.

It's mostly vindictive. I also think it would prove the opposite point that you're trying to make (that you're over her). Nothing says "I have unresolved feelings about you" like going out of your way to interact with a woman you claim to have not spoken to in months.

 

[knight steel]

So I have this framed picture, that I just dug up while cleaning, it's a drawing (a pretty good one, compared to my lack of artistic abilities at least) that a girl made for me on my birthday a couple years back. I found this picture along with some old photos of her.

Long story short, this last fall, despite a good 2 years of being good friends and a short time of dating, she decided she wants nothing more to do with me. There is much to it, but we will leave it at that.

So I haven't talked to her in many months, and I surely don't plan to, but with this little memento I found, I stopped myself from burning it on the spot because of one little thought I had.

Perhaps I should give it all back to her? To prove a point, my mind tells me, I should. This action would blindside her as well as probably piss her off. But either way, I wouldn't care what she thinks. I entertain this idea still though. She had a bad habit of keeping her vehicles windows slightly cracked open, so I could just pop by while she works and drops it in easy and inconspicuously.

So escapist, decide for me. Burn it, or give it back? An no poll. This is not something I shall quantify to make a decision.

EDIT: Mmmmkay fine, I won't burn it
But I will rid myself of it one way or the other

Why not do both, put it in her car and then set it on fire ^_^.

 

[Hader]

It is ever so slightly vengeful, I admit. But I don't give it back for vengeance, I know that is never a good habit to get into. But if I did, it would prove a point that only she would understand. That's the motivation behind that idea.

It's mostly vindictive. I also think it would prove the opposite point that you're trying to make (that you're over her). Nothing says "I have unresolved feelings about you" like going out of your way to interact with a woman you claim to have not spoken to in months.

Perhaps, but I am not normal.
I'm done with it, done with her, have moved on, just wanted to get rid of some old junk, and maybe be witty about doing it.

 

[Hader]

The point is not to give it back to her so she has another pretty picture frame to use.

I want rid of it. I felt it might be slightly...creative, to try my latter option.

Good lord, I thought the point of this thread was whether you should give it back or not. If you're looking for validation before you go all pyro, go ahead. One fucking way of getting rid of it. I mean it adds all this power to your stupid ex and big dumb break up, but you know what? Who cares. Go nuts.

You don't want to give it back, so don't. Screw it. No point playing nice if you're still bitter. As long as you're not launching malicious attacks, it's all gravy.

Well I am saying the point isn't "Here, take this back because I don't want it." but more along the lines of "HEY, remember this shit? Yeah...yeah. I'll just leave this here."

 

[Dags90]

Perhaps, but I am not normal.
I'm done with it, done with her, have moved on, just wanted to get rid of some old junk, and maybe be witty about doing it.

Nothing you've posted seems out of the ordinary, so I guess I'll have to take your word for it. Your plan isn't really witty. Spiteful, yes.

 

[Hader]

Perhaps, but I am not normal.
I'm done with it, done with her, have moved on, just wanted to get rid of some old junk, and maybe be witty about doing it.

Nothing you've posted seems out of the ordinary, so I guess I'll have to take your word for it. Your plan isn't really witty.

So it seems

But it will put that look on her face. It's something at least.

 

[Dags90]

So it seems

But it will put that look on her face. It's something at least.

If she means that much to you, go for it.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Well I am saying the point isn't "Here, take this back because I don't want it." but more along the lines of "HEY, remember this shit? Yeah...yeah. I'll just leave this here."

That would be a malicious attack. If passive-aggressive.
Do that and suddenly you're the douche. But hey, your life.

 

[Hader]

So it seems

But it will put that look on her face. It's something at least.

If she means that much to you, go for it.

Just about anything means more to me than she does. As far as love and romance and dating and all that crap goes. I just don't care to be part of her life anymore. Does doing this somehow say otherwise? It seems like it. But I am confident and secure enough in my own feelings.

 

[Hader]

Well I am saying the point isn't "Here, take this back because I don't want it." but more along the lines of "HEY, remember this shit? Yeah...yeah. I'll just leave this here."

That would be a malicious attack. If passive-aggressive.
Do that and suddenly you're the douche. But hey, your life.

Rate that douchebaggery on a scale of 1-10 for me.

 

[thathaloguy117]

Make it into a weed cigarete

 

[Dags90]

But I am confident and secure enough in my own feelings.

That's just your brain being stupid.[footnote]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overconfidence_effect[/footnote] It happens to everyone.

You might be over her romantically, but doing this screams you aren't over her emotionally.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Well I am saying the point isn't "Here, take this back because I don't want it." but more along the lines of "HEY, remember this shit? Yeah...yeah. I'll just leave this here."

That would be a malicious attack. If passive-aggressive.
Do that and suddenly you're the douche. But hey, your life.

Rate that douchebaggery on a scale of 1-10 for me.

On my own subjective raging-doucheometre that's about an eight.
But I have a sort of seething hatred for passive-aggressiveness.