What should I make of this? (Relationship thread, BE WARNED)

[Baron von Blitztank]

[!Warning!, Up ahead lies a big wall of text. It is recommended that you read all of this to get the full story]


Today at school we were having a so-called "Sponsored walk" wherein the first half of the day is spent walking around the shitey forest area of the town the school is located and the second half consists of lunch and boring games.

Due to reasons of being an ugly/nerdy bastard I have never been sucessful in a relationship with a girl. Until I met this person who I shall refer to as R. Me and R have been getting on sweet together. I have confessed to her that I do love her and so far nothing bad has come of it, although I still feel the need to pluck up courage to speak to her.

So I am walking along with my tutor class (most of which are a bunch of dicks, excluding R and her friends) and I am walking right next to R and at this stage in our relationship the whole school has been getting word of it and, naturally, everyone starts taking the piss. We usually ignore it via giving no responce whatsoever and continue on with awkward silences, atleast until today.

During the walk we are caught up by someone who always likes to take the piss out of us, who I shall refer to kindly as *****. ***** starts shouting across to R and asks if R is going out with me, naturally we ignore this and walk on. ***** continues to ask this for a minute or so until R caves in and finally answers her question with the answer of "No".

From then on for the rest of the day I was left feeling depressed and I was physically unable to eat lunch because of it.
As we were preparing to set up for the "entertainment" that would take up the rest of the day, someone else asked the same question and the same answer of "No" was given, only the answer was delivered quicker.

Things with me and R did seem to return back to how they were as school was starting to finish but I am still left with the niggling thought in my mind that she does not see me in the same way that I see her.


So what should I make of this?
Did R answer with "No" just to shut up *****? or Have I fooled myself into thinking that there was something more than just friendship?

As for discussion value....err....Has anything like this ever happen to you?


EDIT: I can't really go dating with her because we both need to take the bus to get to school and we are a couple of miles apart in what is essentially the middle of nowhere and my parents are usually out working

(Sorry if the text is a bit hard to understand, I'll get round to editing it later)

 

[Girl With One Eye]

It's difficult to tell, but in my opinion she did it to stop people gossiping. Everyone has the right to their privacy and it's understandable that she wouldn't want everyone to know, especially if they're like "*****". Try to carry on as normal and see where it leads rather than focusing on this, and find how out she really feels.

 

[Dags90]

Sounds like you might have imagined a reciprocal romantic relationship where there was none. Did she ever declare her love for you with words? My TV tells me this is a hallmark of delusional stalkers.

 

[Deleted]

I would say that she was just trying to shut ***** up. You think you can't stand a *****, other girls are more annoyed by bitches more. So you can feel reassured that she was just lying. But what do I know I'm a user on the escapist. Haha.

 

[tjs09]

I don't think I need to read the entire wall of text, I can just read up to where you tell R you love her and let you know your screwed. Why the hell did you do that, man? She practically OWNS you now.

EDIT: I read the rest of the wall of text, you're still screwed

 

[child of lileth]

So, were you guys actually dating before this happened? Because if you just spend time together at school, and nothing outside of it, then you probably just saw more in it than there actually was. I don't think you specifically mentioned anything about this in the OP, unless I misunderstood something.

 

[freedomweasel]

Solution: ask her if she likes you, if yes, ask if she wants to go out on a date.

She probably said "No", because you are in fact, not dating.

 

[fulano]

You're done, son, so fuck it. You are already at risk of severe drought of man-points after what just happened.

But when one of the doors closes another opens up: Hit on one of her friends instead.

I mean... ...take it easy, growing up is part of a process, and that includes being not-dumped by a not-girlfirend--just give her space. but more importantly: give yourself space. If you feel so much for a girl so as to skip lunch over a denial then you have some thinking to do about where you stand.

Peace out.

 

[Altorin]

Give it time.. Don't let it stress you..

Even if it doesn't work out, at least you'll get some experience talking with girls and being around girls

I'm assuming the way you're talking this is probably a junior high/middle school thing, so really, all I can say is that it's not as important as it seems.. just hang out with her.. work up your courage to talk to her more.. either it'll work or it won't.. and either way you win in the end.

 

[Good morning blues]

***** was merely asking a question that you should have asked a long time ago. This girl is not going to make the first move, so if you want to be doing more than walking near each other in PE you'd better step up.

 

[Darkfreak]

i see how you feel, I really do. I have a similar relationship problem with my sort-of-not-really girlfriend. See her parents wont let her date until shes 16 cause for some reason parents do that for their daughters in this area in which i abide. actually there are some good reasons but not that now. either way we're really close and i like being with her its just that every time someone asks "Are you guys dating" we have to say no or tell them the lengthy explanation.
This can be really confusing because if were not really going out then what are we doing and are our feelings for each other going away.
As for this girl just let it slide. If your not actually dating then thats fine. mabye shes just not ready or mabye you need to ask her out. telling someone you like them is different than asking them out.
so overall:
1.Is she ready to date you?
2.If so then say that you want to go out with her AKA ask her out
3.If she really wants to be friends then be cool with it, i have plenty of friends like this
and just a tip: ask her friends if she really likes you, if there indicisive or say IDK that might mean she told them not to talk about it.
Either way beat of luck!

 

[the rye]

ok i have had a similar experiance, you know you might want to be just want to be friends it can be great having a close friend.

Also make sure to give space. I dunno i'm actually terrible at giving relationship advice.

 

[Imp Poster]

Due to reasons of being an ugly/nerdy bastard I have never been sucessful in a relationship with a girl.

First off, I have a problem with your thinking here. If you don't think good about yourself, what makes you think someone else will? If you are trying to go for the I am nothing waiting for someone to make me into something. Don't. It will take a long awhile or never into a healthy relationship. Second, with this logic, chicks with big boobs/asses and guys with big penises would never have a failed relationship. Actors,actresses,singers,all beautiful looking people would be all be in successful relationships. Are you kidding? I think you need to find things you are good at and find some good traits about you. In my high school, there was a nerdiest looking guy ever who was really good at chess. He was so proud that he wore a letterman's jacket with a chess peice on it. Even though I thought he was lower than low and a wanna be jock, he had a girlfriend that followed him everywhere. Confidence in yourself is everything.

Until I met this person who I shall refer to as R. Me and R have been getting on sweet together. I have confessed to her that I do love her and so far nothing bad has come of it, although I still feel the need to pluck up courage to speak to her.

If you told her you love her and never took her out like on a date or even a first kiss. I am pretty sure she is confused at best. But probably creeped out and doesn't not know what to make of it. Worst, she probably does not believe you. Have you been "loving" to her? Never say what you don't know or mean. It's a negative and reaching for something. I think the first rule of love/like club is Do not say love and like. Girls are smart. They will have figured you out before you have. By your actions, communication, even the way you look at her, girls will figure you out. Besides, you say love and like, girls are going to hold you to those standards of like and love. Believe me, girls have high standards of like and love, you will dissappoint her.

And in your current situation. Don't think about what she meant. You need to communicate better to her about your feelings without say it. Take her out first, I like concerts. Take her to a concert of a band/singer she likes. Talk to her with a goal to make her comfortable with you to atleast hold her hand at the concert. If you can get that far, talk to in between songs, compliment her appearance, at this point, you should be close because concerts are loud, if she smiles at you, plant a big wet one!

 

[TheSteeleStrap]

First of all, you DON'T tell someone you are just friends with, whom you want more from, that you love her. That's a perfect way to scare her away. That being said, ask her out. If she says yes, great; if she says no, oh well.

 

[Klagermeister]

JUST ASK HER THE FUCK OUT.
You know what happened to me when I felt that way about my girlfriend (whom I've been dating for almost 2 years)? I kept feeling down in the dumps and she ended up having to ask ME out. I kind of regret not doing it myself, since I was the one who felt that way at the time.

Just very matter-of-factly let her know how you feel, without being too confrontational and be VERY nice about it. She'll think it's very sweet how you feel, and she'll give you a chance. If she doesn't, give up and move on.

Seriously, what's the worst that can happen if you ask her out? Lemme answer that: she says no. But hell, take a chance and go for it.
...And ignore ***** and anyone who acts like her. They don't have any business between you two.

 

[hazabaza1]

Sounds to me like you weren't going out. If so, then she's just telling the truth.

 

[7moreDead_v1legacy]

Sounds like you and r need a cup of mtfu - [MTFU]). If you ask her out properly worst she can say is no. If yes happens and ***** proceeds to live up to their namesake give them a bowl of stfu - \STFU/

A couple of miles apart is nothing you can walk that, heck I do that for fun...If you can't drink more from the cup.

One of my ex's home was the other side of Wales didn't stop me when she went back I just got a train...then when that stopped I took a taxi the last 1/3 and blagged a cheap fair.

Anyway drink from the cup, hand ***** the bowl...Ask R out, strut your stuff cause you're a man now son!

 

[ICanBreakTheseCuffs]

not the longest wall o text I've faced
probably not,sorry but in your description it didn't sound like she was into you but more like in the "friend" zone;which I'm in with most girls at my school