What the hell, ladies!?

[shitoutonme]

THE PROBLEM:

Did you seriously take 2 hours to get ready to go out with a couple of your girls just to sit/stand in the corner all night and do nothing? I?ve been visiting a new club every weekend (sometimes 2 clubs if I decide to go out both Friday and Saturday night) for the past several weeks, and practically half, if not more, of the girls in each one of them were just sitting and standing around. See, that wouldn?t even be a problem if they were simply waiting for some guys to ask them for a dance, but that?s the thing: you can barely even get them to talk to you, much less dance. It?s like half of these girls are antisocial or something. But what?s the point of dressing up and going to a club ? maybe even paying to get in - if you?re not going to mingle and participate in the main event, which is usually dancing? I don?t get it.

And don?t think I?m just butthurt because some ladies wouldn?t dance with me; a bunch of other guys were trying to talk to these girls and dance with them but ended up dancing solo or leaning up against the wall somewhere. It almost makes me think these girls go to the club just to reject guys as an ego booster. I really can?t think of another reason for that crap, but hey, if there is another reason, answer this question: The fuck?s wrong with these ladies?

 

[Blunderboy]

This is really why I prefer going to pubs and bars instead of clubs.
Really, clubs are crap for socializing. It's far too crowded and noisy to talk.
There are plenty of women who are happier talking to a guy in a regular bar.

 

[Entropyutd]

Most guys do not know how to talk to girls, which is the first step in attracting them.
I'm guessing these other guys lack the same social skills as you do. (no disrespect intended)

 

[SckizoBoy]

... I haven't the faintest idea...

Y'know, I have many reasons for why I don't go clubbing... and you've just given me another one.

 

[Thaluikhain]

"Wrong with them"? Um, people are allowed to go to clubs and not have to dance with guys, you know.

 

[Lionsfan]

Nothings wrong with them, I know what you're talking about and yeah sometimes it pisses me off, but I doubt they're going just to reject guys. Nobody is that rude/mean-spirited. They probably are expecting to meet people there or something and the people didn't show. It's just something that happens in clubs, it's why clubs are always more fun if you go with a group that has girls.

 

[Doclector]

Why do ladies do that? Why do guys take beauty as skin deep? Why do just as many ladies do this, matter of fact, why do humans do it? Why do people fight pointless wars? Why do people take dangerous drugs? Why does justin beiber have an audience? Why is horror not scary anymore? Why do people watch the jeremy kyle show, why why why?

Many things confuse me and many others about society. Sometimes, there may not be a logical answer.

 

[ladyhermes]

Possibly have boyfriends but personally I go to clubs to dance whether I'm with someone or not, don't quite understand why anyone would go to a club if they didn't want to dance. Maybe they're self conscious. I have never noticed this though, are you going to terrible clubs? Although I will say some women just don't want to be hassled by men when they go out, I spend a lot of time on the dancefloor fending off unwanted attention, if they had clubs for women only I would definitely give that a whirl. Wouldn't take it too personally they might just be stroppy =)

 

[Scarim Coral]

Have you consider asking these non dancing women why they are having fun like the rest? Ok sure they probaly come up with an excuse but it better to try finding it out than to make assumption.

 

[staika]

How dare they go to a club and reject me when I ask them to dance with me! They obviously don't understand my unique and awesome charm! Something must be wrong with them!!

OT: a few of my friends do this, they go to the club but they never dance with any of the guys for some reason. When I asked them about it they said they just like to go and have a good time and they usually don't go to find guys. there are other places to pick up girls at and a club is one of the worst places to pick up girls at, I should know I always strike out when I'm there ;(

 

[Princess Rose]

Did you seriously take 2 hours to get ready to go out with a couple of your girls just to sit/stand in the corner all night and do nothing? I?ve been visiting a new club every weekend (sometimes 2 clubs if I decide to go out both Friday and Saturday night) for the past several weeks, and practically half, if not more, of the girls in each one of them were just sitting and standing around.

Sorry, I can't help you - when I spend an hour getting ready to go out to a club, I dance. The last time I went clubbing, I attempted to dance using a stripper pole (those things are difficult to use! - I kept sliding off, and ended up bruising my leg), and when that didn't work out well, I ended up in a raised cage thing (open on one side) dancing with four other women. So yeah - NOT standing in a corner.

I haven't particularly noticed the "trend" you seem to think exists, and it certainly isn't something I do.

See, that wouldn?t even be a problem if they were simply waiting for some guys to ask them for a dance,

**snort** Oh yes, that makes sense - girls just waiting around for some guy.
/sarcasm

As mentioned above, fun-loving girls like me will dance even without a male partner. I dance with friends, I dance with strangers - it's all good.

It almost makes me think these girls go to the club just to reject guys as an ego booster. I really can?t think of another reason for that crap, but hey, if there is another reason, answer this question: The fuck?s wrong with these ladies?

Have you considered the possibility that the girls were there to talk to their friends and drink? Granted, I usually prefer a quieter bar for socializing, but some people like to do it at clubs.

So yeah, those women might just be there to hang out with one another and drink. They may not want to dance at all. I think it's an odd place to do it, but I don't think they're just trying to cock-tease you.

Really, on the average day, having a bunch of random semi-drunk guys hit on you isn't ego-affirming - it's just annoying.

 

[JanatUrlich]

What makes you think that every girl in a club wants to get with a guy? A lot of the time, a group of girls on a night out together will literally just be having a girls night out. We're socialising with each other, not with guys like you.

We don't have to dance with guys to have fun. I can't believe you're that stupid.

 

[stuupiid0]

Most guys do not know how to talk to girls, which is the first step in attracting them.
I'm guessing these other guys lack the same social skills as you do. (no disrespect intended)

we are talking about a club here. I bet all the girls are really impressed with your social skills after you have been shouting in her ear for a few minutes, trying to make yourself clear ^^. Sure you can make some small, small talk, but in my opinion all communication goes trough eye-contact.

 

[Fwee]

Maybe they want to go somewhere to have a couple drinks with their friends and unwind? Either that, or they all emailed each other and organized a "Freeze-Out" party and forgot to tell the dudes. Bars and clubs are pockets of wasted time, money and effort anyway.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Well mate I hope you got your flame suit on

But you should all understand that just because people are at the club doesn't mean they want to be there.
There is alot of peer pressure involved with this shit, and I also used to go to clubs because that's just what people of my age were expected to do, that is where the fun is at, where you get the ladies, everyone goes there,... and all sorts of other bullshit.

Truth is there is no way you can socialize in there, clubs are no more then lust grinders, which is great for people into that and borderline scary for people who didn't want to be there.

 

[RobCoxxy]

I don't have this problem.
There's always some that go out with their friends to have a good night and a few drinks though, so chill yo beans.

 

[Robert Ewing]

Women like to look nice. It's a subconscious need that helps them attract a mate. They often don't realize they're doing it. Because it's ingrained in their psyche to look as attractive as they can to people.

On the flip side, It's why men tend to show off in front of women in their own ways. Some act tough, some act sensitive. It's all a guise to attract a woman, or man. But it's subconscious, so we do it whether we realize it or not. Also, male grooming.

 

[LITE992]

Women wait for guys to approach them and ask them to dance or something.

 

[Sizzle Montyjing]

Maybe because... ooh i don't know... They don't want too!?
Women can go to a club, and do whatever the fuck they want (within public decency laws ;p), just because they don't choose to dance with guys, or more specifically you, doesn't mean that they are weird and stupid (you didn't say that but i'm getting that vibe).

Deal with it dude, deal with it.
Oh and by the way... this isn't a problem.
It's a situation.
A situation that doesn't need fixing.

Anyway, i'm off to go lurk in some popular place then leave empty-handed, because i just like to observe (yes, this could be another explination)