What would you do in this situation?

[Quiet Stranger]

Hi, it's me again, got another problem.

Some of you might have seen my last thread about a girl I like, well it's about that but now not so confusing.

So there's this girl I really like (don't ask why, I just do) and she likes me (or at least I thought she did) we've done things now like touching and cuddling and kissing (lots of things but not sex, just so you know) It's been lots of fun until last night. My gay friend and the girl I like thought they'd play a mean trick on me (not that I was fooled cause my gay friend is well...gay) by texting me that they were having sex and that it was in their words "AMAZING!" Now the whole point of this was to get the "point" across that the girl I like doesn't like me...well then what the fuck was all that kissing and touching and nice times about? Was she just teasing me? What would you guys do? I think I had more to add but I can't remember.

Also don't bring up "friends with benefits" cause honestly she hasn't said anything like that so I can't rule it out but I can't rule it in either and seriously fuck friends with benefits, worse then the friend zone.

 

[Phasmal]

Well... talk to the girl about it.

Say `I like you, I thought you liked me, what's up?`

Sounds to me like she has changed her mind. And if that's the case I would suggest not pressing the issue.

 

[Fappy]

Don't really have enough information to work with here but I'll try anyway. If you've been fooling around and she says she doesn't like you then I'd cut her loose and never look back. Sure, you can probably still be friends, but things like this never end well in my experience. Whether she just wanted to have some fun or she was using you, she did so at your expense. You don't want a relationship with someone that will do that to you.

 

[Jonluw]

If I were to make a guess?
She was trying things out. You don't have to be commited to someone to kiss them. Kissing and some petting is a potentially fine way to figure out if you like a person or not.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Don't really have enough information to work with here but I'll try anyway. If you've been fooling around and she says she doesn't like you then I'd cut her loose and never look back. Sure, you can probably still be friends, but things like this never end well in my experience. Whether she just wanted to have some fun or she was using you, she did so at your expense. You don't want a relationship with someone that will do that to you.

Oh yeah now I remember what I wanted to ask, what do you call a girl like that? I mean if she never liked me and was just using me for whatever, what's the name for someone like that?

 

[Quiet Stranger]

If I were to make a guess?
She was trying things out. You don't have to be commited to someone to kiss them. Kissing and some petting is a potentially fine way to figure out if you like a person or not.

I've known her for three years now and when I say touching I mean, feeling her up and her touching me to get me "excited" (though don't take THAT the wrong way cause it's not very hard to do that)

 

[Fappy]

Don't really have enough information to work with here but I'll try anyway. If you've been fooling around and she says she doesn't like you then I'd cut her loose and never look back. Sure, you can probably still be friends, but things like this never end well in my experience. Whether she just wanted to have some fun or she was using you, she did so at your expense. You don't want a relationship with someone that will do that to you.

Oh yeah now I remember what I wanted to ask, what do you call a girl like that? I mean if she never liked me and was just using me for whatever, what's the name for someone like that?

Succubus maybe? Haha, I don't know. I'd take Phasmal's advice too. Confront her first. If she's using underhanded ways to get a point across to you the best you can do is catch her flatfooted by being blunt and direct.

 

[Phasmal]

Don't really have enough information to work with here but I'll try anyway. If you've been fooling around and she says she doesn't like you then I'd cut her loose and never look back. Sure, you can probably still be friends, but things like this never end well in my experience. Whether she just wanted to have some fun or she was using you, she did so at your expense. You don't want a relationship with someone that will do that to you.

Oh yeah now I remember what I wanted to ask, what do you call a girl like that? I mean if she never liked me and was just using me for whatever, what's the name for someone like that?

Dude, why do you need to call her anything?
Clearly you two did not have an established relationship, you just messed around, so you can't get snitty with her for just messing around when that's all you were doing.
I would just take the high road on this one.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Don't really have enough information to work with here but I'll try anyway. If you've been fooling around and she says she doesn't like you then I'd cut her loose and never look back. Sure, you can probably still be friends, but things like this never end well in my experience. Whether she just wanted to have some fun or she was using you, she did so at your expense. You don't want a relationship with someone that will do that to you.

Oh yeah now I remember what I wanted to ask, what do you call a girl like that? I mean if she never liked me and was just using me for whatever, what's the name for someone like that?

Dude, why do you need to call her anything?
Clearly you two did not have an established relationship, you just messed around, so you can't get snitty with her for just messing around when that's all you were doing.
I would just take the high road on this one.

And the high road would be?

 

[Phasmal]

Don't really have enough information to work with here but I'll try anyway. If you've been fooling around and she says she doesn't like you then I'd cut her loose and never look back. Sure, you can probably still be friends, but things like this never end well in my experience. Whether she just wanted to have some fun or she was using you, she did so at your expense. You don't want a relationship with someone that will do that to you.

Oh yeah now I remember what I wanted to ask, what do you call a girl like that? I mean if she never liked me and was just using me for whatever, what's the name for someone like that?

Dude, why do you need to call her anything?
Clearly you two did not have an established relationship, you just messed around, so you can't get snitty with her for just messing around when that's all you were doing.
I would just take the high road on this one.

And the high road would be?

Establishing what's going on, moving on (assuming she's not into it) and not getting petty.

 

[BenefitEvil]

This is a dangerous place to be. I know you have feelings for this girl but you have to ask yourself do you want to be treated like this? If you drop her like she's hot and explain to her you don't deserve to be treated this way. She might re-evaluate how she is treating you. If not you are better off with out her. Trust me on this one. I've spent too much time chasing women who where "trying" me out and then changed their minds. Its not a fun place to be.