What's it like having 2 parents?

[elvor0]

Joining the military with the purpose of gaining freedom and autonomy? You might want to rethink that plan.

Joining the military because you don't like having people tell you what to do...wha? *confused*

Perhaps I should explain what I meant by being "shoehorned" into my life.

They are good people, yet they attached themselves to me. They own my car, the insurance payments on the car, and pay for me college, and they pretty much are trapped to me. I'm an adult living in their house like a teenager, and I feel guilty as shit for that. It's not because I hate them telling me what to do, it's because they feel the need to tell me what to do.... if that makes any sense.

The decision to join the military isn't because I want more freedom, it's because I want to live on my own and I think the tough treatment that you get in bootcamp and the all of that will be enough to wake me up and get me on my feet and actually get me in the right mindset to live for myself. Because as it's going right now, I'm going to be living with them till I'm 22, and no shitty job at a retail store is going to help me strive out on my own.

Ah that makes more sense, well how old are you now? (assuming you're British and college is A levels) you could apply to university, (I think prices are still 3k this September) as you get the chance to live on your own and learn what it's like to live in the real world (more so than perhaps the military as it's confined to a base camp if you know what I mean). If you're American, take your college diploma, strive to find a low rent place to move to, it may not be classy but at least you're somewhat independent, and see if you can get a job with your diploma would be the best bet on that front.

On the other hand, I had a friend growing up who was a bit of a loose cannon, great person, just a bit lost; joined the army and now he's a lot better off and knows what he wants out of life, so there is a lot to be gained from it like you say, so yeah more power to you if you go for it.

 

[JoesshittyOs]

Ah that makes more sense, well how old are you now? (assuming you're British and college is A levels) you could apply to university, (I think prices are still 3k this September) as you get the chance to live on your own and learn what it's like to live in the real world (more so than perhaps the military as it's confined to a base camp if you know what I mean). If you're American, take your college diploma, strive to find a low rent place to move to, it may not be classy but at least you're somewhat independent, and see if you can get a job with your diploma would be the best bet on that front.

On the other hand, I had a friend growing up who was a bit of a loose cannon, great person, just a bit lost; joined the army and now he's a lot better off and knows what he wants out of life, so there is a lot to be gained from it like you say, so yeah more power to you if you go for it.

Nah, American. The problem is getting a decent well paying college level job down here in the states is getting trickier as the time goes by. It's not even with over working. My friend only gets 4 hours a week because of over-employment, and I'm still trying to get a job.

Plus, the military has always appealed to me. I'm off and on about joining it, but mostly it's because I thought it'd be too hard. But I'm getting tired of being afraid of making grown up decisions, so I really do think I'm gonna go through with it.

 

[elvor0]

Ah that makes more sense, well how old are you now? (assuming you're British and college is A levels) you could apply to university, (I think prices are still 3k this September) as you get the chance to live on your own and learn what it's like to live in the real world (more so than perhaps the military as it's confined to a base camp if you know what I mean). If you're American, take your college diploma, strive to find a low rent place to move to, it may not be classy but at least you're somewhat independent, and see if you can get a job with your diploma would be the best bet on that front.

On the other hand, I had a friend growing up who was a bit of a loose cannon, great person, just a bit lost; joined the army and now he's a lot better off and knows what he wants out of life, so there is a lot to be gained from it like you say, so yeah more power to you if you go for it.

Nah, American. The problem is getting a decent well paying college level job down here in the states is getting trickier as the time goes by. It's not even with over working. My friend only gets 4 hours a week because of over-employment, and I'm still trying to get a job.

Plus, the military has always appealed to me. I'm off and on about joining it, but mostly it's because I thought it'd be too hard. But I'm getting tired of being afraid of making grown up decisions, so I really do think I'm gonna go through with it.

Yeah unemployment is a massive issue over here too, I wish you the best of luck with your military career then, in the long run it's only a few years of your life and perhaps by the time you've finished your tour, the job crisis will be over and your army experience will leave you well equipped to do what ever you wanna do.