When Uninteresting Women ATTACK! #5: It Was A Blind Date But I Wasn't Blind Enough!

[Hader]

For Discussion! Have you ever been set up on a blind date? And was it a disaster? Or did some good actually come of it?

Never been on a blind date, though I was offered it once. It was somewhat like your story here, there was a girl at work who was a good friend of mine and one day she randomly asked me if I would go on a blind date with a friend of hers (whom she also said had never had a boyfriend in her life...for the moment I ignored that though it was a big tip off).

I said I would think about it, though I was really leaning towards a no at this point since I had other interests at the time, a blind date situation seemed very unappealing to me, and this girl sounded like she was hardly up to it either (inexperienced at least). And not that the latter was much of a put-off; I can get past the fact that she never had a boyfriend before and likely wasn't the best with this sort of thing, but the way my friend put it it sounded more like an act of desperation than a shot at trying to have a good first date.

Well for two more weeks after that I heard nothing more of it so I kinda let it slip my mind. One day at work though my friend from work and this girl she wanted to set me up with came through my line (cashier at grocery store at the time) and I didn't even know this was that girl she meant to set me up with. I just treated it as most regular customers and went on my way. Later she told me who the girl was, and I was surprised to say the least, but also not so surprised at what she was like. She wasn't necessarily unattractive even, but so extremely shy that I doubt the most interesting man on the planet could get a word out of her. So in the end, I guess I'm glad I didn't go with that blind date.

 

[SimuLord]

She wasn't necessarily unattractive even, but so extremely shy that I doubt the most interesting man on the planet could get a word out of her. So in the end, I guess I'm glad I didn't go with that blind date.

Stay thirsty, my friends.

As for the shy girl, I can tell you that it is absolutely true what they say about the quiet ones. If you don't mind dealing with someone who's about as likely to talk back as if you were talking to a stuffed animal sometimes, those girls can be a blast to be with.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I've never exactly been on a blind date, but my first girlfriend used skilful photography to shed several kilos. They made themselves apparent once more in person, however.
We dated for about a month before I finally admitted to myself that there was no physical attraction there, then I dumped her like a jerk.

She made great food though. You know, just to make a redeeming statement before I get called out for being sexist.

 

[Dags90]

You should really change the title, it's hard to take you seriously when you call the girl "uninteresting" in the title but say:

But no matter---the girl was funny, well-spoken, reasonably intelligent, and as time went on during the four days or so between the introduction and the actual date I was like "hey, maybe some good will come of this."

I don't see why you're trying to make yourself seem less shallow with the thread title. Do you really care if a bunch of internet people think you're shallow?

I've never been set up on a blind date. I went on a date with a guy I met online who was a total snoozefest but we managed to have some fun together anyway.

 

[Jamboxdotcom]

thinking with your big head but consulting your little head is not shallow. them's the words i live by. i mean, really, looks shouldn't be the only thing, or even the main thing. but if you find someone absolutely repulsive, physically, there's no future in it.

 

[Ladette]

I've been on two blind dates, both of them dissapointing. The problem is the people who set the dates up don't know the difference between gay and bi-curious. It's not my job to help someone discover who they are, so I don't want to be set up with some girl who just "found out" that she may be bi.

 

[lee1287]

not been set up on an blind dates. Just normal ones where we get along in group situations, but one vs one we didnt click. So yeah...

 

[Glamorgan]

That's bad... What kind of a friend eh?
IMO: People that don't have their profile picture as themselves are either really shy or fugly, so i completely agree with you on that one.

That isn't always true. Often people will also put those photos up if they think very lowly of themselves.

Also: I guess I can understand your shock, but I think you could have played it a little better. No offense intended of course. Maybe if you'd been a little kinder, and not run away...

As for my blind date? Yeah. Yet to happen...

 

[SimuLord]

She made great food though.

Hey, just because you didn't find her physically attractive doesn't mean you should've eaten her.

 

[Samurai Goomba]

I haven't been on any blind dates, and I don't think I'd go on one unless the person setting me up understood that looks are important to me. I'm not a swimsuit model and I don't expect other people to be. In fact, I think many larger or unconventionally attractive women look great. But yeah, there's that upper limit. When your features stop looking human and begin to take on monstrous characteristics, well... Warning signs.

Besides, morbid obesity is incredibly unhealthy. Let's say you fall in love with somebody who is really overweight (100+ lbs) and will NOT lose the weight. They refuse. So what do you have to look forward to? The medical bills? Them potentially being unable to even have sex? A general unattractive appearance? Much greater wear on your furniture? Some might say "love conquers all," but if somebody loves his or herself enough to be confident dating, they really should try to keep to a reasonable level of overweight-ness. Often the massively, hugely obese (not referring to people who are just "fat") have serious emotional problems which brought about their condition and probably shouldn't be dating anyway until they take stock of their lives.

That said, I agree with Ultrajoe (in a shocking twist-since I almost never agree with him) that you're being cruel to this person by parading her behavior and appearance around for the amusement of strangers with no context for the situation aside from what you have provided.

 

[gostlyfantom]

damn was she really that ugly? If she is as bad as imagine i really dont blame you. for not wanting to get romanticly involved with the hunch back of notre dams deformed twin.

 

[spartan773]

why yes.

i think back in 2007-08. went on a date with a girl, lasted 45 minutes, next day i text her and she wants to end the relationship.

 

[Vault101]

That's bad... What kind of a friend eh?
IMO: People that don't have their profile picture as themselves are either really shy or fugly, so i completely agree with you on that one.

I dont use my real picture as a profile pic on facebook, I wouldnt say Im ugly but Im just not photogenic, I cant smile convincingly and I always look completley out of it and my eyes are all sqinty...I just can't find any photos of me that I think are acceptable

 

[Smooth Operator]

I was kind of set up once, my friend got a new girl and I went on how "I'll never find love"... so he asked his girl to set me up with one of her friends, and we went on a double date... god was that horrible :S
Obviously I was sold as desperate(fair enough I was desperate at the time), so then this barely average looking girl had her nose so high up in the air it was unbelievable, she also didn't mind pointing out what a catch she perceived herself to be, and I'm sitting there having to listen to this horrible stuck up b**** politely suffering through dinner without telling her to STFU, not to mention I was paying for the damn meal!

Blind dates never ever again, I would rather escort an inflatable doll out for dinner and take peoples dirty looks before going on a blind date.