Where did you meet your boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other?

[Lufia Erim]

I was going to write a long winded posts about me wanting to get back into dating but fuck it. I just want to know two things from you fine escapists.

A) where did you meet you current partner
B) who made the first move.

As a side note. I get the feeling that dating/finding people is easier for homosexual people than heterosexuals. Is there any truth to that? I see my gay friends constantly meeting/dating new guys and it fills me with envy lol. Man i wish i was gay.

 

[Johnny Impact]

Don't wish to be part of a group whose membership carries the risk of being assaulted. Hate crimes happen every day.

I don't see how it can be easier for gays to date. They're still a mere 10% of the population, as far as I know. It's false logic to assume that all gays are mutually interested, or even valid partners, simply because of their orientation. "Because we're both gay" doesn't seem any better reason to date than "because we're both straight." Of course, I might have that completely wrong. I don't know any homosexuals (that I know of), so I've never been able to ask them.

A) No partner
B) I don't even say hello to women. I figured out a long time ago I am a fundamentally repulsive person. Saves us both some time if I just skip over the conversation and ensuing rejection to the part where I go away.

 

[Fappy]

As a side note. I get the feeling that dating/finding people is easier for homosexual people than heterosexuals. Is there any truth to that? I see my gay friends constantly meeting/dating new guys and it fills me with envy lol. Man i wish i was gay.

I highly doubt this is true. Depending on where you live your options are significantly more limited than they are for straight people. I imagine many gay people stay in bad relationships simply because they don't feel like they can meet anyone else.

Anyway, on topic...

A) She was a friend of my sister's when they were at UGA together.
B) I think I did, but I knew she was interested before I did anything about it.

 

[Lufia Erim]

Don't wish to be part of a group whose membership carries the risk of being assaulted. Hate crimes happen every day.

I don't see how it can be easier for gays to date. They're still a mere 10% of the population, as far as I know. It's false logic to assume that all gays are mutually interested, or even valid partners, simply because of their orientation. "Because we're both gay" doesn't seem any better reason to date than "because we're both straight." Of course, I might have that completely wrong. I don't know any homosexuals (that I know of), so I've never been able to ask them.

A) No partner
B) I don't even say hello to women. I figured out a long time ago I am a fundamentally repulsive person. Saves us both some time if I just skip over the conversation and ensuing rejection to the part where I go away.

Well I'm probably wrong about that. I'm from montreal from what i hear, compared to other places, we are a lot more inclusive. It may be skewing my perceptions. While some homophobic stuff does happen here just like a lot of places unfortunately, it's one of the best places to be gay.

 

[username sucks]

I'm a gay guy, definitely not easier for us to date. Way smaller dating pool, not to mention the risk of getting shit from homophobes.

Anyway, I met my boyfriend at my college's Pride center, and he made the first move.

 

[Tiger King]

Myspace!
Remember myspace? is it still going? ha ha

Actually, bit of a coincidence as today is the anniversary that we first met in person. Although 7 years ago it was a Friday and not a Saturday.

It was long distance which sucked but we are together now and I'm glad I ignored all the naysayers that informed me that long distance relationships never work.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I'll probably be the one to make the first move and it'll probably come from a corner of my life I won't expect it from or written off. I'm optimistic.

 

[cathou]

i was a barmaid in a tiny bar that most of the customers were old folk dancing on country music. she was a friend of another employee and she used to hang with us at the bar while we worked and sometimes after when the bar was close.

she made the first move. i didnt even knew she was gay. nobody knew i was too, but she guessed.

is it easier for homosexual than heterosexual ? i would say that today it's probably as easy for hetero and homosexual. i dont think it's easier for homosexual in genral, it's just that a very visible minority is more promiscuous, but it's the majority.

but, when i met my wife 16 years ago, it was more difficult. internet dating didnt exist, gay bars were far less common. homosexuaklity was far less accepted too

 

[CrystalShadow]

Hmm... Well, if things arecactually going tye way they appear to be going, my likely answer soin will be 'in the usergroups of this website'...
XD


As for who made the first move, I'd say that's kind of too ambiguous to answer in this case. Kind of just happened organically, and hasn't got any truly obvious beginning to it.
(unless you count me declaring my feelings, in which case, I suppose it was... me that made the first move. XD)

In any event, these things can happen unexoectedly, and often when you aren't even looking for them (even a tiny bit)

So... You know... Anyway, It's probably a bit early to really say what's going on...
I'll get back to you in uh... A year or two or something. XD

 

[WolfThomas]

A. University. Rural placement. We were differing year levels.

B. She kissed me while drunk. The next day I kissed her both sober.

We're getting married next year.

 

[Treeinthewoods]

Married for seven years, dated for three before that.

A) We met at work, I was waiting tables while finishing school and they put her in the area next toine so I could help her out. We flirted a little for three nights and...

B) I asked her to join me for a drink after work and kissed her after we spent three hours just talking, laughing and drinking together.

I was not looking for love, just out to enjoy myself on a weekend night. It can happen to anyone when they least expect it!

 

[Issurru]

I met my girlfriend back in elementary school (grade 6) I didn't make a move until grade 8 (Yeah I'm slow, super shy, and awkward as all hell)

Broke up awhile later after I moved a little ways away. Came back for grade 12 and asked her out again. Been dating ever since (7 years),and yes I once again made the first move

 

[Bellvedere]

A. I was looking for a share house to live in and found a boyfriend at the same time. After meeting several groups of people looking for a new housemate, met some people that I really liked and moved in with them. He was one of my new housemates.

B. He made the first move. It was a really awesome house and I didn't want ruin things by hitting on my new housemate. I was going to move out afterwards as living with someone you just started dating seemed like it would be stressful, but never got around to it. Been together for 5 years now.

 

[NeutralDrow]

A) We met in college, took the same Japanese class.

B) She did. Both times. We were friends for a while, dated for a few months, broke up, were friends for another while, lost touch, reconnected recently, and are dating again.

 

[Pyrian]

I haven't had many relationships, might as well run down the list...

1) Met at a BBS forum meetup. Back then forums were mostly local, since they ran on dial-up modems and a long distance call might be across the street. Made the first move. In chat, lol.

2) Met playing D&D. We moved in on each other more or less simultaneously - neither of us had thought the other was interested, and when we started flirting, it was basically like "okay let's try this". ...It was a disaster, lol...

3) Met at school. A third, rather more gregarious person chatted with both of us. I asked for her e-mail and then flirted outrageously at her (over e-mail) until she told me to get on with it already. Not sure how that should be classified, either.

4) Met at work. Made the first move. Incidentally, I was rejected by 12 other women that same year. Got married, had a kid, still going strong...

 

[kitsunefather]

1) We were at work in a retailer; she was punching out and I was punching in

2) She's the only person I ever made the first move on.

Ex. Credit) We've been together 10 years come December

 

[Zontar]

Odd case of it happening twice with her.

A1) High School
B1) She did, though because of my self esteem issues I thought she was joking and that it was some sort of trap, so I rejected the offer.

Then:

A2) A coffee shop
B2) I did this time. We'd run into each other by coincidence and decided to catch up since graduation. One topic led to the next and we got to talking about our love life, or mutual lack there of as it turned out. One thing lead to another and the next thing I know she's moved in with my into my 'apartment' (it's really just the top floor of the 3 story rural house I grew up in since we renovated our attic to be a separate self contained apartment).

 

[Strelok]

A) I picked a random name on ICQ and we would chat when I was home from work and she was at work. We have been married 11 years now and have one child, a boy.

B) She did, I saw the opportunity and if she didn't I would have.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Dating website, pretty sure I made the first move. Rather uninteresting story, really, but I'm not complaining.