Who are you!?

[Simalacrum]

I've had the total opposite once, actually, there was this one girl I really really disliked in my old primary school... I thought she was mean, unfriendly, etc etc - basically, we were arch enemies.

Now, I consider her a rather good friend ^^

 

[MikhailGH]

Yeah, one of my best friends actually. We didn't go to the same school for 4 years, and when we went both to university and rented a flat together. I was totally confused as to how he has evolved. I tried to keep our friendship up by asking him to do stuff, go out whatever. Anyway he change university and now we don't live together anymore.
How and why this happened, don't ask me...

 

[Talshere]

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I know what you mean. Myself, my brother AND my sister have a raft of people who have had this happen, although on many occasions we've watched it happen over the course of months or years. We have actually coin the term "victim of the city" for those we know its happened to.

The city we live in could be defined as a council estate. Unemployment over 10%, average salary like 17k. We have all know friends who were as good as us, or better at school, who as time has progressed slowly just seemed to fade away. Of all my friends who we just as smart as me at school only 5 made it to college and only 1 of those made it to uni. The 2 that had good jobs on leaving college are now on the dole and both smoke weed on an hourly basis (I can deal with that, just not in my house) and cant really have a night out without some E (Just no).

When the 3 of use went to uni we basically walked away an never looked back. We keep in touch with some of them, some have got to like 20-22 and realised they screwed up somewhere and are now desperately trying to get some sort of education, I know one of them has just come back to reality after spending nearly 2 years high on every sort of hard drug you can imagine. I look back and just wonder where all those good smart A and B grade kids went.

 

[Betancore]

I've had that happen with a lot of my primary school friends. One of them has turned into a full blown scene kid, the kind I love to hate, who chain smokes and wears so much eyeliner that it puts Ryan Ross to shame. Another has turned into a whore. Best and only way to describe it. I wonder what people I used to know would think of me? I'm nothing like the way I should be. I guess people change. And I missed out on growing up with a lot of my friends, because I moved schools so often, so the change seems more sudden to me, while everyone else might jus take it for granted that they're like that.

 

[Arkvoodle]

Yes. Except I was the one who'd changed the wrong way.

 

[googleit6]

I grew away from my friends once we entered junior high school. In my last year of elementary, things were great, and I had always had a huge group of friends, lots of best friends, always doing something, etc.

Then, come junior high, after a while, things started to change. I started to care about things that weren't completely shallow, and wanted deeper relationships. Of course, the first deep relationship I found ended crappily, and I just started talking to him again, but I can't figure out if he's changed, or if how I perceived him has changed. It's so incredibly depressing to think that someone who you knew inside and out isn't actually the person you thought you knew. Ugh.

Anyways, shit hit the fan, and I ended up with one friend left. Then she moved across the country. Yippee.

Things are looking up, though, I think, and I'm trying to be optimistic.

 

[interspark]

I have a long-term friend who I've known for around five years, who was a rather nerdy really cool guy

thats a coincedence! i have a friend who's a really tall midget! lol, im kidding, nerds can be cool

Dude...you're on a gaming forum. You're a nerd. Don't fight it.

who's fighting it? i draw webcomics! you dont see many non-nerds doing that!

 

[I Max95]

well there was this one friend whowas a pretty cool guy when he was younger and now he started Smoking doing drugs he hardly speaks and seems to hold comtempt for all his former friends including me and even his brother

and also i had the oposite expierience
one of my best friends in my eirelier years before highschool had a friend and he was an obnoxious prick who kept making fun of me and making me feel like a third wheel whenever all three of us were around
but in highschool i had blotted the entire expierience out of my mind and soon i had a class with him
he chose once to sit right next to me and didnt make fun of me in fact he was possesed by the same motivation i had and forgot about the whole thing and we became fast friends after that

 

[diego_2112]

Heh... This might seem like a rambling pile of nothingness, but it makes sense in my head. Bear with me, ok?

My best friend, he was like a brother to me. BUT, he let other people rule his life, and in turn destroy it. He used to be a go-geter, right there in the front, up in all the action (like me). Really into the local music scene, hell, even had me teach him to play bass. We grew up together.

Some shit went down with a girl, he started to change. THEN he started dating this one chick, and it just got bad... So, I basically told him, "dude, I'm calling it. Been a good run, but I'm tired now. Have a good'n." He understood, and that was good.
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And, as some others on here, I had the good side of it happen! TWO of my ex gfs that ended on VERY bad terms started talking again (unfortunatly, the married one's husband is a major paranoid douche, and dont understand that a guy and a girl can talk and have a nonsexual relationship, so we dont talk anymore). Apparently, I've not really changed much at all thses past nearly 10 years.

Probably not relevant at all, but what the hell? In a freak co-wink-ee-dink, a very dear frind that I just sort of, fell out of contact with (due to, well, life), popped back up, about a week before they moved. Call it what you will, but if they'd have walked in the store 5 min in either direction, we'd have missed each other, and we'd have never been able to talk to eachother again. I'm pretty happy about that! Snailmail FTFW!

 

[Lust]

Everybody I knew just grew a foot taller

 

[Serenegoose]

Every time I see this thread, I want to answer it with:

"We are Daedalus. We are Icarus. The barriers between us have fallen and we have become... our own shadows. We can be more if we join... with you."

as for the OP, I've experienced the same thing. My friends just got completely obsessed with it, and would constantly try and pressure me to taking it, even though I didn't want to. I cut contact with them when I could.

 

[Aura Guardian]

I am
WHO ARE YOU?
I am
WHO ARE YOU?
I am
WHO ARE YOU?

OT-Yep. I now have only 3 friends. All of the "friends" changed for the worse.

 

[Kpt._Rob]

I think the more common situation for me is to talk to people I knew years ago and realize how different I am. Actually, I kind of sympathize with the OP's friend. I had some drug problems myself... and they seriously did change me. I've been clean for a while now, but even so, there's things that drug abuse does to you that can't ever really be undone. OP, if you take the time to read my post, then can I give you some advice and ask you to just be patient with your friend? If you've never had drug problems then it's hard to understand, but like I said, drugs really do take a toll on you, and even if your friend's all into it now, there will come a time when he realizes what he's done to himself. If that time comes, he may need you to be there for him. I know I never could've gotten clean without friends to lean on for support.