Why are you friends with your friends?

[Kae]

Well 2 days ago when my only friend came by, I decided to ask her Why are you friends with me? Mostly because it baffles me she's friends with me, I mean I really put no effort into being her friend, I don't even know when her birthday is... I know I'm an awful friend, that's why I only have 1...

Anyway her answer was, Well mostly because you were always around when I went to visit you're brothers, but also because you were cute in the same way as a puppy.
To which I responded, wait I'm a puppy, a cute puppy???[small](I hate puppies, and the word cute or adorable, eh...)[/small]
And she said, Well you were small [small](I was 13 when we met, and though I'm actually 1 year older than her, when I was 13 I must have looked like I was 7 or 8, I was really small...)[/small], you wore those clothes that clearly were too big for you [small](Long sleeves always covered my hands, I also used to flap them like wings...)[/small] you had those big eyes, that crazy anime hair [small](I was against combs and brushes, not sure why I just was)[/small], and you kinda acted all tsundere and stuff.
To which I responded, Wait you just thought of me as an anime character didn't you?
And then she just said yes, and I decided to drop the subject, and I went back to playing transformers and her to drawing.

So anyway, basically we're just friends because she thought I was like a cute anime character T^T and because I was around often, and I'm pretty much friends with her just because she comes by often, if it weren't for her I probably would live the life of a hermit, so I actually do appreciate her, I just have no idea how you're supposed to show that.

So the question is why are you friends with you're friends[footnote]Probably just you're best friends, for me it's too easy because I only have one.[/footnote] and if possible why are you're friends friends with you?
[sub]Just curious.[/sub]

 

[Kolby Jack]

Some friends you grow up with, and even if you take on different interests and meet other people, there's a bond there that can't easily be broken.

Some friends share a lot of similar traits and interests with you, and bonds are formed over those.

My two best friends are those. One I've known since I was a toddler, and we grew up together. We don't talk much these days, mostly because neither of us are fond of phone conversations, but I know if I ever need some help, he'll be there for me, and the same goes for me to him.

My other best friend I met in high school, but we became pretty fast friends because we have quite a lot in common. We still talk pretty frequently in our online games, but I haven't seen him in person in a long time.

Interestingly, neither of my two best friends have met each other. They do live half a country apart, though, so that's understandable.

And beyond those two I have other friends, but I don't put as much faith in them as most of them I've only known for a relatively short time or I haven't communicated with them in many years.

 

[Nouw]

I don't really think this is a question you can answer by giving a list of things you have in common with said friend or traits you like about said friend. Friendships aren't made logically, it doesn't come down to just a trait you like about them or stuff you have in common. Sure, it can start one, but you'll need more than that to keep it alive and healthy. If I was to say I'm friends with a certain friend of mine because we both enjoyed watching Zero Punctuation, wouldn't that mean I should be friends with a million other people? No, because to become friends with someone you must be put in an environment where it can flourish.

If I was put in a different class to said friend, I probably wouldn't be friends with him. To prove my point, we were one wall away in separate classes for a year before we became friends. For that year, I didn't even know him and just disregarded him as another student. Little did I know he would be one of the coolest people in my life. The next year, our friendship started because we both frequented this site and, can you guess, liked Zero Punctuation. But that wasn't all, it was also his personality and traits. And because we were in the same class, we could really interact with each other and strengthen our friendship. You see, if you don't have the two and only have one of them you probably won't become as close friends as you could be. Isn't that beautiful?

If I'm missing something here, feel free to point it out. I am, after all, only fourteen years old.

 

[Overusedname]

I could write a novel here but I'll make it brief:

They're family in it's purest form, and they've proven time and time again they've got my back. And they're all funny as all hell.

They probably just keep me around for the laughs and the fact that I'm a walking cyclopedia of random trivia that no one really needs to know. I've been told by several friends that they feel smarter after a long talk with me, so yeah. I get that from some of them as well. It's valuable to have smart people you don't always agree with but will always stay friends with: You can have a debate without it becoming a real fight. And I don't mean over which super hero is better. I have majorly different philosophies than several of these folks, but that's what makes our discussions interesting.

I met 4 of my 5 best friends in school, the 5th being online quite a while ago. All of whom are my family.

 

[DugMachine]

We have a grand ol time and we're funny as hell... well at least we think we are . Been friends with them through childhood/school and never looked back.

As to how I got them though? Fuck if I know. I'm super shy in reality and hardly talk to people unless spoken to. None of my friends have been made by me going out of my way to make them, it just happened.

 

[Evil Smurf]

I was at a party once. Drunk as possible and this cute Asian chick kept talking to me. Next morning I wake up with a friend request from her. I think "who the hell is she?" I add her anyway and now we are great friends.

 

[Keoul]

Necessity mostly, most of my friends are from school and we're basically stuck with each other, better to be friends than at each other's throats.
Online friends are usually made when we have an awesome game with each other or keep meeting each other on the same server.

 

[Kae]

As to how I got them though? Fuck if I know. I'm super shy in reality and hardly talk to people unless spoken to. None of my friends have been made by me going out of my way to make them, it just happened.

I know, that's why I asked her I figured she would know, I didn't really understand why we're still friends though, since I moved out 6 years ago and have basically been ignoring her on-line, until I read this

Some friends you grow up with, and even if you take on different interests and meet other people, there's a bond there that can't easily be broken.

Some friends share a lot of similar traits and interests with you, and bonds are formed over those.

My two best friends are those. One I've known since I was a toddler, and we grew up together. We don't talk much these days, mostly because neither of us are fond of phone conversations, but I know if I ever need some help, he'll be there for me, and the same goes for me to him.

My other best friend I met in high school, but we became pretty fast friends because we have quite a lot in common. We still talk pretty frequently in our online games, but I haven't seen him in person in a long time.

Interestingly, neither of my two best friends have met each other. They do live half a country apart, though, so that's understandable.

And beyond those two I have other friends, but I don't put as much faith in them as most of them I've only known for a relatively short time or I haven't communicated with them in many years.

I could write a novel here but I'll make it brief:

They're family in it's purest form, and they've proven time and time again they've got my back. And they're all funny as all hell.

They probably just keep me around for the laughs and the fact that I'm a walking cyclopedia of random trivia that no one really needs to know. I've been told by several friends that they feel smarter after a long talk with me, so yeah. I get that from some of them as well. It's valuable to have smart people you don't always agree with but will always stay friends with: You can have a debate without it becoming a real fight. And I don't mean over which super hero is better. I have majorly different philosophies than several of these folks, but that's what makes our discussions interesting.

I met 4 of my 5 best friends in school, the 5th being online quite a while ago. All of whom are my family.

These posts answer that question for me, we are like family and do share a lot of interests, also gives sense to the fact that she would speak to me now, considering that I'm kinda scary looking now, which is very different from the "cute[footnote]Well I guess I did wear those stupid goggles like a digimon character, so I guess it's my fault for literally looking like a cartoon character.[/footnote]"[small](Ugh...)[/small] kid she described, so I guess I should thank these guys for answering that.

I don't really think this is a question you can answer by giving a list of things you have in common with said friend or traits you like about said friend. Friendships aren't made logically, it doesn't come down to just a trait you like about them or stuff you have in common. Sure, it can start one, but you'll need more than that to keep it alive and healthy. If I was to say I'm friends with a certain friend of mine because we both enjoyed watching Zero Punctuation, wouldn't that mean I should be friends with a million other people? No, because to become friends with someone you must be put in an environment where it can flourish.

If I was put in a different class to said friend, I probably wouldn't be friends with him. To prove my point, we were one wall away in separate classes for a year before we became friends. For that year, I didn't even know him and just disregarded him as another student. Little did I know he would be one of the coolest people in my life. The next year, our friendship started because we both frequented this site and, can you guess, liked Zero Punctuation. But that wasn't all, it was also his personality and traits. And because we were in the same class, we could really interact with each other and strengthen our friendship. You see, if you don't have the two and only have one of them you probably won't become as close friends as you could be. Isn't that beautiful?

If I'm missing something here, feel free to point it out. I am, after all, only fourteen years old.

I think you got it quite right, the sheer randomness of how you end up befriending someone and how the relationship slowly becomes stronger is quite beautiful, kinda makes me wish I had more friends, but I don't think I have time for more than 1 anyway.
I guess friendship is like mold, it just grows over time in a dark damp place where you don't notice it, and after a while you suddenly notice it and you are like "How did this get here?", except it's a nice surprise instead of a bad one.

 

[Nouw]

I think you got it quite right, the sheer randomness of how you end up befriending someone and how the relationship slowly becomes stronger is quite beautiful, kinda makes me wish I had more friends, but I don't think I have time for more than 1 anyway.
I guess friendship is like mold, it just grows over time in a dark damp place where you don't notice it, and after a while you suddenly notice it and you are like "How did this get here?", except it's a nice surprise instead of a bad one.

Haha that's a great analogy my friend ^^.[sub]The use of my friend is totally unintentional >.>.[/sub]

 

[Spinozaad]

Because we have some shared interests, some differences and, most importantly I think: a lot of the same dislikes.

 

[bojackx]

Well, I had lots of friends a few years ago (most of which I've been friends with since I was like 10), most of them got into drugs and won't do anything unless they're high, and so I just stayed friends with what was left. I'm still friends per se with the drug people, but we hardly ever hang out.

I'd say I'm friends with my friends because they're tolerable of my antics, and they like games. Not much to string a friendship on but it works. Most of the time we're not even talking about games so I think having the same sense of humour is a necessity. I do think in the end it just comes down to similar interests; I like squash and my friends like squash, I like Subway and my friends like Subway (we go like every week, it's become something of a ritual).

I've asked my friends before why they are my friends and they couldn't come up with a proper answer so there's not much to go on.

 

[dumbseizure]

I've known my friends since either early high school, or early primary school. And we are still friends because of our sense of humor. Our....weird.......really weird......sense of humor.....

 

[Nantucket_v1legacy]

Because nobody else is stupid enough to put up with me.

 

[Zhukov]

Because they kindly tolerated my grumpy presence long enough to get to my soft juicy centre.

 

[Bertylicious]

My pals are awesome in spite of their many, many, flaws and I'd like to think they feel the same way about me. Ultimately though it comes down to enjoying spending time together.

 

[Fasckira]

All my friends are carefully selected for their various attributes and skills. Im now at a stage where I feel relatively confident that in the even of a zombie outbreak I'd have a group ready that could deal with nearly anything and I also trusted implicitly. To be honest if I could make friends with a field surgeon I'd be delighted.

 

[MetalMagpie]

Why do you torture me with your grammar misuse in the title? *shake fist*

OT: Some of them I work with. Some of them I went to university with. Some of them are small and furry.

I guess "people I know" become "people I am friends with" if we enjoy each other's company.

 

[Kroxile]

I am friends with my co-workers out of respect born out of mutual boredom and professionalism. Oh, and so I don't wanna strangle them to death every fucking day, can't forget that.

 

[Shocksplicer]

Because of my sense of humour, mostly.

Also, for the love of god OP PLEASE learn the difference between "Your" and "You're". I really can't stand that.
Which is ironic, because my best friend doesn't know the difference between "There" and "Their". No matter how many thousands of times I tell him off...