Why Can't I just grow some fucking balls?

[Stryc9]

Pick up the phone and dial the number. You most likely won't regret it.

I had a chick give me her number and I didn't call her for three fucking months after she gave it to me because I didn't have the balls to call her. Guess what? She's with someone else now.

If you don't call her that's what will happen to you, and as other people have said already you will at least for a while wonder, "what if....."

 

[Karlaxx]

Just do it. No matter what happens, you will be better off than if you had never done anything.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

I've got a problem that some of you may have heard me bitching about before. This is about that girl who gave me her phone number last friday.

The problem is that I can't grow the balls big enough to just call her.

I've been staring at the goddamn number for about 4 days now, just thinking about whether to call her or not.

The point of this thread is 2 things;

1. I need motivation. Bad. Someone knock some sense into me.

2. Has anyone else had a problem like this and how did you get over it?

Women love you to be confident on the phone, seriously. They find it cute. When I first started going out with my girlfriend, I was terrified to talk to her on the phone. Turns out, I got a nice surprise in finding out she finds my voice gorgeous, so...you never know what kind of good thing will crop up. Seriously though man, don't waste this. If she's given you her number, she wants you to phone her. Take a deep breath and do it. Don't listen to it ring, that'll drive you mad. Dial the number, distract yourself until she answers, and just dive in. You'll be amazed at how well you improvise.

 

[Legion]

Would you rather you talk to her or have her possibly find someone else because you didn't?

I have had similar issues (needing/wanting to do something, not having the guts to just do it), my solution is to literally force myself to do it, I mean ignore everything in me that tells me not to and just do it.

It's hard, but it gets easier.

 

[kalakashi]

You honestly do spend longer regretting the things you don't do than the things you do.

Imagine you phone her, all goes tits up, you feel a bit of a prat and your mates might giggle a little.

You don't, you sit there for a week or two, maybe more, wavering on whether to or not, getting a sickly feeling in your stomach knowing that you should, possibly making her feel bad because the guy she likes isn't phoning her even though she's being blatantly obvious that she likes him, and everybody misses out and feels crap.

And I have to spend time writing answers to questions that only really have one answer =P

 

[Sleekgiant]

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Dude, suck it up. What's the worst that could possibly happen? You say hi, she says hi, you chat for a bit. It ain't rocket science, for god's sake.

Listen to Susan otherwise we'll pester you FOREVER.

 

[gtamad12]

I've got a problem that some of you may have heard me bitching about before. This is about that girl who gave me her phone number last friday.

The problem is that I can't grow the balls big enough to just call her.

I've been staring at the goddamn number for about 4 days now, just thinking about whether to call her or not.

The point of this thread is 2 things;

1. I need motivation. Bad. Someone knock some sense into me.

2. Has anyone else had a problem like this and how did you get over it?

I am going to give you some advice that I use in everyday life that has served me well:
The girl gave you her number, it means shes interested, worst case scenario, she says she's not and you go your separate ways, best case, possible relationship. You don't have anything to lose =D

EDIT: Blast! Ninja'd

 

[Destal]

If you don't call her today you mine as well just throw the number away. After 4 days and you haven't called she will think you don't like her and move on. This is your last chance.

When all else fails, fake it till you make it works great.

 

[Burningsok]

Just do it, don't think about it. Just call her and say hey whats up and how are ya. Don't try and make it sound like you want to go out. Try and make it a close friend relationship, and keep it that way until something happens.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

Motivation: Just do it; the longer you think about it, the harder it will become. Just take the number, grab the phone, and dial. Don't even think about it, just do it.

Do try to think of something clever when the phone is ringing though.

Do I have this problem? Yeah. I find the more I think about stuff, the harder it becomes for me to do said stuff (when it comes to girls that is).

 

[Babitz]

You will call her right away.






[/force persuade]

 

[DkLnBr]

Just go for it. My mentality is that you should always go for it. Why? because otherwise you'll be stuck with the regret, just wondering what would've happened if you told her. And i dont know about you, but I find regret harder to deal with than most other things. If it doesn't work out you can always move on, but you cant do anything about regret (unless you get really lucky and meet her again in the future, or if you build a time machine)

 

[WhamBamSam]

I was in a vaguely similar situation that I'd rather not go into in any great detail, and after way, way too long managed to pull myself together. I made the eventual communication by email, and forced myself to do it by staying up well into the night, partly to quell my shyness through exhaustion and partly to trivialize the action of sending to a simple mouse click. I wouldn't advise the staying up late part with a phone call for two reasons. First, you don't get the benefit of constructing what you're going to say in advance and would be speaking when not at your best. Second, she probably wouldn't appreciate being woken up at 3AM by a guy she just met.

What I'd recommend is getting your phone to the point of having only to press send to make the call. Then just sort of cool down, post on the escapist, play a video game, or whatever to kill time until the action is nothing more than the push of a button to you.

 

[ottenni]

You can do it.

Believe in yourself Julian-San.

 

[Hothcliff]

do it. do it now.

If not, send the number to me. If your within her dating age, I sure am (17).

If she says no, you'll feel bad but find another hotter one. If she says yes, congrats. you're a braver man than I.

 

[RogueDarkJedi]

You will call her right away.

[/force persuade]

Let a real Jedi handle this shit.

[/force persuade]

do it. do it now.

If not, send the number to me. If your within her dating age, I sure am (17).

If she says no, you'll feel bad but find another hotter one. If she says yes, congrats. you're a braver man than I.

Actually, that's not a bad idea. I'll take a number.

 

[ThaBenMan]

Dude... if she gave you her number, that means she's interested in you. Just do it! Before it's too late!

 

[Mrsoupcup]

I've got a problem that some of you may have heard me bitching about before. This is about that girl who gave me her phone number last friday.

The problem is that I can't grow the balls big enough to just call her.

I've been staring at the goddamn number for about 4 days now, just thinking about whether to call her or not.

The point of this thread is 2 things;

1. I need motivation. Bad. Someone knock some sense into me.

2. Has anyone else had a problem like this and how did you get over it?

Call her, if it goes bad listen to metal and play some L4D. Thats what I did.