Why Can't I Like College?
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Well, I feel that college is not really "for" everybody. If you feel like you just don't care about what is being taught in the university, then maybe you should not be in college; or switch majors no should be telling you what to study, that goes against what college is about. As for the parties, what I find confusing is that they are what most people think of when they go to college, I know I did at first, and you should relise that parties are not essential to the college experience. Sure, they help your social network; but so does going to classes and study groups or living in a dorm. I will say that as soon as I got into the degree program that I was meant to be in, and ceased putting socializing as my major priority, I felt a lot more secure and content with what I was doing.
That basically.SilentCom said:
Something I can't stand about the system applied to uni/college here is that it's shown as the only option to ever be successful in anything when that's just not true. Trade schools work just fine if you know what you want to study.
Even internships are great too. I got an offer to do one about 6 months ago but I was retarded and turned it down because I thought that the training required was a bit too much for me at the time. Well right now I really wish I had taken that internship considering it was with an advertising company and everyone who works there is extremely successful. Wonder if they'd take me back... >.>
Anyway, more to the point, yeah college is shit for some people and you seem to be one of those people. It's enjoyable if you like what you're studying but if you're just kinda going because you feel like you have to, you're setting yourself up to not only fail in college but just increase stress that isn't needed. Nobody likes doing what they don't want to, especially when they're not getting paid and really when they're having to pay money for it.
From what you've told me, I have no idea either. And I've been 2 days and I'm already pissed off at it... but that's more because of all the stress of trying to register coupled with the simple fact that I don't want to do it in the slightest <.<Yureina said:
Through your entire life there's gonna be people around you you think are idiots, that's just how it is. We don't get along with everyone, but if you hate everyone you're obviously in the wrong place. Why not try some study abroad program?
As for hating your classes i'd say that's really just your own fault. If you're at college you've gotten to pick at least the majority of your subjects yourself and as such shouldn't have much to complain about.
And really, it's not mandatory to attend college parties, but i think if you'd just give the people a chance and actually socialize with some of the people you're unsure of whether they're idiots or not then maybe you could get a positive surprise.
Though i really think a study abroad/exchange- program would be good for you. It could introduce a new type of people, a new climate and a new social circle.
Tabula Rasa!
As for hating your classes i'd say that's really just your own fault. If you're at college you've gotten to pick at least the majority of your subjects yourself and as such shouldn't have much to complain about.
And really, it's not mandatory to attend college parties, but i think if you'd just give the people a chance and actually socialize with some of the people you're unsure of whether they're idiots or not then maybe you could get a positive surprise.
Though i really think a study abroad/exchange- program would be good for you. It could introduce a new type of people, a new climate and a new social circle.
Tabula Rasa!
Doesn't sound like a good idea. Perhaps a college transfer would be a better idea. Not all colleges are party hubs for idiotic drunks. In my college experience, I hated every party in my entire 4 years spent there, and yet I still had a blast, because one can still be social without being in parties. I am proud to boast that it was a fraternity-free college, so no annoying frat boys. If absolutely everyone in the college disgusts you, then you must be in the wrong college.Satsuki666 said:
To be fair, if I were somewhere where people were mugged, killed or raped frequently (that's what one of his posts sounded like. He may be exaggerating) I would be a bit closed off too.Satsuki666 said:
When I start University, I'm going to not only party, but find me a D n'D group!
i went to a college where someone was killed, mugged, raped, or assaulted in some way, almost every night. it didnt stop me from going out regularly. generally the people who that happens to, are idiots. if you go to school in a bad neighborhood and travel off campus by yourself at night, yeah bad things are probably gonna happenbinnsyboy said:
Freshmen year is awful...and if you can't make any good friends, your sophomore year will suck ass too. Freshmen year is the biggest sess pool of awkwardness, cliques, and people trying too hard you will ever encounter. All of this will be coupled with feelings of anxiety, depression, and inadequacy. The idea of putting 50,000 angst ridden pre-adults into a big compound isn't exactly the giant party it's portrayed as in Hollywood. I think the expectation that all your troubles in highschool will magically disappear and you will evolve into a social butterfly are horribly overplayed.
Take my advice, it's like highschool on a giant scale. Make friends with the same kinds of people you liked back then, you'll still like them now. Get involved in anyway you can...join a group or organization. Just do something and don't be the guy who sits in his dorm and plays his Wii all day.
Take my advice, it's like highschool on a giant scale. Make friends with the same kinds of people you liked back then, you'll still like them now. Get involved in anyway you can...join a group or organization. Just do something and don't be the guy who sits in his dorm and plays his Wii all day.
You're not there to have fun, you're there to get a degree. If you end up having fun, it's a nice bonus.
Mines rather small, but I'm not really impressed. Not much has really changed: I still do my own laundry, I still prefer to be left alone, I still get most of my food cooked for me. The biggest difference is my classes don't appear to be full of idiots, at least not while class is going on.
I love college. but this may be because it actually let me thinks about the knowledge im recieving. IT just doesn't tell me what to think. This may be because of my directions(Soft sciences such as sociology and philosophy)
While i do agree the School pride is kinda Meh. But that may be because i'm at a commuter college.
School is what you make it man. If you dont like your college enviroment it is not required for a degree.
While i do agree the School pride is kinda Meh. But that may be because i'm at a commuter college.
School is what you make it man. If you dont like your college enviroment it is not required for a degree.
Strange, I thought college was about learning and getting a higher degree.MajWound said:
Plus, if you can't find what you like there, do something yourself. Make a party of your own if you feel that others do shitty ones, talk to the teachers about the ways in which you feel their classes could be improved, I'm sure they're not morons and they will at least hear you out, even if only to dismiss your ideas afterwards.
EFFORT!!! Put some effort into your college life and maybe you will find what you want (or maybe find something that you didn't even know existed, and it will be awesome).
However, if you really don't want to be a part of it then... don't. Sooner or later, they will see that and leave you alone. Just be careful because it might be permanent.
This is pretty much all I needed.Satsuki666 said:
I stepped away for a couple days to return and find that this thread went pretty much as expected (flamebait). But it has been a problem on my mind for a while now to the point where for some reason I thought it was a good idea to post it here.
I got a lot of attention on my particular use of the word "Jingoism" to describe my university's attitude. I stand by that word because it serves a better metaphor than any other single English word I can think of at the moment. When the end of November rolls around, come to my city and see the state of campus before, during, and after the big football rivalry game. God help the neighborhood if we lose; one year people were setting furniture on fire in the street. When you see what happens in the so-called "Buckeye Nation" (propaganda, assault, death threats against Michigan supporters), you will recognize a definition eerily similar to "extreme nationalism marked by aggressive foreign policy".
To address another complaint, I suppose I am a bitter, hateful, antisocial prick. I refuse to apologize for it, and welcome the label with open arms. Now I know, thanks to the tactful and loving responses from this community, that this is probably the reason why I don't like college. I'd take some of your advice to change schools or majors to help stimulate my creativity and attraction to knowledge, but trust me when I say that it is not an option. I'm halfway done with my degree and fast running out of scholarship. A school change would disintegrate some of my precious credit hours and a major change would reduce them further still.
Still, there are two positive notes I took from your responses:
First, it helps to know that I am not alone.
Second, it also helps to know that it is all my fault. That gives me a handy blame figure and also means that I don't need anyone else's help to fix my problems.
Mark this advice column as "fixed". Thank you to those of you who did not climb up my ass. And fuck that one other guy. I forget his name...starts with an S.