why do some peoplel insist you'll want children?

[Tasachan]

A lot of people I know that don't want kids say they don't want them because they'd rather have a nice big house, a nice car, and time to themselves. All those things are nice... but when you're 80, and you realise that you don't have anyone to take care of you, and you spent your entire life on yourself .... it just seems like a waste, you know?
A lot of people only see the bills, the screaming, the frustration. Having kids is so much more than that. Its so fulfilling, you can't even begin to imagine it until you experience it.

Of course, I'm biased because I have kids and I've always wanted kids. I don't go around telling people they SHOULD have kids and they WILL want them. I know there are people out there that don't, and never will. Its just a shame that there is people out there that desperately want a child, and can't have one.

 

[Low Key]

Because I'd say 99% of people (made up number but probably close) do want children. In fact, the only person who I have met who didn't was my boss.

Some people just can't believe there are others who are different than them and they feel it's their duty to make you see it their way.

 

[darksaber64x]

"Do you REALLY want me to be responsible for the life, well being, and upbringing of another human being?"

 

[PTSpyder]

1 word answer - conformity!

 

[Paragon Fury]

To some people, having children is just something one does, regardless of money issues, overpopulation worries or maturity levels. They don't seem to think about the repercussions of having children when one doesn't want to or when one isn't ready. Personally, I don't ever want children.

Alright, I gotta say it.

Ass.

Not as in "You're an ass", but rather as in:

DAT ASS.



My apologies for off-topic.

 

[thebobmaster_v1legacy]

I hate kids and cannot imagine ever having any children but I?ll say that 80% of the people I know should not even be allowed to raise a child?? yet they do.

Huh. I didn't know I had a doppelganger on this website.

 

[Low Key]

Some people just can't believe there are others who are different than them and they feel it's their duty to make you see it their way.

I read this part of your post in Barney's voice. It was oddly poignant.

I was thinking of changing avatars, but you just convinced me to keep it.

 

[Wounded Melody]

A lot of people I know that don't want kids say they don't want them because they'd rather have a nice big house, a nice car, and time to themselves. All those things are nice... but when you're 80, and you realise that you don't have anyone to take care of you, and you spent your entire life on yourself .... it just seems like a waste, you know?
A lot of people only see the bills, the screaming, the frustration. Having kids is so much more than that. Its so fulfilling, you can't even begin to imagine it until you experience it.

Of course, I'm biased because I have kids and I've always wanted kids. I don't go around telling people they SHOULD have kids and they WILL want them. I know there are people out there that don't, and never will. Its just a shame that there is people out there that desperately want a child, and can't have one.

This is exactly what people with kids tend to tell me XD
I wouldn't want to have kids just to think they will take care of me when I'm old (with my luck I'd get shoved in a home).
I understand why you would think it's fulfilling, but you've never known any other way. Don't you think it's more of a waste to bring a child into this world when it is likely they are going to, at least at one point in their life, going to suffer?
I know I would rather not have been born, there is just too much pain and it eventually does overshadow the good things in life. Every time someone I love dies or gets sick, I wish I wasn't here. I can't imagine having a child who would experience painful things like this, and probably worse (the way this world is going 15 year olds are beating/killing one another and the world is going to hell).

ETA: 2 words: Menedez brothers. I know we all like to think our kids would not grow up to be murderers, but how many parents have been killed over money/boyfriends/etc?

 

[Delock]

I don't really know. I myself cannot stand kids. Well I could, until I had to work with them as volunteer work.

 

[Aesir23]

I'll admit, I do want children at some point in my life (not now though, I'm only 21). But I would never try to insist to someone that they should have a kid.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

WHY are people like this?

It's human nature to spread the misery around.

 

[LesIsMore]

Some people see it as an achievement to squeeze out a baby.

Now there's impetus to respawn.

"Achievement Unlocked! My Life is Over - 100G.
You successfully passed on your genetic material."

 

[WolfThomas]

Although, I've never really had to deal with people like this as I've decided I want kids: Since my parents were generally pretty good, I don't get to "be a better parent," so instead I'm going to be a hell of a lot worse so that I can tell my kids to be better parents to their kids. It sounds cold and heartless, but they'll thank me when they're older and don't have to be mean to their kids... or something like that.

I might just be crazy, but wouldn't at least trying to be a good parent (if not as good as your own) be a better idea? I'm pretty sure they won't thank you if you're cold and heartless, it's more likely if you inspire them to be good parents.

What's the worst that can happen? Several generations of well adjusted individuals?

 

[Fappy]

I am only 20 but from what I can tell, usually after being married (or just together) for a long enough time many couples change their minds. I don't really have an opinion either way because I don't plan on supporting a child anytime soon, but I'm sure at some point I will want one or two (I actually like kids ).

 

[Generator]

Although, I've never really had to deal with people like this as I've decided I want kids: Since my parents were generally pretty good, I don't get to "be a better parent," so instead I'm going to be a hell of a lot worse so that I can tell my kids to be better parents to their kids. It sounds cold and heartless, but they'll thank me when they're older and don't have to be mean to their kids... or something like that.

I might just be crazy, but wouldn't at least trying to be a good parent (if not as good as your own) be a better idea? I'm pretty sure they won't thank you if you're cold and heartless, it's more likely if you inspire them to be good parents.

What's the worst that can happen? Several generations of well adjusted individuals?

Oh, you crazy internet people and your "logic". Okay, I'll try it your way: I'll be "nice" and "supportive" of my kids, but I doubt that's going to teach them any valuable lessons or good morals; instead, they'll simply harbor a great contempt for me because I'm so likable that they can't blame me when they're unhappy. Yeah, that's gonna work. [/sarcasm] (Actually, I was kind of being sarcastic the entire time, so that sort of goes for my entire reply, as well as my original post.)

 

[Divine Miss Bee]

Have you ever come across someone who insists you'll want to have children in the future, even if you are currently dead set against it? Recently a nurse came to our home and somehow the discussion got to children (she has 4 and 2 jobs). I said there was NO WAY I wanted children (I've contemplated surgery, but it's too expensive) but she kept insisting I'd change my mind. She even said her sister was like me and now has 2 kids. She isn't the first person I've met with this mindset. WHY are people like this? Have you ever come across people like this? What do you usually say to them?

i get this all the time, because people seem to think my desire not to have children is somehow related to my subtle shades of lesbianity and that when i settle down with a "life partner," i'll want a zillion kids and a dog. my usual response is the smile-and-nod approach, though, because it's not really worth it to explain that not only do i not want my own kids, i don't want someone else's kids OR a "life partner." and i hate dogs, too...