Why dont people work harder to have MOAR sex in their lives?
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Maybe double post, but you, sir (or madame), are awesome. Enjoy you preference of internetz, cookies, or brofists. Logical argument, cited source, anecdotal evidence- bravo.HellsingerAngel said:
One thread pops up saying we should remove sex and then another saying we should have more? 
All we need now is another thread called "Why don't people work harder to have the same amount of sex in their lives." I think we'll have covered the entire spectrum then.
Seriously though, have sex if you want. Do it in moderation if you want. To each their own. Just do it safely.
All we need now is another thread called "Why don't people work harder to have the same amount of sex in their lives." I think we'll have covered the entire spectrum then. Seriously though, have sex if you want. Do it in moderation if you want. To each their own. Just do it safely.
I love how at least half of the people who are against people having sex in this thread and the other one seem to think that we are talking about sex as removed from a relationship.
WAKE UP KIDDIES!
Most of us who enjoy sex and want to have as much of it as we can are in a stable relationship, and the person we're trying to have as much sex as we can with is our significant other!
Like OMG, right??
I mean, how can I, as someone who "loves teh secks" which means I'm so obviously shallow and emotionally stunted, be able to happily declare that my wife is honestly the only woman I want to have sex with for the rest of my life?
I mean, that's crazy right?
Admitting that enjoying sex could be a facet of a completely normal personality would, like, totally undermine all the arguments that people's desire for sex is keeping us from growing as a species, right?
WAKE UP KIDDIES!
Most of us who enjoy sex and want to have as much of it as we can are in a stable relationship, and the person we're trying to have as much sex as we can with is our significant other!
Like OMG, right??
I mean, how can I, as someone who "loves teh secks" which means I'm so obviously shallow and emotionally stunted, be able to happily declare that my wife is honestly the only woman I want to have sex with for the rest of my life?
I mean, that's crazy right?
Admitting that enjoying sex could be a facet of a completely normal personality would, like, totally undermine all the arguments that people's desire for sex is keeping us from growing as a species, right?
Sex per se isn't the answer, but sex in the context of an intimate, loving relationship? It'd be nice, if only because having someone in your corner is a great way to be able to manage the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune when they come along.
Easy, we do. Most everything we do is plotted to end with sex. However, we also need to survive. Survival is more important then sex. The problem isn't that we don't try to have more sex, but just that we fail to score.
I think a rolleyes and/or wry smile is more likely, at least from the more experienced.Mackheath said:
this thread is a delight
yesyesyes
more sex etc.
i doubt any of us could possibly be having more than we currently are
if we are having it we'll be having it as often as possible
and if we're not it's because we can't get any
yesyesyes
more sex etc.
i doubt any of us could possibly be having more than we currently are
if we are having it we'll be having it as often as possible
and if we're not it's because we can't get any
Yeh, I doubt that...Thebiggestpanda said:
Whilst I do think there is something to be said for releasing the safety valve before the PSI gets dangerously high, if we're wishing for things or simply projecting our ideals onto everyone else...I would just wish for more maturity on the subject. We don't need an absolute, it doesn't have to either be the best thing ever, or entirely meritless...it can occupy the middle ground and it is of course open to subjectivity.
We treat sex like it's a status symbol, like an escalade or Kanye West's teeth...and it similiarly makes you look like an asshole when you brag about it.
Just be cool.
Well, I don't what a moar is but it certainly doesn't sound human so I'd probably not want to have sex with it. Unless there was some sort of large sum of money involved and no one buy myself and the cash person would know.
Sex is certainly important.
However, when people think it's amazing that they've slept with three people in one night, and then go on to mention they haven't used any form of protection, I think we need to reassess our views on sex.
People don't seem to understand why I went without sex for a year because I couldn't find a person whom I loved: I just think that every time you have sex with someone who isn't important to you, it cheapens the act when you finally share it with someone you have feelings for. If you've slept with everything that has a hole in it without any form of connection, how is it special when you're doing it with someone you love?
I love sex, when I'm close to someone and I feel I love them I will have sex with them pretty much as much as I can without it interfering with any duties I have. I just don't want to share something that I consider special with random people I met that night.
However, when people think it's amazing that they've slept with three people in one night, and then go on to mention they haven't used any form of protection, I think we need to reassess our views on sex.
People don't seem to understand why I went without sex for a year because I couldn't find a person whom I loved: I just think that every time you have sex with someone who isn't important to you, it cheapens the act when you finally share it with someone you have feelings for. If you've slept with everything that has a hole in it without any form of connection, how is it special when you're doing it with someone you love?
I love sex, when I'm close to someone and I feel I love them I will have sex with them pretty much as much as I can without it interfering with any duties I have. I just don't want to share something that I consider special with random people I met that night.
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Sorry but I'm the biggest panda arround here! World peace I tell you!!!
Here's the thing, almost all of the benefits described in that article can be gained by playing a game of football. As for the 'boosting intimacy' bit, yes, that's why you engage in the activity with one person of the opposite sex, whom you swear to for life. As for boosting self esteem, you know you can get just as big a boost by say, building a bird house? Best part is, the birdhouse is something concrete that you can look at and say 'I built that'. With sex, however, once the night is over, it's over, and if your lady/gentleman of an evening was not happy with your performance, you can lose self esteem as they spread nasty rumors about you. You make it sound as if the only way to be healthy is to have lots of sex, this is not true. In fact, I believe it is a dangerous lie.HellsingerAngel said:
How about the drawbacks of sex? How about the fact that it spreads disease, and causes unwanted pregnancies? Most diseases you get from sex are diseases you will never get rid of, and even 'safe' sex is not a guarantee. Not having sex, however can promise you will never get, say, AIDS.
As for your comment about 'needing to indulge regularly to be a well adjusted individual', I have to ask, why? Can you justify this statement? If I choose to forswear sex because I believe that the risks do not justify the reward, how am I 'poorly adjusted'? Or for that matter, if I decide that the only person I want to have sex with is the person with whom I will build a family for the rest of my life, why is that not my choice to make?
So, basically there are productive things with health benefits and long term rewards that aren't sex; sex spreads disease and makes unwanted children outside of wedlock, and if someone chooses not to indulge, then what's the problem? Again, I make the statement that people who speak as you do are essentially sex addicts attempting to justify their behavior.
I want to nitpick your last paragraph there a bit. First off, what people with doctorates? Don't tell me to 'google it' I'm not here to research for your arguments. Second of all, you say they 'correlate' stress with not having sex? Correlation does NOT imply causation. If they cannot prove a causal link then what they are doing is making an interesting observation. As for 'all these people with doctorates', yes, they can be wrong. There are any number of reasons why this might be, not the least of which being they REALLY want it to be true. As for sex having health benefits, this I will not deny, but the real question is, does it have health benefits that a person could get from other, less risky activities? If the answer is anything other than 'absolutely, without question, completely, yes', then sex is not necessary for life. If it not necessary for life, then what's wrong with going without it?
I would go so far as to say that making people feel PRESSURED into having sex WHETHER THEY WANT TO OR NOT, because 'normal' people want to have sex is irresponsible, judgmental, and silly.