why is it that "beautiful" people have to be paired together..and vice versa?

[Vault101]

this is somthing I was thinking about

if you have a couple and one of them is really beautiful/handsome the other is rather plain and/or averge looking the first thing people will say is "I dont get it, x is really hot why are they with y? they could get somone so much more better looking"

people are always harping on about how "looks" dont matter, yet they have this mentallity of "pair the pretty people" and "pair the uglies" anything that deviates from that somtimes people snark at it

I mean sure there are certain reasons (money/power) but why do people forget that x might see somthing in y OTHER than how they look? why is it so wrong in their yes?

and YES I understand attractiveness is an evolutionary thing...and the fact is your going to go after the more attractive people,but I hardly think hardcore "evolution" applys thease days

[/B] also [/B] do you think there are any gender related double standards in regards to this issue?

 

[furmaster3000]

I sometimes think the evolution argument can only be applied us in the quuantity of beautiful people that currently exist.
With that I mean, that I was looking threw my mothers highschool yearbook (Well just photobook, but the same idea)and it even had pictures of my grandmother (her mother) in it, and her class.
And I was under the impression that the average ratio of good to bad looking people has gone up over the years.

Beside that, the point your stuck on, I believe is one of jealousy and insecurity. The people surrounding the happy couple usually get a reflection of how lonely they self can be.
Shrewdness and hippocracy I believe.

 

[pewpewz]

I personally would say that peoples initial reactions towards couples are derrived from their own social expectations. People who say that only "pretties" and "uglies" can be joined at the crotch only think that because they expect the same principle to apply to themselves. You'll usually find these people are incredibly narcissistic or insecure (or both) and are just projecting their own dissatisfaction with their partners or their single life.

There's also the factor of the media's portrayal of the good-looking girl and good-looking guy hooking up at the end, and avarage joe gets the ugly sister and is grateful. But that's for another time I suppose

 

[Loner Jo Jo]

Well, one birds of a feather sort of argument, although that is really just a layman's way of using the evolutionary argument so skipping that...

There are other factors to attractiveness aside from appearance. (For instance, women will typical rate a man more attractive if he has a good career and/or salary.) You can't see these things at first glance, so that might lead to some people complaining about "I don't know what they see in them!"

 

[Vault101]

I personally would say that peoples initial reactions towards couples are derrived from their own social expectations. People who say that only "pretties" and "uglies" can be joined at the crotch only think that because they expect the same principle to apply to themselves. You'll usually find these people are incredibly narcissistic or insecure (or both) and are just projecting their own dissatisfaction with their partners or their single life.

There's also the factor of the media's portrayal of the good-looking girl and good-looking guy hooking up at the end, and avarage joe gets the ugly sister and is grateful. But that's for another time I suppose

by ugly do you mean "hollywood homley" becaue there are no "ugly" people in movies...just those with glasses

 

[AmaterasuGrim]

Because the hot person usually lack's a great personality or is usually a total b... but the plain one stick's with them cause they are shallow and only want look's & then the rest of us only go by what we consider beauty which the world might not see as beauty because beauty just amount's to look like hollywood tramp

 

[Lord Beautiful]

Well, sexuality is a vital element of a healthy relationship, and genitals aren't exactly stimulated by how nice of a person one's partner is.

 

[Erana]

Its often because people pair with those who are like them.
They go with similar earning power, similar political beliefs, similar lifestyles, etc. And we more often pair with people who lived in the same places as us at some point in their life.
A similar level of attractiveness is just one of those things that makes someone like themselves.

My mother's been listening to The Social Animal as an audiobook in the car, and that came up when we were heading back from the gym. >.>

 

[Edge Hypermatter]

Isn't it so that we can make more beautiful people?