Why is it when someones relationships (or lack of) go bad, they blame the entire sex

[pulse2]

A male gets betrayed by his wife, he blames all women in the world for his wife's choices, a female dates idiots and blames all men for her poor choices in dating material.

I don't quite get it and I've been coming across people like this a lot recently, more so than usual (Is it because of the recession? Lol)

There are groups and threads about "All men being cheaters, liars, etc" and "All women being spiteful, picking only the cool guys, etc".

I'm not sure how one gets to that state of mentality, even to the point where someone feels they have the right to go on a mass murder spree because things in their relationship didn't go the way they wanted to.

So here's the questions, do you know people who are like this? Where do you think that state of mind comes from and why blame others for things they / and former their partner(s) did wrong?

 

[Arehexes]

I agree with you, a friend of my pulls that crap sometimes. Dated a girl ended bad and blames all lesbians and women for it.

 

[Palademon]

Yes, I know people who are like this, even when the guy was obviously a dick to start with.

I have no way to explain it, but I had drawn a conclusion from it. Since everyone seems to feel the opposite after dating someone, then the only way to get a girl to like me is for them to date me.

I actually know a girl who became a lesbian after several bad relationships with guys, but that's probably more to do with psychology than misandry.

 

[JoshGod]

Yes. It bothered me when my mother would go on and on about how evil men are.
They do it to absolve themself of any blame and to keep the delusion that they are better than they are going. It's not my fault i'm perfect it must be those men/women!

 

[ScoopMeister]

I agree with you, a friend of my pulls that crap sometimes. Dated a girl ended bad and blames all lesbians and women for it.

Why did you feel the need to include women and lesbians here? Surely just 'women' covers it?

 

[Arehexes]

I agree with you, a friend of my pulls that crap sometimes. Dated a girl ended bad and blames all lesbians and women for it.

Why did you feel the need to include women and lesbians here? Surely just 'women' covers it?

Because the girl didn't know what she wanted so he blamed lesbians also, this is him not me saying this

 

[Lionsfan]

Most people do it to keep themselves free of any wrongdoing/blame. Blaming an entire group/type of person is often easier than rightfully blaming ourselves.

And yes I know someone who has done this, he blamed the girl and all females out there when it was 100% his fault

 

[Guitar Gamer]

If it is the end of a long line of relationships, which all end in relatively the same way, someone could easily deflect the blame on the sex which frequently hurts them; rather than themself who probably is the real reason the relationships don't last.

 

[ScoopMeister]

Why did you feel the need to include women and lesbians here? Surely just 'women' covers it?

Because the girl didn't know what she wanted so he blamed lesbians also, this is him not me saying this

Ah. Thats makes more sense.

 

[GaryH]

It's a quirk of the way that we learn. Humans tend to be a bit over zealous with our pattern recognition for survival reasons. It's great when it's teaching us not to eat the poison berries anymore, but it's not so great when it makes us equate an entire gender with heartbreak, or an entire nation with cowardice, or everyone with a certain skin colour with *insert xenophobic character trait of the week here*.

Combine this with a culture that's always telling us how incredibly different we are from each other and it's easy to see how the "Us vs. Them" mentality might trigger in someone who is looking for someone to blame for his/her pain.

 

[Arehexes]

Why did you feel the need to include women and lesbians here? Surely just 'women' covers it?

Because the girl didn't know what she wanted so he blamed lesbians also, this is him not me saying this

Ah. Thats makes more sense.

yeah i guess still it's sad

 

[intheweeds]

A male gets betrayed by his wife, he blames all women in the world for his wife's choices, a female dates idiots and blames all men for her poor choices in dating material.

I don't quite get it and I've been coming across people like this a lot recently, more so than usual (Is it because of the recession? Lol)

There are groups and threads about "All men being cheaters, liars, etc" and "All women being spiteful, picking only the cool guys, etc".

I'm not sure how one gets to that state of mentality, even to the point where someone feels they have the right to go on a mass murder spree because things in their relationship didn't go the way they wanted to.

So here's the questions, do you know people who are like this? Where do you think that state of mind comes from and why blame others for things they / and former their partner(s) did wrong?

Unfortunately you don't get to do this when your gay.
We just say 'Watch out, all the hot ones are crazy'

 

[intheweeds]

Yes, I know people who are like this, even when the guy was obviously a dick to start with.

I have no way to explain it, but I had drawn a conclusion from it. Since everyone seems to feel the opposite after dating someone, then the only way to get a girl to like me is for them to date me.

I actually know a girl who became a lesbian after several bad relationships with guys, but that's probably more to do with psychology than misandry.

HAHAHAHA seriously? She was bi beforehand. People do not BECOME lesbian.

 

[pulse2]

If it is the end of a long line of relationships, which all end in relatively the same way, someone could easily deflect the blame on the sex which frequently hurts them; rather than themself who probably is the real reason the relationships don't last.

That's precisely my point, people REFUSE to blame themselves for the failures in their past relationships.

I've been in quite a few before meeting "the one for me", I realised that they obviously weren't the sort of personalities that fit my own, but I wasn't afraid to admit the mistakes I made as well.

I don't get this idea of "all my relationships went wrong, the whole sex are a bunch of liars, cheats, coniving, sly, etc etc etc"

Yes, I know people who are like this, even when the guy was obviously a dick to start with.

I have no way to explain it, but I had drawn a conclusion from it. Since everyone seems to feel the opposite after dating someone, then the only way to get a girl to like me is for them to date me.

I actually know a girl who became a lesbian after several bad relationships with guys, but that's probably more to do with psychology than misandry.

HAHAHAHA seriously? She was bi beforehand. People do not BECOME lesbian.

Haha, on the contrary, guys are less inclined to go gay unless they were ACTUALLY gay, but I've known some females to try their hand at going gay because men they dated let them down.

I don't quite get that mentality either ¬_¬ Over the years, 4 of my female friends have miraculously discovered they were bi and revealed it to everyone. They have a habit now of saying how great it is to date other women instead of men and how things are working out, yet none of them is in a steady relationship with a female yet, which is exactly what they were looking for from guys. I find that odd.

 

[Dalek Caan]

When you are angry then rage clouds judgment. Anger leads to the dark side. Careful, young one, you must be.

 

[intheweeds]

I think also people have a tendency to choose similar traits in relationship partners whether consciously or not. So their relationships end in similar ways. Saying 'all men' or 'all women' is silly. The common denominator in all your shitty relationships was you.

 

[Palademon]

Yes, I know people who are like this, even when the guy was obviously a dick to start with.

I have no way to explain it, but I had drawn a conclusion from it. Since everyone seems to feel the opposite after dating someone, then the only way to get a girl to like me is for them to date me.

I actually know a girl who became a lesbian after several bad relationships with guys, but that's probably more to do with psychology than misandry.

HAHAHAHA seriously? She was bi beforehand. People do not BECOME lesbian.

Yes, I know people who are like this, even when the guy was obviously a dick to start with.

I have no way to explain it, but I had drawn a conclusion from it. Since everyone seems to feel the opposite after dating someone, then the only way to get a girl to like me is for them to date me.

I actually know a girl who became a lesbian after several bad relationships with guys, but that's probably more to do with psychology than misandry.

HAHAHAHA seriously? She was bi beforehand. People do not BECOME lesbian.

Haha, on the contrary, guys are less inclined to go gay unless they were ACTUALLY gay, but I've known some females to try their hand at going gay because men they dated let them down.

I don't quite get that mentality either ¬_¬ Over the years, 4 of my female friends have miraculously discovered they were bi and revealed it to everyone. They have a habit now of saying how great it is to date other women instead of men and how things are working out, yet none of them is in a steady relationship with a female yet, which is exactly what they were looking for from guys. I find that odd.

Actually yes, she was bi before, but it's not that she just stopped going after men. It's that she is completely not attracted to them anymore.