Woman of the escapist, have you ever been put in the ''friend zone''?
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Maybe, I've dated some wonderful guys, but we weren't right for each other. I'm friends with almost all of my former lovers. I'd like to think that the really hellish relationships are the minority. There's plenty of lousy men/women but a lot of it comes down to a shitty combination of the 2. There's some people who can really bring out the ugly in ya.Cheveyo said:
Honestly, no, I've never been put in the "friend zone." Forgive me for sounding arrogant, but I can get the guys I want. And quite a few guys I don't want, apparently.
As a guy, the only time I put someone in the "friend zone" (where I wouldn't date her) is when
A) She can't keep my attention for more than a few minutes.
B) I can compare her intelligence to a brick
C) She looks at my hobbies (any of them) as if it's something I'll "grow out of" rather than simply accepting them as part of who I am.
A) She can't keep my attention for more than a few minutes.
B) I can compare her intelligence to a brick
C) She looks at my hobbies (any of them) as if it's something I'll "grow out of" rather than simply accepting them as part of who I am.
I have. It was kind of weird, actually, since it was my first time actually asking a guy out.
We were good friends for a while throughout the school year. The only reason we became friends was because I was the leader type and he was the follower type and we were put on a team together with two other people. I definitely had a thing for the guy, so naturally, I flirted. I even went so far as to dress nicer to get his attention (which it did). He kindly accepted most of my advances, and even let me easily bribe him into giving me a kiss on the cheek. So far that I knew, he was single. I tried to confirm it with every source available, and I was pretty sure all the lights were green.
The summer was coming so I encouraged myself over a few weeks or so to just ask him out since he didn't seem like the type to confront someone about something like that easily. Neither was I, but I decided it would be rather endearing if I did it. I attempted it in between class, but I wimped out. Instead, I ended up convincing myself to call him later that day and fess up. I did so, and there was an awkward silence and some stuttering. He had to ask me if I was actually asking him to "date me", and when I said yes, he pulled this story out of nowhere that he has a girlfriend in Texas. Instead of moaping about it, I said "okay!" kind of cheerily and hung up. He texted me that we could still be friends, and I was a little irritated because I had the belief that he made that up to get rid of me. Either way, he found a girlfriend closer to home recently.
Once the summer came we stopped talking, so I guess I got kicked below the "friend zone".
We were good friends for a while throughout the school year. The only reason we became friends was because I was the leader type and he was the follower type and we were put on a team together with two other people. I definitely had a thing for the guy, so naturally, I flirted. I even went so far as to dress nicer to get his attention (which it did). He kindly accepted most of my advances, and even let me easily bribe him into giving me a kiss on the cheek. So far that I knew, he was single. I tried to confirm it with every source available, and I was pretty sure all the lights were green.
The summer was coming so I encouraged myself over a few weeks or so to just ask him out since he didn't seem like the type to confront someone about something like that easily. Neither was I, but I decided it would be rather endearing if I did it. I attempted it in between class, but I wimped out. Instead, I ended up convincing myself to call him later that day and fess up. I did so, and there was an awkward silence and some stuttering. He had to ask me if I was actually asking him to "date me", and when I said yes, he pulled this story out of nowhere that he has a girlfriend in Texas. Instead of moaping about it, I said "okay!" kind of cheerily and hung up. He texted me that we could still be friends, and I was a little irritated because I had the belief that he made that up to get rid of me. Either way, he found a girlfriend closer to home recently.
Once the summer came we stopped talking, so I guess I got kicked below the "friend zone".
as a dude, I don't think I've attracted the women close to me enough for this to be a problem, but to be honest, I think it might have happened once, with this girl that is now going with my best friend. Also, I guess my former stalker going out with a mate of mind kinda counts?
It's weird, I just referenced the "friend zone" in like 3 other threads, and then I found this. semi-foreboding considering I'm asking out a semi-friend of mine tomorrow.
It's weird, I just referenced the "friend zone" in like 3 other threads, and then I found this. semi-foreboding considering I'm asking out a semi-friend of mine tomorrow.
It's my firm belief that there is no such thing as 'the friend zone' - at least not the friend zone everyone usually thinks about. If a guy considers me a friend then I accept that I am always going to be his friend, and always have been, and he will never be interested in me in that way. That being said, a lot of guys consider me a friend and a friend only. That's alright by me, though. It's not a situation I can change, so why be bothered about it?
Now I hope BonsaiK sees this thread and hacks the friend zone theory to pieces.
Now I hope BonsaiK sees this thread and hacks the friend zone theory to pieces.
I found it amusing looking over all the comments on page one about only guys responding. Lets compare statistics:
The Escapist has 65 pages of users registered as female, compared to 393 pages of registered males. Go figure.
OT: Nope. Never had any female friends. It seems whenever I do develop a frendship with them, they simply take advantage of my generous nature until I'm of no use to them anymore, and fuck off.
The Escapist has 65 pages of users registered as female, compared to 393 pages of registered males. Go figure.
OT: Nope. Never had any female friends. It seems whenever I do develop a frendship with them, they simply take advantage of my generous nature until I'm of no use to them anymore, and fuck off.