Being my husband, (that Schappert guy Zen and Marcone referred to), has served in a combat unit all of his military career ? 19 years in the Special Forces and going strong ? I have a bit of a stake in allowing women on the battlefield and how it might adversely affect his life the next time he?s deployed overseas. And when I talk about his life, it?s not in some abstract sense ? it?s his actual life. When I talk about him deploying, it?s not a question of if, it?s when, and how soon. That is what I, a military wife, worry about.
The Basics
There are two things a soldier must concern himself with when in a combat zone: how to increase his lethality and how to increase his survivability. And I say ?himself? because there are no women allowed in combat units. Currently females make up about 10 percent of the military population, and yes, there have been women involved in combat due to the nature of urban warfare, but not officially in a combat unit. And while there has been a recent push to change this policy, there are two main reasons it is so: the obvious physical limitations, and the underlying, but also obvious, sexual ones.
Physicality: The frame of a typical woman would struggle carrying a 60-pound rucksack on her back in the field, besides the roughly 50 extra pounds of body armor and weapons added to the rest of her body. That?s not even taking in consideration the fact that you must be able to run and maneuver while wearing the full kit with ease. In the physically grueling training process to even become a Green Beret, two-thirds don?t even make it past selection, their bodies collapsing from injury and exhaustion. My husband literally watched a fellow trainee fracture both his feet during an exercise requiring him to carry bags of rocks on top of his already-heavy ruck. As my husband tells it, ?His mind was willing but his body just broke.?
Sexuality: To start with, combat units spend days, if not weeks, out in the field, living on top of each other, working, cooking, eating, bathing, sleeping, going to the bathroom in front of each other, and, yes, that?s number two included.
Women, by military regulations, have to be afforded separate barracks and bathrooms. That works OK when you?re operating out of an American base.
That doesn?t work OK when you?re forward-deployed away from Big Army in the middle of a combat zone.
Caught in a Bad Romance
But let?s really get down to the nitty-gritty because we all know it: sex changes everything. And if you?re like me and took small-group dynamics in college, you know I don?t lie. Think about it: How many careers have been decimated by the office romance? Has a ?no fraternization? office policy ever really stopped anyone? What corporate team hasn?t fallen apart because two people hooked up or one falls for the other and lets their jealous emotions take over? We?ve all had those kind of relationships, where you don?t think rationally, become distracted at work, get obsessed with the relationship and pretty much make an ass out of yourself. Thank god for cubicles. Could you imagine if that type of temptation was out in the field with bullets whizzing by your head? Head in the clouds for even a second, and bam, you?re shot dead or even worse, the guy you were supposed to be covering is dead. A war is no place for distractions.
I remember during one of my husband?s deployments that the ?senior wives? (so to speak) got word that one of the other wives was giving her husband, also deployed, a hard time for being away, whining and complaining, even once threatening him with divorce ? basically, stressing him out. Well, don?t think we didn?t come down on her. Why? Because you distract your husband, mine gets killed. Simple as that.
Fast-forward to sexual politics between men and women at a military office, or, in our case, a humvee being targeted by terrorists, because that?s your cubicle today. If one person in a group is a sexual object to another, the group dynamic is compromised whether they?re gay, straight, bi or a space alien. In the end, the group is weaker.
So to the Steewpid zombie guy, its actually you're opinion thats invalid.
this excerpt is actually from an article I wrote referring to don't ask don't tell, you can look up my name if you want to read it.