Firstly, what race is this woman?
Secondly, if there?s anything I know about how guys feel about girls, it?s that they don?t care too much if you fit a ?standard? of beauty. It?s a myth that porn gives men ?unrealistic expectations of women?, because I don?t know any guy that rigidly expects a woman to be a spotless, super-curvy, ?alpha female? with gigantic breasts and a perfectly round ass. What guys like in girls is just as varied as what girls like in guys. For example, I?m partial to tall androgynous girls with short hair, but it?s certainly not a dating criteria. You don?t have to have a certain colour of hair, skin smoothness, cup size (I don?t actually know what breast size a C-cup is) or even be stunning. I couldn?t tell you the amount of girls (and guys) with partners at my school (and outside) who ? and I feel ashamed to even say this ? I?ve looked at and thought, ?How the fuck do they get laid? They?re absolute munters!? It?s a cliché, but if there?s one thing both guys and girls like almost universally, it?s confidence.
But yeah, there?s this girl I?m acquainted with through my friend who I talk to occasionally on Facebook, and she said the other day that no matter how many compliments people (both male and female) give her about her appearance, she?ll always think she?s ugly. I mean, she?s a smart girl; she knows that all that stuff in girls? magazines is damaging to girls? self-esteem, but she?s always looking at other girls and putting them up on a pedestal and saying things like, ?You don?t know how much I wish I was her?. I don?t think it?s just a teenage girl thing, although it?s probably worse when you?re a teenager because hormones, peer pressure, blah.
Of course, it?s easier said than done, and it doesn?t help that it?s very hard for a woman of average or less-than-average attractiveness to get into showbiz or the film industry. Even I, as a black male, sometimes presume that girls won?t be interested in me because of my colour, even when my friends tell me it?s silly to think that (and sometimes jokily invoke the ?big black dick? trope). But the best advice you can give is that, whenever anxiety strikes and you hear a voice in your head or something going, ?You?re never going to be good enough?, try to challenge those thoughts rationally and ask yourself if anyone even cares about these things as much as you do. They probably don?t, and if they do, they?re not the people you should be hanging around with. If someone calls you a ?slut?, it?s because they can?t think of a more creative insult. As for media, the only reason they like to get into women?s heads and encourage them to gossip about their colleagues? dress sense is so they can make money out of their insecurities by getting them to buy more make-up, perfume and shoes likely identical to the ones they have at home anyway.
