Whether or not a long distance relationship can work depends more on the couple than the distance. They're much like normal relationships in that regard.
Woud Anyone have any faith in a long distance relationship if ...
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My gf lives in Munich and I live in Odense (Denmark) we've been dating for just over a year, it has its ups and downs due to distance on top of the normal issues.
She's moving to Copenhagen in less than 2 months so the distance is now 160 km rather than 1000 km, so things should brigtehn a fair bit up.
But yeah you need a fair bit of cash for traveling.
She's moving to Copenhagen in less than 2 months so the distance is now 160 km rather than 1000 km, so things should brigtehn a fair bit up.
But yeah you need a fair bit of cash for traveling.
I would not. I've seen relationships crumble apart with just a few towns worth of distance, never mind countries.
But, every relationship is different and sometimes even the most unlikely things work out in the end.
Follow what your heart says. (If you'll excuse the horrible, overplayed sappiness of that statement.)
But, every relationship is different and sometimes even the most unlikely things work out in the end.
Follow what your heart says. (If you'll excuse the horrible, overplayed sappiness of that statement.)
Dunno.
Before I would have said that long distance relationships don't work, but I've been in one for the last six months and it seems to be going pretty well. Currently I'm living in Northern Ireland and she's at University in Lancaster.
So yeah, I'd say it might work, but my cynical side is reminding me that if I'm being very realistic about my own relationship I don't see it lasting forever, and it might be the long distance that kills it.
Before I would have said that long distance relationships don't work, but I've been in one for the last six months and it seems to be going pretty well. Currently I'm living in Northern Ireland and she's at University in Lancaster.
So yeah, I'd say it might work, but my cynical side is reminding me that if I'm being very realistic about my own relationship I don't see it lasting forever, and it might be the long distance that kills it.
One of my friends is doing it right now. Her man lives in England and she is here in the good ol' US of A. She says it sucks but he's worth it. I believe her. Don't know if I could do it though, I like sex. A lot.
Not for me, I need to physically see said person on a regular basis to even think it's a relationship, or a relationship worth keeping.
I don't mind/care if others do it, and I wish them the best and it's always nice to see it's worked out. In fact, a few Escapists are actually doing it right now.
I don't mind/care if others do it, and I wish them the best and it's always nice to see it's worked out. In fact, a few Escapists are actually doing it right now.
Currently in one. I live in the US and he lives in the UK. Been together almost 3 years and we're engaged. My last trip over he proposed to me. We may have our rocky times but every relationship has them. I believe we'll make it. Just have to stay strong and stand by eachother when things get tough.
The fish and the bird who fall in love...
Will find no place to build a home in...
It really depends on the people involved. It can work, but I guess what I should say is that "Most of the time it wouldn't."
And it depends how "long distance" you mean. Because I had a friend who lived in Albany NY and had a girlfriend in Toronto Canada. It was a couple hours away, but still "different countries"
Will find no place to build a home in...
It really depends on the people involved. It can work, but I guess what I should say is that "Most of the time it wouldn't."
And it depends how "long distance" you mean. Because I had a friend who lived in Albany NY and had a girlfriend in Toronto Canada. It was a couple hours away, but still "different countries"
Considering I've seen about umpteen relationships fall apart (even in adults not just college kids) when they had 50 miles between them. Especially the ones that START that way and have visible end to that status.
No.
No.
Dear OP, I am currently in a LDR (Long Distance Relationship) with a beautiful and amazing woman in London. We have bean dating for nearly a year and we chat on skype as constantly as possible. What I believe can be done with someone in the same house, I believe can be done with someone across the world. The most important thing to a LDR is communication. Be sure to talk about everything you want to, then think of things you wouldn't want them to know and then talk about it if you find it pertinent. Share your hopes, dreams, likes, dislikes, how you like to get ready for bed, how you like your shower water, what you like on your pizza. Certainly you don't have to do this all in one conversation but the best thing you can do is to learn as much about each other as possible and just see if you fall in love with everything about her.
As for her living in Japan, make an effort to learn a lot about her culture, learn proper etiquette from her, talk about what ceremonies and festivals she's been a part of, Japan is a rich and beautiful place and there is so much to learn and love about just the country itself. Then you want to plan to get there, in the first 6 months you need to make a plan for the first visit or be thinking about a move. Talk about who would move where and if you think visitation would be cost effective or if you can wait for each other. The most satisfying thing in a relationship is to learn that you can wait for each other. The importance of making a plan and working towards it is infinitely powerful and it will certainly strengthen the relationship. Make sure to avoid any unnecessary setbacks, Skyrim can wait if you truly find this woman worth all your time and when it comes to LDRs you really want to be thinking long term, even if you're not talking about it just yet.
As you learn about her, do what you would do with her if she were right there, assess if the things about her make her seem like a worthwhile partner, someone you can spend your life with. You can learn it slowly, or suffer a mutual burst of clarity and love at the very start. I know it may seem embarassing to talk about an LDR (mine started when I talked to my girlfriend on Omegle) but in the end, laugh about it, this is your life and so long as what you chose to do lets you get where you want in life then go for it. This relationship could be the best thing that ever happened to you, or it could leave you lonely and loveless in Jaan, but if you did truly want to go to Japan and followed my advice about falling in love with the country before moving, you're in effing Japan, that place is fantastic! Just make sure you don't sacrifice your ability to sustain yourself for her, because when love becomes dependence, you're just burdening your partner. Learn to love each other and fly together, each with strong wings, you'll learn that love is something that bridges any distance and commitment and strength of spirit will truly let you get anywhere you want to be, cynics may say what they want, but just be better than them and you'll get where you want to be, even in this economy.
I hope this post helps and here's a website for you to look into: http://www.lovingfromadistance.com/
High hopes for your blossoming relationship,
A man who found his love in a far away place
As for her living in Japan, make an effort to learn a lot about her culture, learn proper etiquette from her, talk about what ceremonies and festivals she's been a part of, Japan is a rich and beautiful place and there is so much to learn and love about just the country itself. Then you want to plan to get there, in the first 6 months you need to make a plan for the first visit or be thinking about a move. Talk about who would move where and if you think visitation would be cost effective or if you can wait for each other. The most satisfying thing in a relationship is to learn that you can wait for each other. The importance of making a plan and working towards it is infinitely powerful and it will certainly strengthen the relationship. Make sure to avoid any unnecessary setbacks, Skyrim can wait if you truly find this woman worth all your time and when it comes to LDRs you really want to be thinking long term, even if you're not talking about it just yet.
As you learn about her, do what you would do with her if she were right there, assess if the things about her make her seem like a worthwhile partner, someone you can spend your life with. You can learn it slowly, or suffer a mutual burst of clarity and love at the very start. I know it may seem embarassing to talk about an LDR (mine started when I talked to my girlfriend on Omegle) but in the end, laugh about it, this is your life and so long as what you chose to do lets you get where you want in life then go for it. This relationship could be the best thing that ever happened to you, or it could leave you lonely and loveless in Jaan, but if you did truly want to go to Japan and followed my advice about falling in love with the country before moving, you're in effing Japan, that place is fantastic! Just make sure you don't sacrifice your ability to sustain yourself for her, because when love becomes dependence, you're just burdening your partner. Learn to love each other and fly together, each with strong wings, you'll learn that love is something that bridges any distance and commitment and strength of spirit will truly let you get anywhere you want to be, cynics may say what they want, but just be better than them and you'll get where you want to be, even in this economy.
I hope this post helps and here's a website for you to look into: http://www.lovingfromadistance.com/
High hopes for your blossoming relationship,
A man who found his love in a far away place
I tried to date a gal who moved from where I lived, first to New York (Started in Arizona) then she moved to Belgium. Needless to say that relationship did not last long, although not before I wound up spending 800 bucks on a plane ticket to Belgium that I wound up not being able to get a refund for. Although one of my friends parents had a long distance relationship from Seattle to Portugal and they wound up happily married. So I guess it depends on the people involved.
That's... vague.crusador90 said:
It would depend on many factors.
The age of the participants.
Previous relationship experience of participants.
What countries they lived in. Germany and Austria? No problem. Russia and Brazil? Could be a problem.
Ability to visit - related to the above, but might be modified by other factors, such as money.
Ability to communicate frequently via phone or internet.
There are other factors too, but those are the ones that came to mind.
If you're asking if such a thing is possible - sure. Lots of people manage long distance for long periods of time. Just ask any American military spouse (that is, the spouse who isn't in the military).
Will the relationship you are thinking of work? I have no idea - I've never met that particular couple (which may or may not include yourself).
Companionship via computer or phone can't hold a candle to actual intimacy. I personally don't consider long-distance relationships to be an option for me; regardless of how much I love someone, if they're going to be inaccessibly distant, we're both better off just starting over and finding someone closer to each of us. They may be great people that I want to hold onto forever, but a lack of physicality means they lose out to whoever can provide it in the meantime. Seems kind of silly to pledge faithfulness to someone you can't even cuddle with, considering the mercurial state of all relationships and life as a whole.
I can be a friend over great distances, but not a lover.
I can be a friend over great distances, but not a lover.
Well...I've seen it work and I've seen it fail miserably.
My good friends met in the US when one of them was on a temporary work visa. They fell in love and she moved here from Norway and now they live together and have been together for 5 years.
Another good friend of mine moved from Florida to Amsterdam after falling in love with her guy. She sold all of her stuff to make enough money for the trip, so thankfully it's worked thus far.
-On the other side-
My good friend who lives in Germany met her (now ex) husband online. She loved him dearly and moved all the way to California, selling all she had to make the trip. He then grew tired of her and ended up divorcing her 3 months later.
What I'm saying is you got to be damn certain that it's what you both want. A move is really the only way to conceivably make it work, otherwise it destined to fail (imo)
My good friends met in the US when one of them was on a temporary work visa. They fell in love and she moved here from Norway and now they live together and have been together for 5 years.
Another good friend of mine moved from Florida to Amsterdam after falling in love with her guy. She sold all of her stuff to make enough money for the trip, so thankfully it's worked thus far.
-On the other side-
My good friend who lives in Germany met her (now ex) husband online. She loved him dearly and moved all the way to California, selling all she had to make the trip. He then grew tired of her and ended up divorcing her 3 months later.
What I'm saying is you got to be damn certain that it's what you both want. A move is really the only way to conceivably make it work, otherwise it destined to fail (imo)
